How to Understand Platonic Love and Friendship

Last Updated: December 5, 2022 References

Finding it hard to understand your feelings towards your friend? Confusing that the person is becoming more than just a friend or is it just a feeling? This article will help you to known about what platonic love is and achieve stronger friendships without the unnecessary confusion of feelings or making your friendship relationship awkward with your friend.

Steps

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Understand the difference between what love really is and what is platonic love.^{[1]
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- The love between friends is platonic love. Platonic describes a relationship that is purely spiritual and not physical. If a guy and a girl hang out all the time but aren't boyfriend and girlfriend, they'd describe their friendship as platonic.
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Consider your feelings about the person. Do you think of them romantically or erotically? Feelings such as these suggest you might have a different love for this person. If you don't have strong feeling about that person and just like to hang out with them, then you most likely have a platonic love for them.

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Do not mistake your love for something more.^{[3]
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Research source} One of the most common confusions occur when people mistake their affection towards their friends as something deeper. Whether consciously or subconsciously, it is easy to mistake feelings of love.
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Understand how strong platonic love can be. It is perfectly normal for people to experience intense feelings for those they care about without the love being of a romantic nature. Very similar to romantic love, platonic love creates a powerful attachment between people.
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Think about what your idea of friendship is. Do you consider acquaintances as friends or do you need to have a profound knowledge of the person before you classify them as a friend? In order to identify the type of love, you must first have a comparison to what your norm for platonic love is.

Community Q&A

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We were in a relationship for 3 years, and then friends for another 3 years. When he has a girlfriend, I can't accept it. What do I do?

Community Answer

Move on. Because if not you will always be someone to fall back on for him. Find someone who feels the same way about you that you feel about them, otherwise you're going to be miserable.
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Is it still platonic love if you think of the person all the time but would not go beyond a pat on his cheek and a warm hug?

Community Answer

Most likely, yes. You can care about someone deeply and think about them a lot without it being romantic.
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As a married man, should I end a friendship with a woman if I find myself becoming attracted to her?

Community Answer

You shouldn't have to feel like you can't hang out with other women just because you're married, but make sure you realize that this will never be more than a friendship. If you start to find it harder and harder to resist turning the friendship into something more, you should cut ties with that person.

Warnings

Platonic relationships get deeper and better over time if both parties respect the boundaries.

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Be careful about telling the other party if you feel like your feelings have changed. Give it time and figure out if you really do feel differently before you risk ruining your friendship.

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Confusion of feelings can lead to unnecessary pain and loss. Think before you make any commitments as a result of your feelings.

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