As long as you’re safe about it, meeting someone online can be a great way to start a new relationship. However, it’s not always easy to tell if someone likes you online. That being said, there are certain signs you can watch for that are a pretty good indication of whether or not your digital love interest is into you. We’ve compiled some of the best ones into this listicle. The next time you’re chatting, pay close attention to your interactions!

Things You Should Know

  • Look for classic online flirting techniques like lighthearted emojis, jokes, and compliments.
  • If they’re really interested in getting to know you, they’ll probably reply quickly and initiate the conversation often.
  • Notice if they talk about doing things together in real life—that’s a definite sign they’re interested!
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They initiate conversation.

  1. You’re on their mind if they reach out first. If the other person initiates your chats as often as or more than you do, there’s a good chance they like you! If you seem to be the one who always starts the conversation, you might be more into them than they are into you.[2]
    • It’s an especially good sign if they send you a “good morning” text to start the day! That means you’re the first thing they think about in the day.
    • If you’re usually the one who texts first, you can try testing the person by not messaging them when you usually do and see if they text you.
5

They give you compliments.

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They’re interested in getting to know you.

  1. Pay attention to the questions the person asks you. If they ask you lots of questions about yourself and let you talk about yourself often, it’s a good sign. When someone genuinely likes you, they want to find out all about you to help them decide if you might really be a good match.[6] [7]
    • For example, they might be asking about your pet peeves, your favorite foods, and your hobbies.
    • When you’re talking online with someone you’ve never met, be careful and never give them any personal information about where you live or anything else that’s private.[8]
7

They show they care about you.

  1. Do they ask how you’re doing or feeling regularly? If you’re having a bad day or experiencing some kind of problem, they should show genuine concern and caring for you. When someone is into you, a natural caring and protective instinct kicks in.[9]
    • Early on in your online interactions, simple messages like “How are you?” and “How was your day?” can show that the person cares about you.
    • As you get to know each other, they might start asking about specific things going on in your life. For example, they might say something like “Hey, how did your meeting go today?” or “How was your test?”
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They talk about doing things with you in real life.

  1. Count it as a win when someone starts planning real life activities with you. That’s a definite sign that they’re interested enough in you to want to hang out in person. These types of messages make it pretty clear that they have a desire to take your online relationship offline and to the next level![13] [14]
    • For example, watch for messages like “We’d have so much fun if I was there right now!” or “It’s so nice out, I wish we could go for a walk together right now.”
    • It's really flattering to have someone interested in meeting you in real life, but pay attention to red flags—if your instincts are telling you that something is off, don't meet them. Also, even if everything seems fine, it's a good idea to meet in a public place instead of having them pick you up at your home or work.[15]
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About This Article

Joshua Pompey
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This article was co-authored by Joshua Pompey. Joshua Pompey is a Relationship Expert with over 10 years of helping people navigate the online dating world. Joshua has run his own relationship consulting business since 2009 at a success rate of over 99%. His work has been featured in CNBC, Good Morning America, Wired, and Refinery29 and he has been referred to as the best online dater in the world. This article has been viewed 169,861 times.
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