This article was co-authored by Eddy Baller. Eddy Baller is a Dating Coach and the Owner of a dating consulting and coaching service, Conquer and Win, based in Vancouver, Canada. Coaching since 2011, Eddy specializes in confidence building, advanced social skills, and relationships. Conquer and Win helps men worldwide have the love lives they deserve. His work has been featured in The Art of Manliness, LifeHack, and POF among others.
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Most people go through periods of shyness. In some cases, this may interfere with your dating life or make you feel insecure. By learning to relax in social situations, and projecting a positive image, you will be more confident and able to overcome your shyness around guys.
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QuestionWhat can I do to stop being shy around people?Eddy BallerEddy Baller is a Dating Coach and the Owner of a dating consulting and coaching service, Conquer and Win, based in Vancouver, Canada. Coaching since 2011, Eddy specializes in confidence building, advanced social skills, and relationships. Conquer and Win helps men worldwide have the love lives they deserve. His work has been featured in The Art of Manliness, LifeHack, and POF among others.
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Licensed Professional CounselorUltimately, you will need to challenge your thoughts and feelings by facing those things that you fear. You may also want to look into some self-help books for guidance, including "Feel the Fear . . . and Do It Anyway" by Susan Jeffers. If that does not help then seek the help of a trained therapist to help you overcome your fear of rejection.
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- If you are experiencing extreme anxiety or shyness, you may need to see a therapist. The advice in this article is not meant to replace the advice of a mental health professional or to minimize the difficulty of overcoming anxiety or shyness.⧼thumbs_response⧽
References
- ↑ http://thinksimplenow.com/happiness/20-ways-to-attack-shyness
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/199511/the-cost-shyness
- ↑ http://thinksimplenow.com/happiness/20-ways-to-attack-shyness
- ↑ http://thinksimplenow.com/happiness/20-ways-to-attack-shyness
- ↑ http://thinksimplenow.com/happiness/20-ways-to-attack-shyness
- ↑ Eddy Baller. Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 7 February 2020.
- ↑ http://kidshealth.org/en/teens/shy-tips.html
- ↑ Eddy Baller. Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 7 February 2020.
- ↑ http://kidshealth.org/en/teens/shy-tips.html
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If you’re typically shy around guys, focus on breathing deeply, maintaining eye contact and staying in the moment. Instead of worrying about what they think, focus on what they’re saying and respond in a way that feels natural. If you’re still feeling anxious, try practicing smaller-scale social interactions, like saying “Hello” in the hallway or complimenting him on something he’s wearing. Most importantly, just be yourself! For tips on how to build self-confidence and relaxing during a conversation, scroll down!