How to Date a Police Officer

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Last Updated: February 8, 2023 References

If you want to date a police officer, you must understand and respect the dangers of the job and the unconventional work schedule. You can meet single police officers through online dating websites, at local cafés and bars, or through your neighborhood watch program. To attract police officers, it is helpful to have a clean record, to care about your health, and to offer support and understanding. Be yourself, understand the job, and you may find the officer of your dreams!

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Finding Single Police Officers

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Look for police officer dating sites if you want to find matches online. Go online, and search for “Police dating sites.” To make an account, enter your zip code, birthday, and email address. Browse different profiles, and send a message when you find officers that strike your interest.^{[1]
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- Many sites offer the option to browse profiles for free, but you must have an account to connect with other officers.
- When you send a message you can say something like, “Hello there! I just found your profile, and I would love to get to know you better.”
- Some popular police officer dating sites include https://www.meetsinglepoliceofficers.com/, https://www.uniformdating.com/policeofficer.htm, https://www.policeflirt.com/, and http://policefriendsdate.com.
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Visit cafés and bars near a local station to meet an officer in person. Oftentimes, police officers visit shops and businesses nearby their station. Visit these establishments so you become a regular, and keep an eye out for officers that come in frequently. Over time, exchange conversation with the officers and get to know them.
- They may spend time there to get a cup of coffee before their shift or to grab a beer when their shift is over.
- When you see them, you can break the ice by saying “Hello, how are you?” or “I hope your day is going well.”
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Join your neighborhood watch program to get to know local officers. Keep an eye on your neighborhood and report and suspicious activity to the police. In addition, attend local community meetings with your neighbors and police officers. Exchange conversation with the officers at this meetings so they get to know you. Over time, talk with them more and more until the relationship becomes friendly.^{[2]
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- You can search online or contact your local government authorities to find a neighborhood watch program.
- Look for an opportunity to spend time one-on-one with an officer. You can ask them to get a drink or meal with you to discuss additional ways to help your neighborhood.
- While this is one way to get to know officers, you want to have the right intentions when you join the neighborhood watch. Make sure you also intend on keeping the neighborhood safe, or the officer may pick up on your inauthenticity.

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Getting a Date

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Chat with an officer to get to know them better. Once you meet an officer, you can build relations by exchanging information about your lives. Look for opportunities to tell them interesting information about you, such as your hobbies or career. Ask them questions about themselves to stimulate conversation. Do this over time, and you can see if you are interested in asking them out.
- If you meet an officer online, you can jump right in and ask them questions about their life and interests, such as their favorite food and where they grew up.
- If you meet them at a bar, coffee shop, or neighborhood watch meeting, ask them how their day is going, and check in each time you see them to build a dialogue.
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Exchange phone numbers. If you're interested in the officer, offer your phone number to them so you can keep in touch. You can have them add it to their personal cell phone, or write it down on a scrap piece of paper or napkin.
- Alternatively, ask them for their phone number. You can pull out your cell phone to suggest you want to add their contact, for example.
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Be flirtatious with the police officer once you get to know each other. Flirting is an art in and of itself, but to give off hints you can make eye contact and smile. Offer the officer compliments, and brush against their shoulder or arm. Act happy and cheerful throughout your interactions.^{[3]
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- Ladies can also show off their neck or wear red lipstick for flirtatious touches.
- Men can mimic the body language of female officers to get their interest.
- Keep your flirting subtle at first to avoid seeming desperate or like you are trying too hard.
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Invite the officer to go on a date when the time feels right. When you and the officer have exchanged some conversation and broken the ice with some flirting, offer to meet up for a drink or a meal. You can simply suggest the idea by asking what they are doing this weekend, or pitch your date by explaining how it will benefit them.^{[4]
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- For example, if you are talking to someone online and you've both hinted at liking each other, you can say something like, "So, I'm thinking about trying this new restaurant this weekend. Want to try it with me?"
- Or, try after you've met an officer at a couple neighborhood watch events, say something like, "These meetings have been very productive. Would you like to get coffee to discuss other ways to help the community?"

