How to Win Your Ex Boyfriend Back (for Teen Girls)

Co-authored by Julia McCurley

Last Updated: December 30, 2022 References

One of the biggest things in most teen girls' lives is boys. If you are missing your ex, read this article to win him back!

Steps

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Try to think of reasons why you broke up. Maybe you're too clingy? Maybe you're demanding? You should have a talk with him and discuss these problems. If you did something bad, just apologize, it will help the friendship. Also, try to think of reasons why you want him back. Also, if you're the one who broke up with him and you want him back, think of why you broke up with him in the first place and try to fix that.^{[1]
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Keep a couple of days just to yourself. And for him too, you don't want him thinking that you are really desperate. So, just pamper yourself so that, by the time of your next confrontation, you'll look stunning. When it comes to the time to confront your ex-boyfriend about the whole mis-happening, don't beg and plead for him to take you back. Give him subtle hints about memories that you two shared together. This shows him that you're still thinking about him.^{[2]
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Don't manipulate. When it comes to that time to lay out the big guns, don't make him uncomfortable. When he's with you, he wants to have fun, so don't lay out the serious talk just yet. Save it because you'll have plenty of time later to have those talks.
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Rise above any vices you might be tempted to slide into. By the time you reach this step, you should be pretty close to getting your boy back. But, if he has moved on to another girl, don't try to pick fights with that girl or sleep with him behind her back.
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Play hard to get. Don't act as if you care what he does, or who he's with. 'Kill him with kindness' and don't worry about the new girl - she's probably just a rebound and trying to make you jealous. He'll eventually realize what he had. If he looks at you while he's with her, smile, and if he still talks about you, live it.
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If he has been ignoring you since the day that he has dumped you, just act like you care at first. Don't write him a couple of sad notes. Have you friends and family that he likes talk to him about you to see what he has to say. If he says he's over you, act like you're over him. Dress more attractively, hang out where he does, put things on your Facebook, etc. that you know he will read. Be irresistible so his mouth will drop every time he sees you. Act nice, be beautiful and attractive.^{[3]
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When you're around him and his friends, talk more to his friends rather than talking to him so that he develops some jealousy and knows that you're not drooling over him anymore. That means that he will want you back even more.^{[4]
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Don't act or dress any differently. If he really wants to get back with you, you only need to change what you were doing wrong. For example, if you were being too clingy, back off a little bit. Don't make the classic mistake of telling him you've changed; show him.
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Do what he does. If he ignores you, ignore him. if he talks to you, talk to him, but not too much. If he wants to hang out with you, hang out with him. If he flirts, try to flirt (or do the opposite- don't flirt, act like you're over him, but then flirt, he'll get the hint). If you're a preteen or teen, don't go crazy, tell everybody lies about him and brag. If you're an adult, be calm and relax, but don't be crazy and follow him.

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Warnings

Do not come up with "behind his back" plots; that will just drive him, and other people, to think you are rude and immature.

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Do not beg him to come back to you. This will kill attraction and drive him further away.

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Realize that he may not want you back and accept this as a possibility, remember that he may still have feelings for you.

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If he won't take you back at all, remain friends. This opens the possibility of nurturing that affection you have until later.

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Sometimes, he's just not worth it. You have to let go, and realize that there are other guys out there who might be three times better than he was.

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If he is being a jerk, be nice and say, "Please stop being a jerk." Maybe he will, maybe he won't. It all just depends, if he is being a super jerk, just walk away. Then he will realize that he did something wrong.

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This article was co-authored by Julia McCurley. Julia McCurley is a Certified Professional Matchmaker, Relationship Coach, and the CEO of Something More, Austin's premier matchmaking service. She has been creating happy couples in Austin for over 12 years and has helped hundreds of singles on their journey to finding love. Her blogs have been published on the Huffington Post, Good Men Project, SheKnows, Emlovz, and The Dating Truth. She also just published her first book, Game Set Match: A Professional Matchmaker's Advice on How to Win At the Game Of Love. Julia holds a BA in Business and Communications from The University of Puget Sound and received her Master Executive Matchmaker Certification from The Matchmaking Institute. This article has been viewed 308,499 times.

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