How to Reply to a "Thinking of You" Text

Co-authored by Lauren Sanders and Madeleine Criglow

Last Updated: May 26, 2022

When someone texts you that they're "thinking of you," it's normal to be flattered and unsure about how to reply. There are lots of reasons why someone might send this text, and how you respond really depends on your relationship to the sender and how the text made you feel. Don't worry—we've got you covered! Read on for a complete list of ways to respond to a "thinking of you" text in a variety of different situations.

1

"Thank you. Hope you’ve been well!”

If someone is reaching out to be nice, wish them well in return. A simple, kind response might be all you need to show your appreciation. Thank this person for their kindness and let them know that you hope they're doing well.
- "Aw thanks. Wishing you the best!"
- "Thanks! How are you?"

2

"You always know what I need to hear.”

Compliment this person's thoughtful nature. Sometimes, a friend just knows exactly when you need them. If you received a "thinking of you" text right when you needed it, praise them for their show of support.
- "I don't know what I'd do without you!"
- "You're so special to me."

3

"Thanks. I’m lucky to have you as a friend.”

Let them know you're grateful for their friendship. If a friend reached out to send a text like this, it likely means they're a supportive person to have in your life.^{[1]
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- "You are the best. Thanks for being my friend. 😊"
- "I'm so glad to call you my friend."

4

"Things have been tough, but your words help.”

Be honest if their words are helping you through a tough time. It's okay to admit that you've been struggling, especially if you've recently experienced a loss or other hardship in your life. This person will likely be happy to know that their message helped you in some way. That's what friends and loved ones are for!^{[2]
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- "I appreciate that. Thanks for being here for me during such a hard time.”
- "Your support means everything to me, especially right now."

5

"I needed to hear that. Wanna catch up soon?”

Show that you're happy to hear from them by asking to talk later. It's possible this person is thinking of you because they miss you or haven't seen you in a while. In that case, the perfect way to respond is to ask if they'd like to catch up.^{[3]
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- "It's so good to hear from you! Would you want to get together later this week?"
- "You've been in my thoughts, too. Can I call you this weekend?"

6

"Thanks. I promise I’m only a little bit of a mess…”

Try making light of your situation to make this person laugh. Perhaps this person knows you had a rough day and is reaching out to make sure you're okay. If you've since turned things around or started to feel better, you might try poking fun at yourself a little bit. It'll diffuse any awkwardness and make you look confident and secure in yourself.
- "That was not my finest hour. Feeling much better now!"
- "Thank you. I owe you lunch for that pep talk you gave me."
- You might save a humorous or sarcastic response for friends and family that know you well. Otherwise, you might have to deal with a potential misunderstanding.^{[4]
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7

"Only good things, right?”

Respond with something witty to show off your sense of humor. This response makes you look funny and humble. If this person sent you a casual "thinking of you" text, it's a great, lighthearted response.
- "Nothing bad, I hope..."
- "Fingers crossed they're positive thoughts.🤞"

8

"Oh yeah? Anything in particular?”

Turn up the heat with this playful response. By asking them for details, you're taking the conversation in a more flirty direction. They'll likely be happy to share what they've been thinking about.^{[5]
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- "Hmm anything specific? 😏"
- "Tell me more..."

9

"You’ve been on my mind lately, too. 😉”

Let them know the feeling is mutual if you've got romantic feelings. If someone's been thinking of you in a romantic way, they likely hope that you've been doing the same. Go ahead and put yourself out there by telling this person they've been on your mind, too.^{[6]
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- "That makes two of us."
- "Been thinking of you nonstop. 😊"

10

"I'm always thinking of you, sweetheart. 😘"

Add a sweet nickname if your partner has been thinking of you. It's special when your S.O. takes time out of their day to say something nice. Return the favor with a sweet response that will make them smile.
- "You're on my mind, too, babe!"
- "Hey you! 😚 Can't wait to see you tonight."

11

"That’s very kind of you.”

Keep your response brief if the feeling isn't mutual. It's possible the person that is thinking of you is not someone that's been on your mind. If that's the case, keep your message polite but brief. They'll likely get the hint.
- "What a nice thing to say."
- Alternatively, change the subject. You might text, "Thanks! How are you?"

12

"Sorry for my delayed response! Your message means a lot."

Fill this person in if you've been too busy to respond. If you've been going through a lot lately, it's totally understandable to take a few days to respond. Once you're ready, simply let this person know that you've been busy but appreciate their message. They'll be happy to hear from you and will almost certainly understand.
- "Sorry about my late response. Things have been hectic, but I’m grateful for your thoughts.”

Expert Q&A

Question

How do you respond to a girl's message?

Lauren Sanders
Matchmaker & Dating Coach
Lauren Sanders is a Professional Matchmaker, Dating Coach, and the Founder of Dating for the Soul. With over four years of experience, she specializes in helping singles find love. Lauren is also the author of Lipstick Faith: A Collection of Inspirational Writings and Life Lessons, You Deserve the World, Rainbows and Strawberries: 100 Devotions for the Brighter Side of Life, and Let's Go Outside Mommy. Lauren holds BS from Dillard University and a Masters from The University of North Georgia.

Lauren Sanders

Matchmaker & Dating Coach

Expert Answer

Try to send her a video of a song or a poem that reminds you of her. That is usually a great and thoughtful response!