How to Impress a Girl on WhatsApp

Co-authored by Stefanie Safran and Nicole Levine, MFA

Last Updated: July 23, 2022 References

Be genuine, confident, and courteous, and you’re bound to make a good impression on any girl you chat with on WhatsApp. But what can you say to a girl on WhatsApp hat will really impress her? The key is to start a great conversation and keep it going! This wikiHow guide will help you impress your Snapchat crush, from choosing the right topics to chat about to keeping the conversation interesting and alive.

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Setting up a Good Profile

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Choose a good display picture. Choosing a great display picture (called DP in WhatsAPP slang) is the first step to impressing a girl on WhatsApp. Use your best selfie, such as a photo of yourself doing something exciting or one from an interesting place you visited.
- For example, if you love to play the guitar, use a picture of yourself jamming for your DP. When in doubt, just show off your pearly whites and use a selfie head shot with your best smile.
- If you don’t want to use a photo of yourself, you could set your DP to your favorite cartoon character, athlete, or a work of art.
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Create an interesting status. Take a minute to think about how you want to represent yourself with your status. You can add photos, videos, and GIFs, as well as custom text. If using text, add a favorite song lyric, movie, or television quote, or just make a quick observation about your day.
- If you know you and a particular girl both love a song or movie, using a quote in your status could spur a conversation.
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Use text formatting in your profile and messages. A WhatsApp profile is pretty basic and, unlike Facebook's extensive options, only includes your DP, status, availability, and contact info. However, you can show off what a WhatsApp pro you are by using hacks, such as text formatting.
- You can also go to privacy settings and hide your availability, but that might make it less likely that the girl you want to impress will contact you.

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Breaking the Ice

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Check out her social media to learn about her interests. Nowadays, part of getting to know someone often involves checking out their social media profiles. Browse the social media profiles of the girl you want to impress so you can learn a bit about her likes and dislikes. Getting to know her interests will help you start and maintain a conversation with her.^{[1]
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- For example, you could say, “I noticed you’re into origami - maybe you could teach me to fold a crane some time.”
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Try not to get stressed about messaging her. Breaking the ice can be stressful, but try to relax and don’t overthink it. The first time you message her, just say hello and ask a question to get things going.^{[2]
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- Remember that if she doesn't reply right away she might just be busy. Even if she doesn't respond at all, it's not the end of the world.
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Start by asking her how she's doing. The first time you message her, start by saying something like “Hey, how’s it going?” You could also ask what she’s up to or how her day has been.
- Starting a conversation by asking her a question can make it more likely she'll say something in response.
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Make a comment about something you have in common. You could also start a conversation by saying something about your day. It's best if you make a comment about something she'll find relevant, like something you both experienced.
- For example, if you go to school together, you could say something about class, like “I don’t know about you, but I thought that math class would never end!”

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Having Interesting Conversations

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Try to be natural and confident. Usually, the best way to impress someone is by not trying too hard. Just be yourself - she’ll probably be able to tell if you’re trying to put on an act. While it’s normal to be nervous, just try to have fun when you talk to her.^{[3]
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Compliment her. If you really want to impress her, give her a compliment that shows that you pay attention to her.^{[4]
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- For example, if you saw her earlier that day, you could say, “I really like how you wore your hair today,” or “You made such a great point in history class - you’re definitely one of the smartest people I know!”
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Ask her questions instead of talking about yourself. Who likes chatting with people who only talk about themselves? Impress her by showing that you’d like to get to know her better.^{[5]
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- You could ask about her hobbies, her favorite places to be, if she has siblings, or what songs and bands she couldn’t go without.
- Try to respond to her answer instead of asking one question after another as if you were interrogating her. For instance, if she said she loves the beach, you could say, “Me too, but only the ocean. No lakes for me!”
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Bring the conversation to a deeper level. Starting a deeper conversation will show her that you really care about understanding who she is as a person. After some small talk, or after you’ve had a few superficial conversations, try to find a topic that’s close to her heart.^{[7]
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- You could ask questions about her goals, passions, and dreams, like “What are three things you want to accomplish in life?” Try asking about the qualities she looks for or admires in a person, about her favorite childhood memory, or what the most important thing in the world is to her.
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Don’t bombard her with tons of messages. Have patience and give her time to respond before sending another message. In addition, most people prefer one longer message instead of a bunch of messages with just a couple words ^{[8]
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- Keep the memes to a minimum, too. It’s one thing to send a funny GIF that relates to your conversation, but don’t spam her with tons of random stuff.^{[9]
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Being Kind and Considerate

