How to Make the Popular Guy Want You

Co-authored by Nicole Moore

Last Updated: November 4, 2021 References

If you've got your sights set on a popular guy, there are some things you can do to help him realize that you're the one for him. Taking care of your personal appearance, being friendly and engaging, and spending time around him and his friends are great ways to start out. But never forget that popularity isn't everything, so don't put too much stock in the whole idea of being popular. Be yourself and let your unique personality shine through, and you'll find the right guy for you.

Method 1

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Getting to Know Him

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Say hello. Whether it's your first time talking to him or the millionth, smile as you approach him and act friendly.^{[1]
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Expert Interview. 6 October 2021.} Walk up and say hi, or toss a casual greeting his way as you pass him in the hall.^{[2]
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- Keep it simple but not too simple. Say hi and ask how his day is going, but don't make it boring with the same old, “Hi! How are you?” Try something more engaging and personal like, “Hey! What's up, blue eyes?”
- Comment on his appearance. If he's wearing clothes or such for something you know, comment on that. Find something interesting or that you like. If you've never heard of what's on his clothes, backpack, etc, ask about it! It's a win-win either way! You might find another thing you like, but if you don't, you're still starting a conversation with him!
- Be sure to avoid cheesy pickup lines because your popular guy has probably already experienced a lot of that, and you want to stand out from the crowd!
- If you aren't ready to say hi yet, don't rush yourself. Wait until you feel comfortable enough to do it.
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Make a name for yourself in school. If your goal is to make the popular guy want you, you'll need to make sure he knows who you are first! Get involved in activities that interest you so that you can meet more people and get a reputation as a friendly, involved person.^{[3]
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Expert Interview. 6 October 2021.} If he knows a lot of people admire you, maybe he will try to get to know you.
- Consider joining an afterschool activity group, becoming a member of the student government, or participating in other schoolwide activities.
- If he participates in any activities, consider joining those as well (as long as they interest you too).
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Hang out with him and his friends. If possible, try to spend time with him in a group setting – preferably with mutual friends around. This will be a low-pressure situation for him to get to know you and see how fun and interesting you are.
- If you have mutual friends, ask them if you can tag along to activities and events you know he'll be at.
- Make friends with his friends so that they will say positive things about you to your popular guy.
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Get the conversation going. Whenever you have a chance to spend some time around your popular guy, try engaging him in a conversation. You'll hold his attention by asking him questions about things he's already familiar with, interested in, or enjoys doing.^{[4]
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- Don't just ask him questions he can respond yes or no to. Try to talk about things that will prompt a more involved answer.
- Ask him about his favorite band and if he's ever seen them in concert. Ask him if he's thought about what he wants to do after graduation. Ask him to tell you about the family vacation he took this summer that you overheard him mentioning to someone else.
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Avoid boring topics. Your popular guy is probably the kind of person who has seen it all and done it all. If you want to grab his attention, you want to give him something new and interesting to think about. Think of something exciting that you've done and tell him the story.^{[5]
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- Tell him about that time you traveled out of the country with your family, or how you swam across the lake at summer camp.
- Avoid talking about things that will bore him like his good looks or other things everyone knows he is good at (like sports).

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Flirting With Him

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Be friendly. Being nice may make you less intimidating to your popular guy. At the very least, it will give him a favorable impression of you. Even if he isn't interested or available now, he will remember you for being nice later when he is available.^{[6]
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- This means that you should make eye contact and smile at him, ask him questions about himself, and treat him how you would treat your friends – or how you would like other people to treat you.^{[7]
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Talk to him in class. Make sure that you show him a little attention when you see him in class. Try to sit next to him in class so it's easier to make eye contact and start a conversation if you have some free time.
- You can also try talking to him during lunch or on your breaks between classes.
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Connect with his interests. If you want to grab his attention, you should try to show him that you have some things in common. Whether it be hobbies, sports, future goals, or personality quirks, finding commonalities can help you relate to your popular guy.^{[8]
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- Tell him about a concert you went to if he really likes music. Discuss the season finale of his favorite show.
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Leave him wanting more. A great way to make your popular guy want you is to always leave him wanting more. You don't want him to get sick of you or to feel like you are too available.^{[9]
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- Don't overstay your welcome if you're hanging out together. Give him a chance to wish you had stayed longer.
- On occasion, cut conversations short and act like you have somewhere else you have to be. This makes you look busy, desirable, and not at all desperate.
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Be gentle, but persistent. Remember that after rejection, that it's not the end of the world. Don't go crying and begging for him to take you. The guy will probably get annoyed or embarrassed. Give him a space for a couple of weeks, then consider trying again.^{[10]
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- Don't keep going after him forever. If he rejects you outright, consider moving on to find someone else who is more interested. You never know if another cute guy out there is attracted to you!
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Surround yourself with people who value you. If you want to draw the attention of a popular guy, you'll need some confidence and support. Create a circle of friends who love you for your unique personality and this will give you the confidence to be yourself in all situations.^{[11]
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- People are drawn to those who are clearly comfortable in their own skin. Having friends who love and support you will help you build this kind of confidence.^{[12]
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Method 3

