How to Respond to Wyd Text from a Girl

Co-authored by Mark Rosenfeld and Hannah Madden

Last Updated: October 21, 2021 References

Texting a girl is a great way to get to know her without any awkward in-person interactions. But when she texts “wyd,” it can be hard to figure out what to say back. If you aren’t sure where to take the conversation, don’t worry—you’re not alone! We’ve compiled several ways you can respond to a wyd text to keep chatting with a girl and have a lively, interesting conversation.

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“Looking at memes. Check this one out.”

Make her laugh with a funny picture to keep your convo going. If you know her sense of humor, pick out a meme that you have stored away to make her chuckle. If you aren’t sure, try searching for memes on Instagram or Facebook until you find one that makes you laugh. Hopefully, she’ll even send a meme back! You could also say something like:^{[1]
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- “Not much, just laughing at this dumb meme.”
- “Exchanging memes with my friends, like this one.”

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“Just thinking about you.”

This is a super flirty message that lets her know you like her.^{[2]
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Mark Rosenfeld
Dating & Relationship Coach
Expert Interview. 11 June 2021.} If you two have already gone out on a date or you’ve made it clear that you’re into her, this is the message for you. However, if you two are just friends, stick to a more platonic text. Letting her know that you’re thinking about her will make her feel good, since she’s on your mind even when she’s not around. You might also say:^{[3]
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- “Trying to concentrate on work, but you keep running through my mind.”

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“Getting ready to go out. You should join us!”

Invite her out with your friends if you’re headed out the door. Sometimes, when a girl asks what you’re doing, she secretly wants to hang out with you then and there. Inviting her along to a group hang is a low-pressure way to spend time with her that isn’t a date.^{[4]
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Mark Rosenfeld
Dating & Relationship Coach
Expert Interview. 11 June 2021.} Let her know where you’ll be, and ask her to come along and hang out with you. You might also say:^{[5]
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- “Just grabbing a drink with my friend. Want to meet up with us?”
- “I’m about to head out the door. Wanna meet up later?”

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“Picking out our next date spot.”

This is a great way to ask her out on a second or third date. If you’ve already met up a few times with a romantic intention, let her know that you’re looking forward to your next one. You can get her excited about your next date by telling her your vague plans for the next time you two see each other. It’s a great way to build anticipation and tell her that you’re taking this seriously. You could also text her:^{[6]
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- “Just looking at restaurants. How do you feel about Italian food?”
- “Nothing, just buying tickets for the museum next weekend. Does Friday work for you?”
- “Just checking the weather to make sure our picnic in the park still works for next week.”

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“Struggling to focus in class. Wanna play hooky with me?”

If you want to hang out with her right now, try this response. This one can be slightly risky—if she’s busy with work or school, she might not want to ditch just to hang out with you. However, if she’s home alone and bored, she just might meet up with you. You might also try texting her:^{[7]
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- “Not a lot, can’t seem to focus on anything. Are you busy?”
- “Nothing, I can’t wait to see you later. Do you want to meet up soon?”

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“Trying to fall asleep, but it’s not working.”

Let her know you’re open for some late-night texting. If she texts you around bedtime, tell her that you’re still awake and willing to chat. Sometimes, texting with someone can help you fall asleep, especially if you’re feeling a little anxious. It will also let her know that you’re staying up just to talk with her. You could also say:^{[8]
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- “Just lying in bed, but I can’t sleep. How about you?”
- “I was gonna go to bed, but I’d rather talk to you.”

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“Not much. What are you up to?”

Ask her about something she’s doing to start a conversion.^{[9]
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Mark Rosenfeld
Dating & Relationship Coach
Expert Interview. 11 June 2021.} If a girl is texting you and you already know what she’s doing, you can talk about it with her to keep the convo going. This is especially true if she’s doing something fun or out of the ordinary, since people love to talk about plans like that. You might also say:
- “Nothing as fun as you! How’s the beach?”
- “Not much, just at home. Send me pics of your vacation spot!”

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“Nothing. Want to come over?”

This is a more direct way to let her know you’re into her. If you two have been flirting for a while and you can’t stand the sexual tension anymore, try this message out. Since she might have been asking what you’re up to as a ploy to come over, there’s a good chance she’ll be into it. However, if you two are just friends, this could be a little too forward. You could also try texting:^{[10]
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- “Home alone, pretty bored. What are you up to?”
- “Just sitting at home. Want to come keep me company?”

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“Hey sorry, I was asleep.”

If you want to avoid a late night booty call, this is the way to go. When a girl texts you “wyd” out of the blue in the middle of the night, she might have more sexual intentions than romantic ones. If you aren’t into hookup culture or you’re just not that into her, you can ignore her message until the morning. If you don’t want to respond at all, that’s okay, too.^{[11]
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- A “wyd” text is slightly lazy, and it doesn’t show a ton of effort on her part. If you think she’s just texting you out of obligation, you don’t have to respond if you don’t want to.
- You might also want to ignore a late night “wyd” if you know she’s been drinking.

Expert Q&A

Question

How do you start a conversation on a dating site example?

Mark Rosenfeld
Dating & Relationship Coach
Mark Rosenfeld is a Dating and Relationship Coach for women and founded Make Him Yours in 2015. Mark specializes in helping people find, attract, and keep extraordinary relationships. He has been featured in Style Magazine, Thought Catalog, Elite Daily, News.com.au, and The Good Men Project. Mark’s dating videos have received over 60 million views, and his book “Make Him Yours – Beating the Odds of Modern Dating” was a best-seller on Amazon on its release.

Mark Rosenfeld

Dating & Relationship Coach

Expert Answer

Most people open conversations with a question. But, if you want to stand out online, it's about sharing energy. And so statements are your best friend here. Most people send boring texts, and they don't represent themselves. They don't represent their personality in any kind of effective way over text. Great opening statements captures interest and relates to other people.