How to Tell if a Girl Likes You on Bumble

Co-authored by Cher Gopman

Last Updated: August 25, 2021 References

Gone are the days of going to bars, single’s events, or even speed dating—it’s all about dating apps now. Founded by Whitney Wolfe, an executive at Tinder, Bumble seeks to be more female-friendly by only allowing the woman to send the first message, thus cutting down on frivolous or inappropriate messages from men. If you’re trying to figure out if a girl on Bumble likes you or not, there are plenty of ways you can tell, and we’ve put together a handy list to help you out.

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Matching with her

If she matched with you, she likes what she sees. Bumble works similarly to Tinder and other dating apps—you swipe right on photos of people you like and left on photos you don’t. If 2 people both swipe right, then it means they’re both interested and they’re matched together. So if she matched with you, it means she’s interested enough to connect with you!.^{[1]
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- On Bumble, once a match is made, she has 24 hours to message you. If she doesn’t, then the match expires.

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Showing up in your queue

Girls who liked your profile tend to show up first in your match queue. While you’re searching through photos and swiping left or right, she’s actually doing the same thing. If she’s swiped right on your photo (meaning she’s interested), then she’ll appear toward the top of your feed. If you swipe right on her as well, then it’s a match!^{[2]
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Starting the conversation

The girl has to message the guy first on Bumble. Unlike other dating apps, Bumble is designed to be more friendly for women (and cut back on unsolicited messages and pics from random guys). That means once a match is made, the girl has to message the guy within 24 hours. So if she messages you after you match, it means she’s interested in talking to you.^{[3]
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- Bumble isn’t only for straight people, though! If 2 people are of the same sex, then either person can start the conversation.

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Giving you her name

If she trusts you with her full name, it’s a good sign. Users on dating apps create profiles that include a few basic bits of info about themselves, but the profiles don’t require you to include your full (or even real) name. If a conversation with a girl you matched with is going well, she may trust you with her full name. It’s a great sign that she likes you.^{[4]
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- Having someone’s full name means you can also look them up on other social media like Facebook and Instagram.

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Asking lots of questions about you

If she likes you, she’ll want to get to know more about you. Initiating a conversation can sometimes be awkward, but once the ball gets rolling, you may find it’s easy to chat with her, especially if she keeps the conversation going.^{[5]
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Cher Gopman
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Expert Interview. 17 May 2019.} Ask her questions about herself to learn more about her and if she asks you questions about yourself, it’s a sign that she’s into you and wants to get to know who you are.^{[6]
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Messaging on a regular basis

If you’re texting more than 3 days in a row she may really like you. Matches that aren’t really going anywhere can often fizzle out on their own. But if she keeps messaging you and you talk to her for multiple days in a row, it means she likes talking to you.^{[7]
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Responding to you quickly

If she’s fast with the replies, it means she likes talking to you. Getting left on read, meaning she isn’t responding to your messages, is a pretty clear signal that she may not be interested. But if she’s lightning-quick with her responses, it means she’s actively communicating with you and likes talking to you.^{[8]
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- Keep in mind that some people may not check the app as often as you. She also may be busy at work or school.

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Using lots of flirty emojis

Kisses, winks, and heart eyes could mean she’s into you. Lots of people use emojis in everyday conversation. Don’t read too much into innocent emojis like smiley faces.^{[9]
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Cher Gopman
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Expert Interview. 17 May 2019.} But if she’s using emojis to blow you kisses or send you hearts, it could mean that she likes you.^{[10]
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Communicating outside of the app

Texting and calling outside of the Bumble app is a good sign. Once you both really start to get to know each other, and after maybe you’ve had a date or two, you may want to start communicating outside of the Bumble messaging. Try giving her your number and adding her on social media. If she’s okay with it, it means she trusts you and may really like you.^{[11]
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- You can text, call, or even use social media apps like Facebook Messenger to talk to each other.

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Accepting your invitation for a date

If she wants to meet up, she probably likes you. If the conversation has been going well and she seems to be interested, try confirming it with a casual date. When the time seems right, ask her if she’d like to get together sometime. If she says yes, it could mean she’s really into you.^{[12]
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- For instance, try something simple like, “Hey, do you want to grab a coffee/drink/whatever sometime?”

Expert Q&A

Question

What does it mean if she's flirty sometimes and cold at other times?

Cher Gopman
Dating Coach
Cher Gopman is the Founder of NYC Wingwoman LLC, a date coaching service based in New York City. 'NYC Wingwoman' offers matchmaking, wingwoman services, 1-on-1 Coaching, and intensive weekend bootcamps. Cher is a Certified Life Coach, a former psychiatric nurse, and her work has been featured on Inside Edition, Fox, ABC, VH1, and The New York Post.

Cher Gopman

Dating Coach

Expert Answer

If she's been mostly flirty, it may just be that she isn't putting a lot of thought into how she's responding. People often don't put a ton of effort into their responses on these apps because they aren't talking to someone right in front of them, so the replies can come off as kind of stale. If the conversation keeps going, don't worry about it too much!
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What can I do to pique her interest when I'm flirting?

Cher Gopman
Dating Coach
Cher Gopman is the Founder of NYC Wingwoman LLC, a date coaching service based in New York City. 'NYC Wingwoman' offers matchmaking, wingwoman services, 1-on-1 Coaching, and intensive weekend bootcamps. Cher is a Certified Life Coach, a former psychiatric nurse, and her work has been featured on Inside Edition, Fox, ABC, VH1, and The New York Post.

Cher Gopman

Dating Coach

Expert Answer

It helps to establish some mutual interest early on so that you have that foundation. Beyond that, just try to be exciting and fun. Keep things interesting and play off of her energy.
Question

Is it okay to use flirty emojis?

Cher Gopman
Dating Coach
Cher Gopman is the Founder of NYC Wingwoman LLC, a date coaching service based in New York City. 'NYC Wingwoman' offers matchmaking, wingwoman services, 1-on-1 Coaching, and intensive weekend bootcamps. Cher is a Certified Life Coach, a former psychiatric nurse, and her work has been featured on Inside Edition, Fox, ABC, VH1, and The New York Post.

Cher Gopman

Dating Coach

Expert Answer

Totally, but you don't want to overdo it at first. Using too many emojis can make you come off as a little over-eager.

Warnings

Look for a checkmark on her profile to confirm that her account has been verified by Bumble and to make sure that she isn’t a bot or a catfish.^{[13]
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