This article was co-authored by Eddy Baller. Eddy Baller is a Dating Coach and the Owner of a dating consulting and coaching service, Conquer and Win, based in Vancouver, Canada. Coaching since 2011, Eddy specializes in confidence building, advanced social skills, and relationships. Conquer and Win helps men worldwide have the love lives they deserve. His work has been featured in The Art of Manliness, LifeHack, and POF among others.
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The butterfly kiss is a very sweet and tender kiss that can express passion, love, and affection. It's perfect for mixing things up with your significant other -- after all, even making out all the time can get a little bit repetitive. To give a butterfly kiss, all you have to do is move your face close to your partner's, so that your eyes are almost touching, and flutter your eyelids rapidly, so your partner feels like he or she is being kissed by the delicate wings of a butterfly. If you want to get started, fly over to Step 1.
Steps
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1Begin a tender moment with your significant other. The butterfly kiss works best if you two are lying down, sitting next to each other in a comfortable and private setting, or just feeling close to one another. A butterfly kiss is best done in private, when you're both relaxed, and you should be cuddling, snuggling, or touching each other a bit first. It's a little hard to go from zero to butterfly kiss, and you don't want to catch your partner by surprise.[1]
- This is the kind of kiss you should try with someone you've been with for a while. Though it's not particularly sexual, the butterfly kiss is very intimate, and you don't want to shock someone you've only been dating for a few weeks with this tender gesture.
- If you're really comfortable with your partner, then you can even talk about the butterfly kiss in advance. Your partner may be a little caught off guard when you try to lock eyes instead of lips. But a butterfly kiss can be a wonderful surprise, too!
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2Move your face closer to your significant other's. Slowly start to move toward them. You can even start with a short, but meaningful kiss on the lips or the cheeks. It's perfectly normal to butterfly kiss at the beginning, middle, or end of a regular kissing session. As you get closer, you can give your partner a light touch, too. Bringing your bodies closer together, not just your faces, will add an intimate effect for the butterfly kiss.Advertisement
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3Move your eyes closer together. You can try to bring your faces together so that both of your eyes line up, though this may be more challenging because your noses will get in the way. You can also just move your right eye closer to your partner's right eye or your left eye closer to your partner's left eye. Move slowly, so the motion is gentle and effortless.[2]
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4Flutter your eyelashes. Begin to blink, a bit rapidly, for your eyelashes to truly flutter. Your eyelashes will touch your partner's eyelid and the area around their eyes, including their eyelashes. Your partner may even get the picture and will start fluttering their eyelashes, too. You'll be feeling like you're inside a butterfly garden before you know it![3]
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5Flutter your eyelashes even faster. Beat those wings like you've got places to fly! Try moving your eyelashes even faster by blinking more rapidly to increase the effect you're going for. You can even mix it up, going between blinking really fast and slowing down those flutters. Butterfly kisses can last just a few seconds, though, so you don't have to overthink it too much. But if you really do like butterfly kissing, you can be at it for a minute or more!
- Some people even give butterfly kisses on the cheek, or other tender parts of their significant other's face. This also creates a tender feeling that is hard to replicate! The next time you and your partner are lying down or cuddling, you can try this tender gesture.
Warnings
- Also, try not to wear mascara if you will be doing this because it could get in your partner's eyes and that doesn't feel good.⧼thumbs_response⧽
- Be careful; you can hurt your partner's eyes or your own eyes very easily!⧼thumbs_response⧽
References
- ↑ https://love.allwomenstalk.com/different-types-of-kisses-to-give-your-partner/7/
- ↑ Eddy Baller. Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 7 February 2020.
- ↑ https://www.liveabout.com/different-ways-to-kiss-better-3196326
- http://lifestyle.ca.msn.com/love-sex-relationships/hearst-gallery.aspx?cp-documentid=25419612
About This Article
A butterfly kiss is a sweet, playful alternative to regular kissing. To do a butterfly kiss, start by getting cozy with your significant other. Snuggle up while you’re sitting or lying down together, and turn so you’re facing each other. Then, move your face close to your partner’s. If you want, warm up by gently stroking their face with your hand or giving them a few light kisses on the lips or cheeks. Next, bring your eyes as close to theirs as you can. If your noses get in the way, just focus on bringing one of your eyes near one of theirs. For example, move in so your right eye is close to their left. Touch your eyelashes to theirs and blink rapidly to gently flutter your lashes. Imagine that your lashes are moving like a butterfly’s wing as they brush against your sweetheart’s eyelid and lashes. If you want, experiment with fluttering your lashes faster or slower, or alternating between quick and slow flutters. You can also ask your partner to flutter their lashes back, if they don’t start doing it on their own. There’s no need to stick to just doing butterfly kisses on their eyelids. Try brushing your lashes against other part of your sweetie’s face, like their cheeks, lips, or neck. Or, ask them to do the same for you.