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Presenting Yourself Well

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Be yourself. Don't change yourself for this guy – it's not worth it. It's okay to update your wardrobe, put more effort into your appearance, or even try some new activities to get his attention. But only do so if you are comfortable with these small changes and you feel like you're still being true to yourself. It's more likely that he will like you more if you are genuine.^{[13]
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- Never do something you are uncomfortable with. For example, if you don't normally like to swear, you will probably look awkward doing it. Just talk how you normally do and be confident that you don't need to cuss for people to like you.
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Pay attention to your clothing choices. Love your body and flaunt it. Don't hide beneath baggy potato sacks. If you notice that your popular guy seems to find a girl attractive, take note of what she's wearing so that you can get an idea about what he likes. You can consider integrating some of these styles into your wardrobe, if you like them. At the same time, make sure to stay true to your own style instead of just turning into a clone^{[14]
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- But don't forget to be yourself. Don't wear things for the sake of him; wear them for you.
- Wear clothing that brings out your best features. If you like your butt, wear tight pants with a pocket design to draw attention to that area.
- Make sure the clothing fits well and you can wear the items with multiple outfits. You'll have more things to wear a great black bag with than a hot pink one.
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Bathe regularly. When it comes to attracting the attention of a guy (popular or not), the importance of personal hygiene cannot be overstated. Make sure you shower regularly, wash your hair often, and brush your teeth every day. This will ensure that you smell good and have fresh breath.^{[15]
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- This includes wearing deodorant every day. You can use the roll-on kind or the spray kind.
- Additionally, make sure that your clothes are always clean and smell nice too.
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Style your hair. Whether your hair is short or long, you should fix it in a way that is stylish and flattering. Long, straight hair is always in style, but curly hair or short sporty looks can be cute too. You may want to invest in high quality shampoos and conditioner.^{[16]
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- Pay a little extra and go to the best stylist you can afford. A good stylist will know hair and they can find a great look for your face shape.
- Try out wild colors! Do something a little different with your hair every day. Sometimes the best way to get a guy's attention is by making yourself visually interesting.
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Find a beauty regimen that works for you. Take care of your skin to help keep it looking its best. This means washing your face every day, removing your makeup each night (if you wear any), and using beauty products that work for your skin. For example, if you have dry skin, you should use face lotion intended for dry skin. If you have oily skin, use face lotion (and other products) intended for oily skin types.^{[17]
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- Drink lots of water! This will flush impurities out of your pores and lessen your chance of blemishes and dry skin.
- If you have acne, consider investing in dermatologist recommended products to help clear up your skin.
- Visit a dermatologist if you have persistent skin problems.
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Avoid going overboard with the makeup. Makeup should be used to enhance your natural beauty, not to overshadow your features with artificial elements. It's not about wearing a lot or wearing trends, it's about wearing what makes you look and feel better.^{[18]
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- You should never wear too much makeup and always wear colors that complement your skin tone and eye color.
- Mascara is almost always a safe bet, as long as you know how to apply it properly. If not, ask a friend who does.
- If you're clueless about makeup, ask your parents to take you to a makeup counter for a consultation. Take notes. If you can't afford to buy all the makeup there, get the foundations and look for the colors elsewhere. Or buy a little at a time.

Expert Q&A

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How can I attract a guy without talking?

Nicole Moore
Love & Relationship Coach
Nicole Moore is a Love and Relationship Coach and the Founder and CEO of Love Works Method, a private coaching and digital course service for women looking to find the right partner. With over a decade of experience, she specializes in body language and helping others take control of their dating life, attract a partner, and build a strong relationship. Nicole has been featured in numerous publications such as Cosmopolitan, Forbes, and USA Today. She also hosts Love Works with Nicole Moore, a podcast for modern women wanting love, dating, and relationship advice. Nicole holds a BA in Public Relations and Spanish from Syracuse University and a Certificate in Personal Coaching from New York University.

Nicole Moore

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Expert Answer

Walk past him with your head held high and your shoulders back. Remember—popular guys are used to girls feeling shy around him or fawning all over him. When you act confident around a popular guy, he has no choice but to pay attention to you.
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How do you talk to popular guys?

Nicole Moore
Love & Relationship Coach
Nicole Moore is a Love and Relationship Coach and the Founder and CEO of Love Works Method, a private coaching and digital course service for women looking to find the right partner. With over a decade of experience, she specializes in body language and helping others take control of their dating life, attract a partner, and build a strong relationship. Nicole has been featured in numerous publications such as Cosmopolitan, Forbes, and USA Today. She also hosts Love Works with Nicole Moore, a podcast for modern women wanting love, dating, and relationship advice. Nicole holds a BA in Public Relations and Spanish from Syracuse University and a Certificate in Personal Coaching from New York University.

Nicole Moore

Love & Relationship Coach

Expert Answer

Confidence is key! Pretend that you're the most amazing girl in the world and he'd be lucky to even get a second to chat with you. this might seem weird at first, but the more you practice feeling this way, the more it will feel real. Don't be like all the other girls who fawn over him; instead, stand tall and know what you're bringing to the table.
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What do you do if the popular boy is greedy,mean,and other bad character traits

Community Answer

If the popular boy is mean to you, he's probably not the kind of guy you should be pursing in the first place. The best thing you can do is to take care of yourself and your appearance, focus on being yourself, and try to talk to him about things you think he'll be interested in. If he is mean to you, it's probably time to move on to a new crush!

Warnings

Don't let him pressure you to do anything; you are the one in control.

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Think carefully about whether he is the right guy for you! If you have nothing in common with him, then keep an eye out for those boys with a great personality that seems like a better fit for you.

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