How to Attract Love

Co-authored by Jessica Villegas and Madeleine Flamiano

Last Updated: October 27, 2022 References

Are you ready to attract love right away? You might wish to start a promising new relationship or invite your soulmate into your life. Here, we'll help you with both of those magical possibilities. We'll also share simple but powerful methods to manifest love and draw in someone who will worship you. Read on to write your own love story, even in your sleep!

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Visualize your ideal soulmate.

Concentrate on your future lover to draw this person into your life. Think about how this person would look and how they'd carry themselves. If you get specific with your visualization exercise, then you'll have clarity about who your soulmate will be and recognize them when you see them.^{[1]
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- Picture someone you find incredibly attractive.
- Think about the aura—like warmth or kindness—they’ll have.
- Imagine habits or traits you’d adore, like generosity.
- Consider values you’re seeking, like a thirst for justice.
- Focus on how you’d feel around them—maybe you’ll feel valued.
- Reflect on signs of compatibility, like similar interests.

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Say affirmations to accept love into your life.

A positive affirmation tells the universe you're ready for romance. Say affirmations—empowering comments—out loud, concentrate on them, or write them in your journal. Focus on personality traits you'd love a future partner to notice as well as the kind of love you hope to have:^{[2]
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- Say an affirmation about yourself to align with someone with similar traits: "I am full of confidence, kindness, and drive."
- State the type of support you deserve: "I am worthy of a best friend and lover who always has my back."
- Focus on how love would feel like: "This love makes me feel happy and whole."

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Love yourself to attract your “vibrational match.”

Celebrate yourself to find someone who also wants to worship you. Prioritize self-care and you'll increase your chances of running into your soulmate. For example, you might meet them in the gym after you work out. When you radiate confidence and self-esteem, you'll attract someone who adores those qualities.^{[3]
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- You'll both gravitate toward each other because your spiritual vibrations will be healthy and pure.

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Watch romantic movies for inspiration.

These films will enter your subconscious and open your heart to love. Visuals are incredibly important tools for shaping your mind and emotions. To get yourself in a sentimental mood and to fantasize about your own personal "fairy tale," lose yourself in movies that feature beautiful love stories.^{[4]
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- Take notes while you stream your favorite dramas or rom-coms. Write an observation like, "I love how he took the initiative to introduce himself and ask her out on a real date."
- If you're at the theater, relax and enjoy the story line, dialogue, and imagery of a romantic movie. These details may influence your decisions. For instance, you may be inspired to flirt with a stranger.

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Journal about relationships that uplift you.

Practice appreciation for the love others share and use it as inspiration. For a source of comfort, look at everyday moments and genuine displays of affection. Pay attention to couples that make you smile and melt your heart. Reflect on their dynamic and think about how you might want one like it.^{[5]
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- "I really look up to the bond that Kelly and Diane have. They always support and encourage each other."
- "Seeing Leo worship Starr makes me realize that I want to be cherished and given lots of praise."

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Make a vision board for your love life.

Admire it to see the amazing relationship that's in store for you. Create a vision board on your computer—for example, make a Pinterest board—or get crafty with magazine cut-outs. Let your imagination run wild. No matter how fantastical your vision board is, it'll help make your dreams a reality by reinforcing what you want.^{[6]
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- Decorate your board with inspiring quotes or write your affirmations on it.
- Include romantic pictures—like ones that show couples kissing or embracing—or images of people that look like your ideal soulmate.
- Add visuals that instantly make you think about love. For example, maybe you associate fire and rubies with passion.
- Enhance your vision board with scenes of the house you'll share with your partner or the vacations—like a trip to Bali—you'll enjoy with them.

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Use “crystal magic” to manifest love.

Infuse a crystal with your intentions and it'll work all day long. Activate it by setting a special intention and then placing it in a specific spot. For example, put a rose quartz sphere—which symbolizes endless love—on your nightstand so it can attract love all day, including while you sleep.^{[7]
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- Choose multiple crystals to draw in different kinds of love at once. For instance, blue lapis promotes clear communication, while bloodstone can invite in a strong partner who nurtures you.^{[8]
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- Wear a crystal necklace so it's close to your heart. It will channel your loving energy to attract a partner.^{[9]
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Practice a "soulmate meditation" to call in your partner.

Guided meditation leads you to your ideal love life. Repeat a mantra—or meaningful statement—daily for a specific period of time, like two weeks. State an intention like, "I will cross paths with the person I’m destined to be with." Your clarity will enhance your chance of finding exactly who you want to be with.^{[10]
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- A "soulmate meditation" helps you visualize the relationship that's best for you.
- You'll open your heart and connect energetically to your soulmate.
- Daily dedication to this practice will increase your ability to manifest love.

