Quiet Sex: 13 Simple (and Spicy) Ways to Be Quiet in Bed

Last Updated: August 25, 2021 References

Angling for some one-on-one time with your partner? This can be a bit challenging, especially if you have children at home, company visiting, or neighbors close by. Don’t worry. There are plenty of ways you can keep the volume down while still turning up the heat. We’ve put together a few tips and suggestions to help you get started!

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Amp up the foreplay.

Extra foreplay will cut down the volume in bed. There are plenty of quiet ways to turn up the heat with your partner, like simple kisses and caresses. This bonus foreplay will leave you both extra aroused, and may cut down the noise as you get intimate.^{[1]
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- There are tons of quiet ways to get the foreplay going. Sexting and dirty talk are some great options, or you could watch an erotic movie together.^{[2]
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Have sex in the late evening or early morning.

You’re less likely to be disturbed if you get intimate at odd hours. While this isn’t a foolproof solution, you’re less likely to be caught or interrupted during the late evening or early morning.^{[3]
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Hop in the shower.

Running water can mask your love-making. Invite your partner to join you in the bathroom. If you’re living with children or houseguests, pick a time when not as many people are angling to use the shower.^{[4]
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- Be really careful whenever you have shower sex. For your safety, place a non-slip mat on the floor ahead of time. Since condoms don’t hold up well in the shower, double-check that you have another pregnancy/STI prevention measure at the ready.^{[5]
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Switch to a quieter room.

Move to a place where no one can hear you. If you have the space at home, take your partner to a quieter area, like the basement, where your intimate moments won’t be as noticeable.^{[6]
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Move to the floor.

The floor eliminates the squeaky mattress factor. Drape a big quilt or other comfy bedding on the floor before things get hot and heavy. On the floor, you don’t have to worry about noisy mattress springs or creaking bed frames as you get intimate.^{[7]
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Breathe with your nose.

Breathing through your mouth is a lot louder than nose-breathing. As things get hot and heavy, try to focus on breathing through your nose instead of panting and gasping from your mouth. Plus, experts agree that nose-breathing can actually make the sex even better.^{[8]
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- When you breathe through your nose, your diaphragm and pelvic floor work a little differently, so your orgasm might feel even better.

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Slow things down.

Slow sex can cut down on the screams and yells. Take it slow with your partner, working your way up to an orgasm. It’ll still feel great, but the slower pace will transform your screams into moans.^{[9]
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Mask your activities with extra noise.

Music and white noise are great ways to hide what you’re really up to. Pick out some background music before you head to bed, so nearby neighbors, houseguests, and/or children won’t be the wiser.^{[10]
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- In a pinch, turn on the TV for some extra noise.^{[12]
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Muffle yourself.

Spice things up with a gag. Gags may be on the kinky side, but they’re great at lowering the volume while you’re in bed. If you don’t have an actual gag on hand, a tie or sock will do the trick as you and your partner get intimate.^{[13]
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- To use a ball gag, place the center of the gag in your mouth. Then, secure both straps along the back of your head.^{[14]
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- It’s okay if you don’t have a gag! Biting your hand or covering your mouth are other simple, effective ways to cut down on the noise.^{[15]
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Kiss when you climax.

Kissing is a great way to mask an orgasm. Making noise is a natural, expected part of sex, but it isn’t ideal when there are other people around. Right when you climax, kiss your partner instead of yelling out. This also adds a sexy, passionate touch to the end of your love-making.^{[16]
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Choose a sex position that’s quieter than what you usually do.

Positions like spooning are a lot less noisy. Experts also agree that 69-ing is a great, quiet way to have sex. You could also get intimate standing up, which is a lot less noisy than doing it in your bed.^{[17]
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- Try not to have stand-up sex near walls bordering your neighbors, children, or houseguests.

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Pick out quiet toys.

Silent sex toys are great for both sex and masturbation. Shop online for highly-rated, silent toys and wands. These quiet toys can provide lots of pleasure without any loud, noticeable vibrations.^{[18]
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Muffle some of the extra noise your bed makes.

Believe it or not, old socks can make your bed less squeaky. Slide the mattress off your bed, revealing the mattress slats. Place old socks on top of these slats, and slide your mattress back on top. These socks will act as a cushion between your mattress and bed frame.^{[19]
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- You might prefer switching to a quieter, springless mattress, which won’t make as much noise when you’re intimate.^{[20]
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