This article was co-authored by Connell Barrett. Connell Barrett is a Relationship Expert and the Founder and Executive Coach of Dating Transformation in New York City. Connell has over five years of experience as an international coach who helps men connect with women by unlocking their best, true, most confident selves. He is the author of the Amazon bestseller “Dating Sucks but You Don’t,” and has appeared on Good Morning America, the "Today" show, Access Hollywood, and in Best Life, Cosmopolitan, and The Oprah Magazine. In 2019 he was named Datezie.com's “New York City’s Best Male Dating Coach."
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Interested in a cute girl at your school? Don't know how to talk to her? And most important, don't know how to get her to like you? Try to understand the difference between social interaction and flirting before you start.
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1Make eye contact.[1] Don't just stare into her eyes and scare her. Look at her eyes. When you stare at the wall or something, she will think that you are not interested, and will just end the conversation then. But if you look at her, nod your head and listen, she'll like you because you pay attention.
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2Smile. Girls love it when you smile while talking to them or when you look at them because they know that you're happy to talk to them, and they know that they are not boring you. Even just giving her a quick glance with a smile will show her that you think she is cute. Just don't over-do it. Smiling too much can sometimes be creepy and cause her to think you're unusual.Advertisement
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3Compliment her.[2] Always compliment from the neck up. Ex: Your eyes are beautiful, your hair is pretty, your smile is cute. Unless you are talking about clothes. Ex: I like your shirt, I like your shoes. But never compliment her pant's back pocket. Girls just take that as "you just like my pants because they are tight enough to see my butt" and that will send the wrong message to her. Girls are very sensitive about their body, and if you say something that involves their private areas, they will definitely get the wrong message.
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4Be kind. Girls love guys who are sensitive and understand them. When they start getting upset and maybe even cry about something, don't just run off and use the stupid "sorry, I can't help you, I'm not a girl" excuse. If you actually listen to what she is saying, she will like you even more. Most guys think that girls like "bad boys" who spray paint buildings and get in trouble at school, but actually, it's the total opposite. Girls hate guys to try to be bad because they think it's cool, but really, it's not. So don't try to be all "gangster" or anything because girls hate that.
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5Just be yourself.[3] Girls like guys who are open and will tell her things. And when you open up to her, she will really get to know you as a person and will like you even more. Don't make up fake hobbies or anything, just tell them what you really like. Girls don't care how many war video games you play, or how many push-ups you can do. So don't lie. And plus, if she really likes you for you, and is a good person, she will like you just the way you are.
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6Be funny. Crack a joke, don't laugh at it, otherwise they will find it dumb. Do this and you'll see the results. It might even get you popular at school.
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7Tease her a little bit. Once you get to know the girl, you can tease her in a fun and friendly way. You can tease her for always wearing the color purple or say that she looks like a certain celebrity with her new haircut. Just make sure you don't say anything that may offend her because she may take your teasing the wrong way. This is a great way to flirt, and soon, she'll be teasing you right back!
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