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Ask if it’s a good time to chat when you message her. Show her that you care about her time and that, while you want to talk to her, you don’t want to bother her. Make sure that she’s not getting work done, hanging out with friends, or otherwise occupied.^{[10]
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- Before you message her, check her status to make sure it doesn’t say that she’s busy.
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Show genuine interest in getting to know her. If you really like her and want to impress her, you shouldn’t have to pretend to enjoy talking to her. Sincerity goes a long way, and you’ll have a much easier time maintaining a good conversation if you actually want to get to know her.^{[11]
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- Thoughtful questions, relevant responses to her answers, and specific compliments will help let her know you’re sincere.
- For example, if she tells you that she's stressed about having a ton of studying to do, don't change the subject or talk about how much you have on your plate. Instead, say something like, "Well that's no good! Should I let you get to work? Or maybe I could help you study?"
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Let her vent if she’s had a rough day. If you ask her how she’s doing and she says “Not great,” ask her why. Tell her you’d be happy to chat about anything that’s bothering her.^{[12]
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- She’ll appreciate the fact that you’re willing to let her vent, and you might even be able to impress her by giving her great advice about her problem.
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Avoid sending or asking for dirty photos or to video chat. Even if you think you’re paying her a compliment, you’ll just make her feel disrespected, and there’s nothing more unimpressive than that. Being courteous, polite, and genuine will help you stand out better than anything else.
- If the two of you know each other outside of social media or are comfortable enough, you could ask her if she wants to video chat. Just keep it clean, and have a nice, face-to-face conversation.

Expert Q&A

Question

What should I do to impress a girl on WhatsApp?

Stefanie Safran
Dating Coach & Matchmaker
Stefanie Safran is a Dating Coach, Matchmaker, and the Owner of Stef in the City, a Matchmaking and Dating Coaching business focused on an honest and hands on approach. Stefanie labels herself as “Chicago's Introductionista®” as she has over 15 years of experience in the matchmaking industry. Her work has been featured on various media such as: ABC7, NBC5, CBS2, WGN, FOX, The Chicago Tribune, The Chicago Sun Times, The HuffPost, and Refinery29. She holds a MBA in marketing and branding from Loyola University in addition to her BA from the University of Wisconsin-Madison.

Stefanie Safran

Dating Coach & Matchmaker

Expert Answer

If you tell her that you will call or contact her at a particular time, remember to do so. Do not make an excuse that you were busy. Focus on your conversations. Understand what the girl wants and act accordingly.
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How do you make your chats fun and interesting on WhatsApp?

Stefanie Safran
Dating Coach & Matchmaker
Stefanie Safran is a Dating Coach, Matchmaker, and the Owner of Stef in the City, a Matchmaking and Dating Coaching business focused on an honest and hands on approach. Stefanie labels herself as “Chicago's Introductionista®” as she has over 15 years of experience in the matchmaking industry. Her work has been featured on various media such as: ABC7, NBC5, CBS2, WGN, FOX, The Chicago Tribune, The Chicago Sun Times, The HuffPost, and Refinery29. She holds a MBA in marketing and branding from Loyola University in addition to her BA from the University of Wisconsin-Madison.

Stefanie Safran

Dating Coach & Matchmaker

Expert Answer

Let your conversation flow naturally. Do not allow the conversation to become self-centered. Ask the girl questions and let her tell about herself.
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How can I make my communication more effective with a girl?

Stefanie Safran
Dating Coach & Matchmaker
Stefanie Safran is a Dating Coach, Matchmaker, and the Owner of Stef in the City, a Matchmaking and Dating Coaching business focused on an honest and hands on approach. Stefanie labels herself as “Chicago's Introductionista®” as she has over 15 years of experience in the matchmaking industry. Her work has been featured on various media such as: ABC7, NBC5, CBS2, WGN, FOX, The Chicago Tribune, The Chicago Sun Times, The HuffPost, and Refinery29. She holds a MBA in marketing and branding from Loyola University in addition to her BA from the University of Wisconsin-Madison.

Stefanie Safran

Dating Coach & Matchmaker

Expert Answer

You can compliment her. It will break the ice and pave the way for more effective communication.