This article was co-authored by Jason Polk, LCSW, LAC and by wikiHow staff writer, Madeleine Flamiano. Jason Polk is a Relationship Counselor and the Owner of Colorado Relationship Recovery. With over 12 years of experience as a therapist, he specializes in helping couples build healthy and thriving relationships through counseling. Jason holds an MSW from Newman University, Colorado Springs. He is also a Level II Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy (PACT) therapist, Healing Our Core Issues (HOCII) Certified therapist, and has training in Relational Life Therapy (RLT).
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Hearing that your husband cheated on you is devastating, and deciding to leave him takes a lot of emotional courage. Now, you’re finally ready to part ways with the man you love. We’ll share how to care for your psychological health, communicate with your husband about your choice, and make actionable plans to start fresh. Read on for some tips to take care of your heart and empower yourself during your new journey.
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QuestionHow do you tell your cheating husband that it's over?Jason Polk, LCSW, LACJason Polk is a Relationship Counselor and the Owner of Colorado Relationship Recovery. With over 12 years of experience as a therapist, he specializes in helping couples build healthy and thriving relationships through counseling. Jason holds an MSW from Newman University, Colorado Springs. He is also a Level II Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy (PACT) therapist, Healing Our Core Issues (HOCII) Certified therapist, and has training in Relational Life Therapy (RLT).
Relationship CounselorExplain that you have to stand up for your own personal values, and that you can't be in a relationship where someone is cheating. -
QuestionCan you still love someone who cheated on you?Jason Polk, LCSW, LACJason Polk is a Relationship Counselor and the Owner of Colorado Relationship Recovery. With over 12 years of experience as a therapist, he specializes in helping couples build healthy and thriving relationships through counseling. Jason holds an MSW from Newman University, Colorado Springs. He is also a Level II Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy (PACT) therapist, Healing Our Core Issues (HOCII) Certified therapist, and has training in Relational Life Therapy (RLT).
Relationship CounselorIt's absolutely possible to love someone who cheated on you! Still, it's important to put your own well-being above your feelings for your cheating partner.
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- ↑ Jason Polk, LCSW, LAC. Relationship Counselor. Expert Interview. 24 November 2021.
- ↑ https://www.divorcemag.com/articles/your-parting-words-how-to-break-the-news-responsibly
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- ↑ https://www.apa.org/topics/divorce-child-custody/healthy
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- ↑ https://www.apa.org/topics/divorce-child-custody/healthy
- ↑ Jason Polk, LCSW, LAC. Relationship Counselor. Expert Interview. 24 November 2021.
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- ↑ https://whatiscodependency.com/10-tips-to-self-love-and-compassion/
- ↑ https://www.helpguide.org/articles/relationships-communication/tips-for-finding-lasting-love.htm