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Keeping an Officer Interested

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Follow the law and maintain a clean record. Cops are programmed to pay attention to every detail, and this also applies to their love interests. To keep the attention of a police officer, avoid committing civilian and traffic crimes, such as speeding, running a red light, or shoplifting. If you have a lengthy record full of traffic violations or crime, you likely will not attract a cop.^{[5]
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- If you are unsure of what is on your record, search online to find free background checks. You can easily run your information and see what information your cop crush can find.
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Show you care about your health by working out and eating healthy. If you want to attract an officer, demonstrate your love for fitness and health. You should work out at least 3 times a week for about 30 - 90 minutes, if you can. Limit your consumption of sugar, processed foods, and junk food. Eat 5-9 servings of fruits and vegetables on average, and drink 8 glasses of water each day.^{[6]
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- Police officers must complete particular fitness evaluations to earn their positions, and they must be in good shape to act as a cop.
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Be attentive and interested in the work of a police officer. To charm an officer, ask them questions about why they became a police officer and what they like and dislike about their work. Showing genuine interest in their stressful, unconventional career will likely help the officer trust you and further your connection.
- For example, say something like, "So Jack, why did you want to be a cop?"
- When you chat, keep consistent eye contact and smile at them so they know you are engaged in the conversation.
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Listen carefully and offer support when discussing their work. It is common for the stress of an officer's duty to follow them home. In these instances, the best way to get the officer to like you is to show them your support. When the officer mentions reasons they are distressed, listen to all the details they give you, and respond with compassionate comments.^{[7]
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- For example, say something like, “I'm so sorry you had to deal with that today. I am proud you were there to help. Can I get you anything?” This shows them you are appreciative of their sacrifices and there to help take away their burden.
- There are some instances where the officer will not be able to give you much details, so they don't break any confidentiality agreements. Respect this and be patient with the details they do offer.

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Understanding the Territory

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Be accommodating of inconvenient and odd schedules. Most officers work all different shifts, and their schedules often change each week or month. It is helpful to be comfortable with alone time, because sadly they will not always be available when you would like them to be. Being understanding and flexible helps accommodate the unconventional schedule of police officers.^{[8]
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- For example, they may be working while you are sleeping, and they may be required to work on holidays.
- Police officers work 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, and during all major holidays.
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Come up with unusual and creative date ideas. Police officers work such odd hours, so be prepared to spend time together during unusual times of the day. Come up with creative ways to spend time together based on their schedule. This will also show your officer that you understand the nature of their work and still are interested in dating them.^{[9]
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- For example, if your officer works a night shift, you can meet for breakfast at the end of their shift and before you go into work for the day.
- Other ideas include going to a matinee movie, celebrating holidays and anniversaries when you have the time, and having a relaxing spa day at home.
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Develop your own hobbies and friendships to gain independence. You should be comfortable with alone time when you date an officer. To do this, take up your own hobbies such as joining a book club, working out regularly, or gardening. In addition, you should have your own network of friends to spend time with when you are lonely or need support.^{[10]
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- You can establish weekly Taco Tuesday nights with your friends, for example.
- You can also try hobbies like kickboxing, hiking, or knitting.
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Accept the dangers of their job and distract yourself when you worry. As part of their job, cops have to deal with things like dangerous people, guns, knives, and bombs. Because of this, you likely will worry about them from time to time. To avoid letting your worries get the best of you, spend time with friends, and family, or work on one of your hobbies.^{[11]
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- Unfortunately, dwelling on the negative will not do anything to keep your partner safe. Instead, try to be positive and optimistic at all times.
- If you find yourself worrying, you can call a friend or read a book to distract you.
- Occupying your thoughts with other activities prevents you from worrying too much because you are busy with other things.