How to Impress a School Girl

Last Updated: April 29, 2022 References Approved

Everyone knows the feeling of wanting to impress the person they like. But for many, the task of impressing the girl you like at school may seem daunting. You want her to like you, but you may not have any idea of where to start. Or maybe she already likes you, and you're dating, but you want to go the extra mile to keep her interest. Don't fear, it can all be done with a little self-work and knowing what kinds of things impress girls. Although you should NEVER be over confident because the girl will think that you are really bossy and girls like men to be confident but not bossy.

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Being the Most Impressive You

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Develop good hygiene and grooming habits. It's hard to be impressive to anyone if you don't take care of your hygiene first.^{[1]
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Stefanie Safran
Dating Coach & Matchmaker
Expert Interview. 8 May 2020.} Make sure you keep your hair and facial hair well groomed. Shower regularly, with body wash, shampoo,and conditioner. Never forget to brush your teeth because girls hate bad breath. Trim your nails and keep them dirt free. It's those kind of details that girls especially will notice.^{[2]
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Dress your best. The way you dress can make you stand out, in either a good way or a bad way, so pay close attention to your fashion choices. There's no right or wrong style, but have one. Your clothes are an expression of yourself, so think carefully about what you're expressing with your choice in dress.^{[3]
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Stefanie Safran
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Expert Interview. 8 May 2020.} However if at your school you have to wear a school uniform most schools hold school discos where you can dress however you want!^{[4]
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- Even though there's no such thing as a right or wrong style, there are guidelines you can follow. For example, dirty clothes give off a certain impression, and it's not a good one, so keep your clothes washed and clean.
- Also, try to avoid dressing inappropriately for the occasion. What you wear to school should be different from what you wear to a fancy dinner or a music recital.
- Unless you're going for a specific look and you know what you're doing, stick to clothes that fit well. Baggy jeans and oversized shirts aren't typically very flattering.
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Cultivate your passions and interests. Having interests makes you a more interesting person. Think about what you like to do, what interests you, and find ways to pursue those things more. If you're into sports you should look into joining a team. If you're into chess you should see if your school has a chess club. It doesn't matter what your passions are, just as long as you have them and find ways to cultivate them.^{[5]
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Balance the areas of your life. Contrary to common sense, it's the people who are well-rounded, rather than the people who focus all their energy in one part of their life, who stand out the most. Don't let your social life get too much in the way of your academic life, and vice versa. Balance your time outside of school between quality family time, studying time, extracurricular time, and social time.
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Work on your confidence. Girls are impressed by a confident guy, that's just a fact. If you've got problems with your confidence, work on it by getting better at things you like to do, and ^{[6]
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- When you do things you're good at, it makes you feel good about yourself, and that will give you confidence. Confidence in one area of life will spill over into others. Find your talents, interests, and passions, and improve yourself in those areas to build confidence.
- The other way to build confidence is simply to fake it until you make it. Pretend to be more confident in social settings than you are, and eventually you won't have to fake it.

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Impressing to Get Her Interest

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Start establishing a friendship. If this girl isn't someone you're already on friendly terms with, start with "hi" and take it from there. Don't overthink this, just start a conversation. Then as you see her around school, talk to her and start to get to know her. Ask her if she'd like to join you during lunchtime. Tell her you're going to see a movie with some friends and ask if she'd like to go. Something like this will also give you an excuse to get her number.^{[7]
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Ask her about herself. When you talk to the girl you're trying to impress, be interested in getting to know her more deeply. Ask her questions that show this interest. It's hard not to take notice of someone who seems genuinely interested in your life and what you have to say. Ask her about her family, her interests, what she wants in the future, anything like that, and then let her steer the conversation.^{[8]
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- Just be careful not to turn the conversation into an interview. You shouldn't be asking questions constantly, like this is some kind of interrogation. Let the questions be open-ended, and insert comments about how you can relate to what she's saying as the conversation continues.
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Use humor. Girls want guys who can make them laugh. If you want to stand out to a particular girl, making her laugh should be one of your main tools. In group settings this means taking risks by making funny comments when they come to you, and teasing your friends and the girl you like in a playful way. When alone with her, you can flex your funny bone by making funny observations about something around you, and telling humorous stories about your life.^{[9]
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Be real and honest in front of her. Don't try to impress her by pretending to be someone else. She can sense it. Openness and sincerity can be very impressive. When you're alone with the girl you like, try to steer the conversation in a more personal direction sometimes. Talk about things dear and important to you. Just make sure you don't do too much of the talking.^{[10]
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Flirt to impress. There's no better way to get someone's romantic attention than to flirt. Good flirting skills are impressive because so few people, especially school aged, have them. Look her in the eyes when talking to her. Send deep gazes her way every once and a while. Compliment her when you have the opportunity.^{[11]
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- Other examples of flirting include: finding reasons to innocently touch her, like hugging goodbye, and teasing her in a friendly way.

