Striking up a conversation with someone IRL is tough enough—but figuring out what to say on Instagram might be even harder. If you stumble across someone that seems super cool but you just can’t figure out what to say, you’re not alone! Fortunately, there are a lot of different ways you can open up a dialogue with a girl.

Here are 11 foolproof ways to start a conversation with a girl you like on Instagram.

Examples of Conversation Starters to Grab a Girl's Attention

Expert Q&A

  • Question
    How many times should I talk to someone online before meeting them?
    Cher Gopman
    Cher Gopman
    Dating Coach
    Cher Gopman is the Founder of NYC Wingwoman LLC, a date coaching service based in New York City. 'NYC Wingwoman' offers matchmaking, wingwoman services, 1-on-1 Coaching, and intensive weekend bootcamps. Cher is a Certified Life Coach, a former psychiatric nurse, and her work has been featured on Inside Edition, Fox, ABC, VH1, and The New York Post.
    Cher Gopman
    Dating Coach
    Expert Answer
    I'd suggest that you have at least 5 conversations online before meeting up with someone. The exception might be if you meet on Tinder or Bumble and there's a crazy immediate connection where the two of you share some mutual interest, but in general, you want to chat a few times before meeting up.
  • Question
    How can I build a connection with someone over Instagram?
    Cher Gopman
    Cher Gopman
    Dating Coach
    Cher Gopman is the Founder of NYC Wingwoman LLC, a date coaching service based in New York City. 'NYC Wingwoman' offers matchmaking, wingwoman services, 1-on-1 Coaching, and intensive weekend bootcamps. Cher is a Certified Life Coach, a former psychiatric nurse, and her work has been featured on Inside Edition, Fox, ABC, VH1, and The New York Post.
    Cher Gopman
    Dating Coach
    Expert Answer
    Try to find a mutual interest that both of you share and lean into that. It's a lot easier to connect with someone if you have something in common that gets both of you excited.
  • Question
    How do you start a conversation with a non-binary person on Instagram?
    Community Answer
    Community Answer
    Talk to them as you would do with anyone else, except don't use gendered pronouns or words. Just talk about stuff you like, and listen to them talk about that stuff back. It's that simple.
Advertisement

Warnings

Advertisement

About This Article

Cher Gopman
Co-authored by:
Dating Coach
This article was co-authored by Cher Gopman and by wikiHow staff writer, Hannah Madden. Cher Gopman is the Founder of NYC Wingwoman LLC, a date coaching service based in New York City. 'NYC Wingwoman' offers matchmaking, wingwoman services, 1-on-1 Coaching, and intensive weekend bootcamps. Cher is a Certified Life Coach, a former psychiatric nurse, and her work has been featured on Inside Edition, Fox, ABC, VH1, and The New York Post. This article has been viewed 603,292 times.
How helpful is this?
Co-authors: 8
Updated: January 30, 2023
Views: 603,292
Advertisement