This article was co-authored by Julia McCurley. Julia McCurley is a Certified Professional Matchmaker, Relationship Coach, and the CEO of Something More, Austin's premier matchmaking service. She has been creating happy couples in Austin for over 12 years and has helped hundreds of singles on their journey to finding love. Her blogs have been published on the Huffington Post, Good Men Project, SheKnows, Emlovz, and The Dating Truth. She also just published her first book, Game Set Match: A Professional Matchmaker's Advice on How to Win At the Game Of Love. Julia holds a BA in Business and Communications from The University of Puget Sound and received her Master Executive Matchmaker Certification from The Matchmaking Institute.
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You have a crush on someone, unfortunately, they like someone else. Luckily, you have a chance of making them like you instead. It is actually more helpful for you if they already like someone else. If you start out by being friends and take the right steps from there, your crush's attention will be off of them and onto you in no time. The step below will guide you through making your crush stop liking another girl. if you like them and he like you and your best friend then make a group with him and give him things. ect.cupcakes, snacks, and new things
Steps
Befriending Them
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1Put yourself on the radar. When you form a friendship with them, it is okay to create reasons to get together. The more time you spend with your crush, the better.[1] Your crush may not be interested in you yet, but you should take this time to comfortably show them your personality and truly get to know them.
- Remember to have an online presence to always remind your crush of your existence.[2]
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2Find out what your crush likes about this other girl. This part is very important and only possible if you’re friends your crush. Mention their crush in a conversation and see what they say. Don’t settle for answers about how physically attractive she is. There must be more to her that they are attracted to and you have to find out what those traits are.Advertisement
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3Speak nicely. Don’t speak poorly of her. You may think that this will make her look bad, but you’ll be the one looking bad in the end. If you speak poorly of her, he’ll think you’re a negative person. Plus, people love a supportive girl. If you’re bashing your crush's opinions, you’re only hurting yourself.
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4Tell your crush their worth. While you don’t want to speak poorly of their current crush, you can start to get their mind out of that relationship by talking your crush up. Tell them that they are the full package and that they deserves the best. Tell them not to settle and that they should go after someone that they are friends with because the relationship will be stronger if that connection is already exists.
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5Be fun. While you’re still in the “friend zone,” it is a great time to show your crush your playful side. Everyone likes a girl that laughs at their jokes. They are intrigued by girls that aren’t always serious about everything.[3]
Turning His Attention to You
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1Use what you’ve learned. While being friends, you should have learned the likes and dislikes of your crush —about girls and in general. Use these things to your advantage. Show them that the two of you have similar interests in hobbies or activities. Also, show them that you have the personality traits that they are attracted to.
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2Stay close to them.[4] Don’t lose the friendship that you have created.[5] This shows him that you appreciate your crush as a person. When they realize that you are attracted to them, it will help create the image of you as “the whole package.” People want to be with someone that they are friends with and are attracted to.
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3Do not change who you are. While you want to adopt the personality traits that your crush is attracted to, you don’t want to completely change who you are.[6] Find a way to merge the traits that they like with your own. This way, the relationship has a chance long-term.
Flirting with them
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1Dress to impress.[7] When your crush first told you what they were attracted to in their crush, they probably mentioned a specific look that they liked. Try to mimic it. If your crush said they liked a certain part of her body, try to accentuate yours through your outfit. People are undoubtedly attracted by looks, so make yourself appealing.[8]
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2Interact with your crush. Make your conversations flirty and smile often.[9] Lean into him more when the two of you talk, keep laughing as they tell jokes, and create a physical connection. You can touch your crushes shoulder when you’re laughing, take their hand to lead them somewhere, or run your hand through their hair and comment on how nice it is.[10] Remember to always make eye contact.[11]
- It's important to try to run into them as much as possible in public places to improve your odds of success.[12]
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3Compliment your crushes body, they will will love your compliments because they will trust you, as a friend, that they are genuine. Also, it will show them that you notice their physical appearance. When you compliment your crush, they may feel the need to give one back, which gets them looking at you.
References
- ↑ Julia McCurley. Certified Professional Matchmaker. Expert Interview. 30 September 2021.
- ↑ Julia McCurley. Certified Professional Matchmaker. Expert Interview. 30 September 2021.
- ↑ http://time.com/2859728/science-of-sexy-5-things-that-can-make-you-irresistible/
- ↑ Julia McCurley. Certified Professional Matchmaker. Expert Interview. 30 September 2021.
- ↑ https://www.wattpad.com/51308263-how-to-make-your-crush-stop-liking-another-girl
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/fulfillment-any-age/201608/how-stay-true-yourself-in-your-relationship
- ↑ Julia McCurley. Certified Professional Matchmaker. Expert Interview. 30 September 2021.
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-attraction-doctor/201402/how-flirt-and-be-attractive
- ↑ Julia McCurley. Certified Professional Matchmaker. Expert Interview. 30 September 2021.
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-attraction-doctor/201202/how-flirt-and-seduce-touch-part-1
- ↑ Julia McCurley. Certified Professional Matchmaker. Expert Interview. 30 September 2021.
- ↑ Julia McCurley. Certified Professional Matchmaker. Expert Interview. 30 September 2021.
About This Article
If you want to make your crush start liking you instead of another girl, you’ll need to get his attention and keep it, while slowly showing him that you’re the better catch. As friends, show him how fun you are and make sure he knows that you think he’s great. When you talk, casually bring up his crush and ask what he likes about her. You might be tempted to trash talk the other girl, but you should be supportive and focus on how great he is instead, or else he might think you’re a negative person. When you hang out, show him you have all the qualities he likes in that other girl, plus more! For more tips, like how to flirt with your crush, read on!