How to Have Great Morning Sex

Last Updated: April 13, 2021 References

Sex is a great way to unwind at the end of a long day, but there’s no need to save all the fun for nighttime! If you and your partner wake up feeling frisky, why not take advantage of it and start your day off with—well, a bang? Just keep in mind that you might need to do a little planning to get the timing right, especially if you have busy daytime schedules.

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Timing It Right

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Be spontaneous if you have the time. Spontaneous sex can be thrilling, but it isn’t always practical—especially when you have things to do and places to be.^{[1]
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Research source} If it’s a lazy weekend morning, though, don’t be afraid to have an unplanned romp in the sheets. Start cuddling with your S.O. and see where it goes!
- For example, you might wake up your partner with gentle kisses, then lead into some sexy touching. If they’re into it, try going on to your preferred type of frisky fun.
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Make a date for morning sex if you have a busy schedule. If you’re struggling with the logistics of getting busy in the morning, a little planning can help.^{[2]
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Research source} Talk to your partner about setting a time that works for both of you—even if it means waking up a bit earlier or shuffling your morning schedule around.^{[3]
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- For example, you might say to your partner, “How about we let the kids sleep over at your mom’s house on Friday? Then we can have some time to ourselves to make love Saturday morning before we have to go pick them up.”
- Setting a date is also a good way to avoid the frustration of you being in the mood at a time when your significant other isn’t (or vice versa). If you’ve both agreed on a time in advance and are in the right mindset, one of you is less likely to end up disappointed.
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Set an early bedtime so you’ll be more energized in the morning. It’s hard to get in the mood when you’re groggy and sleep deprived. If you’re interested in morning sex, get to bed a little earlier than usual the night before so you’ll wake up refreshed and ready to go.^{[4]
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- For example, if you usually go to bed at 11 PM and wake up dragging the next day, try pushing your bedtime back to 9:30 or 10:00. That way, your energy levels will be higher when you wake up.
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Get up earlier on work or school days so you don’t feel rushed. Having to worry about getting to work on time can put a real damper on the mood. To avoid feeling hurried or distracted, set your alarm clock so you can wake up early and get intimate at your own pace.^{[5]
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- For example, if you normally get up at 7 AM, try setting an alarm for 6:00. Waking up extra early won’t be as much of a drag if you have something fun and exciting to look forward to!

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Making It Comfortable

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Brush your teeth if you’re worried about morning breath. You don’t have to be totally groomed and Instagram perfect before indulging in your morning nookie, but having a minty fresh mouth will make the experience more enjoyable for everyone. Hop out of bed and give your teeth a quick brush before you start making out.^{[6]
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- If you’d rather get straight to the action, keep some mints or breath freshening strips in your nightstand for a quick fix.^{[7]
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Go to the bathroom before and after sex. If you’re like most people, chances are you tend to wake up with a full bladder. It’s hard to focus on pleasure when you’re desperate to pee, so take a minute to do your business before you get started. To prevent urinary tract infections (UTIs), it’s always a good idea to go again once you’re done.^{[8]
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- If you’re prone to UTIs, peeing both before and after sex will reduce the risk even more.
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Ease into the action so you both have time to wake up. It can take a little time to get going in the morning, especially if you’ve gotten up extra early. Instead of aiming for anything wild or energetic, take it slow and easy. Start with some kissing, cuddling, and pillow talk, then gradually work your way up to more intense action.^{[9]
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- If there isn’t any time pressure, take some time to spoon and snuggle afterwards. You could even go back to sleep for a few minutes before hopping into the shower and getting your day started.
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Let the more energetic partner take charge. If you’re not a morning person, you might feel like morning sex is too much work. It doesn’t have to be, though! If one of you is more rambunctious right after waking up, they can take care of most of the action while the sleepier person takes it easy and enjoys the ride.^{[10]
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- For example, if you’re the more energetic one, you might get on top or go down on your partner while they lie back and relax.

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Spicing Up Your Morning Sex

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Wake your partner up with a sexy morning massage. Get your partner awake and ready to go with some slow and sensual foreplay. Gently rub your hands up their thighs to get the blood flowing to their groin, or smooth your hands over their shoulders, neck, chest, or any other sensitive areas where they enjoy a gentle touch.
- You can also try slipping out of your pajamas and rubbing your naked body up against your partner while you spoon.
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Experiment with different positions to keep things interesting. Don’t feel limited to the same old position or even the same type of sex you usually have. Add some excitement to your morning sex by trying something a little different. For example, you could:^{[11]
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- Try a 69, if you both enjoy oral sex. This is a good way to avoid the dreaded morning breath issue if you don’t feel like getting up and brushing your teeth right away.
- Have sex in a spooning position. The classic spoon is a cuddly, cozy, easy-going position for morning sex, which is especially great if you’re both feeling sleepy.
- Have the more energetic partner get on top and straddle the sleepier partner.
- Get it on doggy style if you’re up for something a little more energetic.
- Do some easy-going mutual masturbation (either touching yourselves or each other) while lying side-by-side if you’re too tired for penetration or oral.
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Bring some sex toys into the mix to help get you going. It can take extra time to get aroused—and to finish up—if you’re groggy in the morning. Using a toy can help give you the extra stimulation you need for some truly fantastic morning sex. Grab a vibrator or another favorite toy and use it on yourself or your partner to enhance your experience.^{[12]
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- If you’re worried about sexually transmitted infections, avoid sharing toys with your partner. If you do choose to swap toys, cover your toy with a fresh condom every time you trade off.^{[13]
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Jump in the shower together for steamy fun. Morning is the perfect time for shower sex, especially if you’re pressed for time. Climb into the shower with your partner and get it on—then stay there and rinse off when you’re done!^{[14]
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- Incorporate washing into your foreplay. Lather up your hands or a loofah and gently wash some of your partner’s most sensitive areas.
- If you need extra lubrication, opt for a silicone-based lube. Silicone lubes won’t rinse away as easily as some other formulations.^{[15]
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Add excitement to breakfast by combining it with sexy time. If you have the time, make breakfast in the buff with your S.O. Get creative with your food and incorporate it into foreplay or make it part of the main event!^{[16]
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- For example, you could sit in your partner’s lap and sensually feed them strawberries, or lick off some strategically placed whipped cream.
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Go for a quickie if you’re in a hurry. There’s something to be said for the occasional brief but intense early morning encounter. If one or both of you has somewhere to be, but you’re both feeling it, try some quick and passionate lovemaking. Even if you don’t climax, you can still have fun—and treat it as a preview of coming attractions later in the day!
- A quickie doesn’t necessarily have to be penetrative sex. It could be oral, a quick hand job, or even just some brief but intense making out.

Expert Q&A

Question

How do I ask for better sex?

Nicole Moore
Love & Relationship Coach
Nicole Moore is a Love and Relationship Coach and the Founder and CEO of Love Works Method, a private coaching and digital course service for women looking to find the right partner. With over a decade of experience, she specializes in body language and helping others take control of their dating life, attract a partner, and build a strong relationship. Nicole has been featured in numerous publications such as Cosmopolitan, Forbes, and USA Today. She also hosts Love Works with Nicole Moore, a podcast for modern women wanting love, dating, and relationship advice. Nicole holds a BA in Public Relations and Spanish from Syracuse University and a Certificate in Personal Coaching from New York University.

Nicole Moore

Love & Relationship Coach

Expert Answer

Start the conversation by praising your partner for what they are doing right. Then, discuss what you think needs to change. Positive reinforcement at the beginning of a difficult conversation goes a long way in helping the other person feel respected and not criticized. Remember—ask for what you want instead of focusing on what you don't want.