Do you feel like something has changed in your relationship and are worried that your girlfriend doesn’t love you? All relationships go through ups and downs, so how can you tell if this is just a rough patch or something more serious? We’re here to help you figure it out with our list of signs that your girlfriend has fallen out of love. Plus, we have advice on what to do if that’s the case and tips to help you repair your relationship.

1

She stops making plans for the future with you.

  1. Does she talk about doing things together in several months or years? If she’s still invested in the relationship, she might mention future holidays and travel plans or even bring up things like getting married, buying a home, or having children. However, if her love has waned, she might not see a place for you in her future.[1] [2]
    • She might also stop reminiscing about the past and bringing up all the good times you’ve had together.[3]
    • Remind her of your best moments as a couple. If she thinks about why you two fell in love and how much fun you've had in the past, it could change her perspective.
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She flirts with other people.

  1. Does she cross boundaries you’ve agreed on? If she’s flirting with one person or multiple people, she may have fallen out of love with you. It’s a major cause for concern if she’s flirting with someone specific on a regular basis. Signs that she’s interested in someone else include dressing differently when she’s going to see them, texting them frequently and talking about personal things, or liking and commenting on many of their social media posts.[4]
    • Remember that it’s normal and healthy to have friendships with people outside of your relationship. Just because she talks to or spends time with someone else doesn’t automatically mean she’s flirting with or interested in them.
    • Be intentional about flirting with your girlfriend. If you add the spark back into your own relationship, she might be less inclined to seek it out elsewhere.
3

She criticizes you.

  1. Does she frequently blame you or point out your flaws? Your girlfriend may be more critical than she used to be if she’s focused on the negatives about you or your relationship. If everything seems to be your fault and every little thing you do annoys her, your relationship could be in trouble. When someone loses that respect and kindness for their partner, it’s a sign they’re not feeling the love like they used to.[5]
    • If you’re the only one apologizing and she never takes responsibility for any issues that come up, you’re dealing with a one-sided relationship.[6]
    • Point out the things you like about her or things she does well. When she sees you focusing on her positive qualities, it might remind her to do the same for you.
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4

She seems bored with you or the relationship.

  1. Do you have a gut feeling that she just isn’t happy with the relationship? If you sense some distance between the two of you or feel that she’s drifting away, she might be falling out of love.[7] She may not be putting in much effort or giving you and your relationship the same attention she used to.[8]
    • You might notice that your connection just doesn’t feel deep and meaningful.[9]
    • Try spicing things up! Surprise her with an adventure or create a romantic night at home.
6

She avoids physical contact and intimacy with you.

  1. Have you stopped being affectionate with each other? It’s normal to go through “dry spells” in a long-term relationship. But if she doesn’t seem interested in anything from holding hands to kissing to having sex, your relationship is in trouble.[12] Intimacy helps bring you together and sustain your connection, so its absence is a strong indicator that her feelings have changed.[13]
    • Offer her a massage or ask her to snuggle up with you for a movie night. A little connection can go a long way.
    • Remember that you should never pressure her to be intimate with you. If she doesn’t want to touch you or have you touch her, respect that.
7

She doesn’t talk to you very much.

8

She doesn’t care about you or your feelings.

  1. Does she seem disinterested in you? She might not prioritize you or take the time to listen to how you’re feeling. People in love want to share their ups and downs with their partner, and be there for their partner’s triumphs and trials. If she’s not connecting with and supporting you like she used to, her feelings about you might have changed.[16]
    • Take the time to listen to her problems and feelings when she shares them. Seeing how thoughtful and empathetic you are might just remind her to be there for you in the same way.
9

She badmouths you to other people.

11

She wants to take a break or break up.

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What to Do If She Doesn’t Love You

  1. You have two options here—try to fix things or move on. If you want to stay together, ask your girlfriend to sit down and have a conversation about your relationship. Tell her how you’re feeling and what you’ve noticed, then let her share what she’s feeling and thinking.[21] Identify the problems you’re facing as a couple and work together to resolve them. It can take some time and effort, but if you’re both dedicated to fixing things, you can make it work.
    • If either of you doesn’t want to stay together, it’s time to end the relationship. We know this hurts, but we also know that things will get better in time. Make a clean break by moving out if you share a living space, blocking her on your phone and social media, and going no contact. Pour your energy into your job, spending time with people you care about, and doing things that make you happy. You’ll get through this and be better for it!

About This Article

John Keegan
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This article was co-authored by John Keegan and by wikiHow staff writer, Sophia Latorre. John Keegan is a dating coach and motivational speaker based in New York City. He runs The Awakened Lifestyle, where he uses his expertise in dating, attraction, and social dynamics to help people find love. He teaches and holds dating workshops internationally, from Los Angeles to London and from Rio de Janeiro to Prague. His work has been featured in the New York Times, Humans of New York, and Men's Health. This article has been viewed 195,788 times.
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