10 Things to Do when a Guy Is Kissing Your Neck

Co-authored by Eddy Baller and Hannah Madden

If you’re making out with your partner and things are starting to get hot and heavy, he might make his way down to your neck. While neck kisses usually feel amazing, it can be tough to figure out what you’re supposed to do while he’s occupied. The good news is you’ve got a lot of (sexy) options to choose from.

Here are 11 things you can do the next time a guy is kissing your neck.

1

Stop talking.

A neck kiss probably means he wants to make out. If you two were chatting or having a conversation, now’s your cue to stop talking. Don’t try to keep your conversation going—that could be a little awkward. If you don’t know what else to do, just don’t say anything.^{[1]
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- This is especially true if he comes up behind you to kiss your neck.

2

Expose the side of your neck.

Let him know that you’re into what he’s doing. When he starts kissing your neck, tilt your head just slightly to the side so more of your neck is exposed. That way, he can reach all up and down your neck as well as behind your ear.^{[2]
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- It’s a great way to encourage him without saying a word.

3

Gasp.

A small gasp means he’s doing well. If you’re surprised by what he’s doing or shocked by how good it feels, try letting out a little gasp. This sharp intake of breath will encourage him to keep going.^{[3]
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- You might just do this automatically, especially if you’ve never been kissed on the neck before.

4

Moan.

This noise tells him that you like what he’s doing. Don’t force it, but let any noises that you want to make come out naturally. It will be his cue to continue, and he might even start kissing your neck more often.^{[4]
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- Your moan doesn’t have to be super loud or aggressive. Sometimes, a soft moan is enough to get the message across.

5

Wrap your arms around him.

You can go for his neck or his torso. It’ll give you something to do with your hands, and it will encourage him to keep kissing your neck. If you two are lying down, you could even run your hands along his chest or arms.^{[5]
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- If he’s kissing your neck from behind you, spin around and embrace him.

6

Pull him closer.

Reach around him and hold him tightly. Pull his body in toward yours to let him know you like what’s going on. If you couple this action with a small gasp or a moan, he’ll definitely get the hint that he’s doing something right.^{[6]
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- If you two are lying down together, try pulling your body slightly on top of his.

7

Run your hands through his hair.

Guys like having their hair played with too! While he’s occupied with kissing your neck, reach up and run your hands through his hair a bit. It will tousle his hair and give him a nice bedhead look, too.^{[7]
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- Work your hands through his hair slowly and gently. There’s nothing worse than catching your fingers on a tangle when you’re trying to be sweet and sexy!

8

Enjoy the moment.

Overall, try not to overthink it. If you like what he’s doing and it feels good, just relax and enjoy it. Chances are, the guy is kissing your neck because he likes you and he wants you to feel good. Whatever happens, happens!^{[8]
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- Getting a neck kiss is a fun way to spice up a makeout session, too. He might be trying to impress you with a new move.

9

Get a little more physical.

A neck kiss can be an invitation to move things further. If you’re both fully clothed and he starts kissing your neck, reach for the bottom of his shirt to start taking it off. Make sure he’s okay with it (you could even ask “Is this okay?”), then peel off his shirt and start feeling his body.^{[9]
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- Neck kisses aren’t always an invitation to go a step further. If you have any doubts or he starts pulling away, ask him if he’s okay with what’s happening.

10

Ask him not to leave a hickey.

Unless you want one, of course. Neck kisses are great, but they can lead to a small mouth-shaped bruise, or hickey. If you have to look professional or go to a job, getting a hickey probably isn’t the best idea. Gently remind him that he can keep going, but to lay off any sucking or nibbling he might be doing.^{[10]
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- Just say something like, “That feels so good. Just don’t give me a hickey, okay?”