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Create a "manifesting love" soundtrack.

This playlist will offer upbeat subliminal messages to uplift you. Use a music streaming platform, like Spotify, to put together a playlist of romantic songs. For even better results, turn it on while you meditate or think about your future partner.^{[11]
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- When you repeat inspiring lyrics in your head, you'll focus on the type of love you want to bring in.
- Choose romantic music that makes you smile—it will promote positive feelings and raise your vibrations. That way, you'll give off a happy and alluring aura.

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Ask the universe for a dream about your soulmate.

Reach out for a sign so you'll feel connected to your future partner. Soulmates can send each other psychic messages, even before they've physically met each other. When you send a wish out to the universe, you may experience a "soulmate dream," the phenomenon of communicating with your future partner in your sleep.^{[12]
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- If you see your soulmate in a dream, then the universe is telling you that you're likely to encounter the person you fantasize about.
- If you hear your soulmate's voice in a dream, they may be sending you a message to reassure you they exist.
- Pay attention to symbols that remind you of your ideal partner. For example, a dream about a fox might represent the clever lover you're looking for.

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Write a message to your soulmate.

Send your intention for love out into the universe with this sweet letter. Communicate with your soulmate by journaling all your thoughts. When you open up your heart and let your feelings pour through you, your future lover is highly likely to be more attuned to your desires and meet your needs when you cross paths.^{[13]
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- Tell them what you'll offer: "I look forward to providing all my warmth and affection."
- Ask for their support: "I hope to receive encouragement and kindness from you. That would mean the world to me."
- Share your vision for the future: "I believe we’ll travel and change the world together."

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Make your home a sanctuary for love.

Create space to welcome the special person who will enter your world. Prepare your home for your soulmate's arrival. Put a lot of intention into how you can make them more comfortable. Also feel free to be spontaneous and pick them up something special on a whim. In the future, your partner will appreciate all the care you put into them.^{[14]
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- Leave a drawer empty for their clothes.
- Create a spot in your pantry for their favorite snacks.
- Choose a cute mug for the coffee or tea you'll brew for them.
- Buy a signature scent for them and leave it on your bathroom counter.
- Stock up on enticing outfits for future date nights.
- Pick up a picture frame in honor of your first couple photo.

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Release old attachments that block love.

Let go of past relationships or patterns that don't serve you. To be fully present and emotionally available for your future soulmate, make a pact to move on from exes or negative thought patterns. After you've put old flames and anxieties in the past, you'll be several steps closer to the lover who's destined for you.^{[15]
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- Write a letter to your ex as a way to vent. State what you're moving past: "I will no longer pine over you." Then, tear up or burn your note to "cleanse" leftover energy from your former connection.
- List patterns you want to break as well as healthy replacements for them. For example: "I won't fear rejection. Instead, I'll expect unconditional love."

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Approach dates with enthusiasm and an open mind.

Put optimism out into the world so you attract that same energy. When you keep your head up high and your heart open, you'll begin the first chapter of an incredibly rewarding romance. After all, cheerfulness is one of the most magical ingredients for a life-long partnership.^{[16]
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- If polite and attractive people ask you out, accept their invitations.
- When you feel bold, strike up a conversation with anyone you're drawn to.
- Let friends and family set you up with people they think are perfect for you.
- Join dating apps and create profiles with exciting bios and your best photos.
- Thank the universe each time you get the chance to meet your potential soulmate.

Expert Q&A

Question

How can I attract love naturally?

Jessica Villegas
Certified Academic Life Coach
Jessica Villegas is a Certified Academic Life Coach and the Founder of Hi-Lite Coaching + Consulting in Winter Garden, Florida. Jessica has over 20 years of leadership experience, and she and her team serve teens and young adults through private coaching, group coaching, workshops, and speaking engagements. She uses workbook exercises, coaching planners, and regular check-ins to support young adults in achieving their academic and personal goals. Jessica received her Bachelor’s in Organizational Communications and Leadership Studies from the University of Central Florida and her Professional Coaching certification through Coach Training EDU, an ICF Accredited Institution, as an Academic Life Coach.

Jessica Villegas

Certified Academic Life Coach

Expert Answer

Well, you have to BE LOVE. You have to show love in all that you do. Just showing love and kindness in all that you do will help you to attract the same into your life, showing up as the person that you want to attract.