Asking for a second date can be still nerve-wracking. If you conquered those jitters the first time, you should be able to ask for a second date. To make things easier, you might try asking for a date over text. It’s a fun way to ask for and plan the next date without as much pressure as talking in person.[1] We’re here to help you with a list of ways to ask for a second date by text.

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“Why don't we go see that new movie this weekend?”

  1. The "why not" method is a good way to ask for a second date. Essentially you’re pitching them an idea for a date and asking for reasons not to go. It can be pretty difficult to do on the spot, so it might be a good way to score a yes. It might help if you ask about something they suggested.[5]
    • “Why don’t we go to that restaurant you told me about?”
    • “Why don’t we head to that place with the great view you wanted to check out?”
    • Be careful with this one if your first date didn’t go so well. It might also be seen as coming on a bit too strong if you’re assuming the answer will be yes.
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“Whoever wins gets to choose where we go on our next date.”

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“I bet you can’t make me laugh that hard again.”

  1. Get them in the mood for a second date by reminiscing about the first. Tell them you couldn’t keep your eyes off them the entire time. Open with that funny tidbit about laughing at their joke so hard you squirted soda out your nose. It’s also a good way to hint at a second date without asking directly, and getting them in a good mood means you’re more likely to get a yes.[8]
    • If your first date didn’t go as well as you planned, humor is a good way to show you’re still interested. Get them laughing about the first date after all, and you might be on your way to a second date.
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“I'm gonna go to the beach this weekend, wanna join?”

  1. Putting more attention on what you’ll be doing will make things easier. Going with something they suggested shows you were interested in some of the same things and that you were listening on your first date This also gives them the space to suggest other ideas. Like going to the movie and then out for ice cream afterward.[9]
    • If they say no, don’t be discouraged. Instead, follow up asking them if there’s something else they’d rather do. If they’ve already seen the movie and don’t feel like joining you, ask if they’d want to meet somewhere for a quick bite to discuss what you both thought.
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“I bet you can’t guess where we’re going on our next date.”

  1. A surprise can go a long way when asking for a second date over text. Escape rooms and scavenger hunts can be great for mixing things up and trying something new. Their personalities will shine through, and you’ll get to see how clever they are.[15]
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    It's okay to use emojis here and there when texting. Try not to overuse them, as that'll come off as too eager. But a little bit of emoji use will show them that you're lighthearted and fun. You should also always try to move the conversation forward as you're texting. You don't want to stick to one topic for too long, as this can become boring for the other person. Finally, don't be afraid to send a photo of somewhere that you're located that reminds you of the person for whatever reason, or say a song just came on and reminded you of the person. If you show that interest and common ground and it'll make the other person excited as well.

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This article was co-authored by Suzanna Mathews. Suzanna Mathews is a Dating and Relationship Coach and the Founder of The Date Maven. With over a decade of experience, she specializes in creating mindset tools, social strategies, and digital strategies that help her clients elevate dating and deepen connections. Suzanna holds a BA in Communications from Bethel College, North Newton, and an MA in Theater and Dramatic Arts from Wichita State University. This article has been viewed 26,298 times.
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