How to Hint for a Kiss from a Guy

Co-authored by Imad Jbara and Sophia Latorre

If you want a guy to kiss you, you have to let him know! He might be waiting for you to show your interest or give him the green light. Luckily, it’s easy! All you have to do is be yourself, use a few body language cues, and let the kiss happen naturally when the time is right!

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Being Direct

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Move in closer. You have to be close to each other to kiss, and the less distance a guy has to travel to kiss you, the easier it is for him to give it a try. So get close. When the moment seems right, put your face close to his and look at him expectantly. You could also try moving in as though you're going to kiss him.^{[1]
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- For example, you could try giving him a long, intimate hug, and before you unwrap your arms or pull your body away, lean your head back. This will give him a chance to move in for the kiss.
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Talk about kissing. If the guy isn't taking your subtle hints, bring up kissing in conversation. If you're watching a movie together and see an on-screen kiss, mention that it's "so romantic" or something to that effect. Alternatively, bring up your first kiss or a silly story about a bad kiss you've had. Then, bring up how much better you've gotten since then. It might be the feeder line he needs to lean in and see for himself.^{[2]
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Ask him to kiss you. Guys like when their partner is confident and know what they want. If you’re too afraid to move in for the kiss, ask him to do it. Say something like, “Will you kiss me?” You can also ask him if he’d like a kiss, by saying something like, “Can I kiss you?” or “I’d love to kiss you right now. Are you into it?”^{[3]
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- If he says no, don’t freak out. Stay calm, say, “Okay, no worries,” and change the subject. Rejection happens to everyone at some point, so try not to take it personally!
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Kiss him. If you really want to kiss the guy, and you know he’s into you, go ahead and do it!^{[4]
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Imad Jbara
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Expert Interview. 5 November 2019.} Each person in the equation has the same right to make the first move. Don’t be self-conscious or stress over the situation too much. Just lean in, kiss him, and enjoy it.^{[5]
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- If you’re not sure if the guy is interested or ready to kiss, you should probably wait until you know for sure.

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Using Subtle Cues

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Make eye contact. If you’re always looking down or away, the guy might think you’re not interested. Look him in the eye, especially when you’re carrying on a conversation. Smile a lot and laugh at his jokes to let him know you’re enjoying his company.^{[6]
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Be inviting. Guys are often afraid of rejection or unsure if you would appreciate a kiss. Try to make him feel comfortable and confident. Flirt with him and compliment him.^{[7]
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Imad Jbara
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Expert Interview. 5 November 2019.} If you put him at ease and let him know you are interested, he'll usually find the courage to try to kiss you.^{[8]
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- For example, you could say, “I was at the last gig your band played. You are an amazing drummer! When did you start playing?”
- Alternatively, say something like, “Wanna watch the new Stephen King film? I heard it’s terrifying. Will you hold my hand during the scary parts?”
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Break the touch barrier.^{[9]
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Imad Jbara
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Expert Interview. 5 November 2019.} If he hasn’t broken the touch barrier yet, you don’t need to wait -- do it yourself! Touch him lightly on the arm or shoulder when you're talking. Just make it a quick, innocent touch and don't make a big deal out of it. Holding hands is also a good way to break the touch barrier. The simple act of touching can strengthen the intimacy between you two.^{[10]
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Look at his lips. When you're alone with a guy and want to be kissed, make eye contact and then move your gaze briefly down to his lips. Then move your eyes back up to meet his and smile demurely. You don't have to be really obvious about it—just a quick glance down at his lips is better than staring at them for more than a few seconds.^{[11]
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- Try doing this maybe once or twice in a conversation. Keep it subtle, not creepy!
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Linger when saying goodbye. If he's dropping you off after a date, linger for a moment. If you're in the car, don't get out right away. Instead, sit next to him and wait for a few seconds. Unbuckle your seatbelt and look at him expectantly. If he walks you to your door, fiddle with your keys for a couple of seconds. This is a universal sign that you're asking for an after-date kiss. Look up once or twice to give him a chance to lean in.^{[12]
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Pretend you're cold. Shiver and rub your hands over your arms, or comment on the freezing temperatures. Your guy will likely jump at the chance to get closer to you. If he puts his arms around you or helps you into his jacket, stay close. Make eye contact and say, “Thanks.” Smile at him, and he may just move in for a kiss.^{[13]
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Draw attention to your own lips. Gently run your fingers across your lips periodically to draw his attention in. You can also playfully bite your bottom lip or gently wet your lips with your tongue.^{[14]
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- In moderation, these are good ways to signal to your partner that you'd like a kiss. However, overdoing it will make it look unnatural and can be a huge turn off.
- Focus on using physical draws to bring attention to your lips rather than piling on layers of lipgloss or lipstick.

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Preparing for a Kiss

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Freshen your breath. Brush your teeth or use mouthwash to freshen your breath. If you’re away from home, chew minty gum or use a breath spray. The last thing you want to worry about is bad breath!
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Make sure your lips are soft. Apply a lip balm before meeting up with the guy. Avoid using brightly-colored lipstick or lip gloss that is sticky or sparkly. Chances are, he won’t want to get it on his own lips, so it could be a turnoff.^{[15]
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Wait until you have some privacy. Though you may be dying for him to kiss you in the middle of third period, it’s probably not the most appropriate time or setting. Ask him to hang out privately, and go for a walk or watch a movie together. When you’re alone, he’s more likely to move in for that kiss.^{[16]
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How can I get a guy to kiss me without asking him?

Imad Jbara
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Imad Jbara is a Dating Coach for NYC Wingwoman LLC, a relationship coaching service based in New York City. 'NYC Wingwoman' offers matchmaking, wingwoman services, 1-on-1 Coaching, and intensive weekend bootcamps. Imad services 100+ clients, men and women, to improve their dating lives through authentic communication skills. He has a BA in Psychology from the University of Massachusetts Dartmouth.

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As you're talking with him, try lightly touching his arm or going in for a hug to let him know that you're interested. If he still doesn't follow, don't be afraid to try leaning in and giving them a kiss.
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I didn't kiss my guy yet. I'm too scared. What do I do?

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If you really can't build up the courage to try, consider my advice. You can wait for him to kiss you. As a guy, from personal experience, I can tell you that he will try to do so if you're in a relationship. If this doesn't word, you can just ask him, if you can build up the courage. I can understand that it's hard to ask or just try to kiss him. But I always think: "She is my girl, so she likes me, what do I have to fear? The only thing that can happen is that she says that she isn't ready yet.". And the same thing is true for guys when talking about getting physical.