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Impressing the Girl You're Dating

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Be chivalrous. Chivalry might be slowly becoming outdated, but as it stands today, plenty of girls still find acts of chivalry impressive. There are plenty of ways to do small chivalrous things that make your girl feel special, for example:^{[12]
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- Pull her chair out for her when sitting down at a restaurant.
- Open doors for her.^{[13]
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- Help her take off her coat.
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Get to know her friends and family. Don't give all of your attention to your girlfriend when you're hanging out with her friends or at her house when her family is around. Socialize with her friends. Try to establish a friendly rapport with them. If you're at her place for dinner with her folks, offer to help clean up, or set up the table. Impress her friends and family, and you'll impress her.^{[14]
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Take the initiative. It may be a stereotype that girls want guys who take most of the initiative, but it's a stereotype for a reason. While the last thing you should do is try to control her life, most girls appreciate it when their boyfriend puts effort into things like planning dates, finding things to do on the weekend, and just generally being decisive.^{[15]
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- Sometimes this can be as simple as deciding quickly where the two of you should sit at lunch, or where you should go to eat.
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Be romantic. Celebrate moments of joy, achievements and birthdays with her. Look for ways to go out of your way to show that you care. This can be as simple as surprising her with flowers, or as grand as planning a romantic home-cooked dinner.^{[16]
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- Don't forget to celebrate your anniversaries together. It never hurts to surprise your girl with a small present for your one month or six month anniversary.

Expert Q&A

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How can I appear more impressive to a girl?

Stefanie Safran
Dating Coach & Matchmaker
Stefanie Safran is a Dating Coach, Matchmaker, and the Owner of Stef in the City, a Matchmaking and Dating Coaching business focused on an honest and hands on approach. Stefanie labels herself as “Chicago's Introductionista®” as she has over 15 years of experience in the matchmaking industry. Her work has been featured on various media such as: ABC7, NBC5, CBS2, WGN, FOX, The Chicago Tribune, The Chicago Sun Times, The HuffPost, and Refinery29. She holds a MBA in marketing and branding from Loyola University in addition to her BA from the University of Wisconsin-Madison.

Stefanie Safran

Dating Coach & Matchmaker

Expert Answer

A girl will notice if you make an effort to dress up when you go to meet her. You should dress as if it is a special occasion and take care of your hygiene as well.
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What are the things girls like boys to do?

Stefanie Safran
Dating Coach & Matchmaker
Stefanie Safran is a Dating Coach, Matchmaker, and the Owner of Stef in the City, a Matchmaking and Dating Coaching business focused on an honest and hands on approach. Stefanie labels herself as “Chicago's Introductionista®” as she has over 15 years of experience in the matchmaking industry. Her work has been featured on various media such as: ABC7, NBC5, CBS2, WGN, FOX, The Chicago Tribune, The Chicago Sun Times, The HuffPost, and Refinery29. She holds a MBA in marketing and branding from Loyola University in addition to her BA from the University of Wisconsin-Madison.

Stefanie Safran

Dating Coach & Matchmaker

Expert Answer

Girls like it if a boy goes ahead and opens the door for them or takes care of certain things to make them feel more comfortable.
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How can I make my conversation interesting?

Stefanie Safran
Dating Coach & Matchmaker
Stefanie Safran is a Dating Coach, Matchmaker, and the Owner of Stef in the City, a Matchmaking and Dating Coaching business focused on an honest and hands on approach. Stefanie labels herself as “Chicago's Introductionista®” as she has over 15 years of experience in the matchmaking industry. Her work has been featured on various media such as: ABC7, NBC5, CBS2, WGN, FOX, The Chicago Tribune, The Chicago Sun Times, The HuffPost, and Refinery29. She holds a MBA in marketing and branding from Loyola University in addition to her BA from the University of Wisconsin-Madison.

Stefanie Safran

Dating Coach & Matchmaker

Expert Answer

Make eye contact with the girl and avoid talking excessively about yourself. Ask her questions and give her a chance to talk about herself.