This article was co-authored by Connell Barrett and by wikiHow staff writer, Hannah Madden. Connell Barrett is a Relationship Expert and the Founder and Executive Coach of Dating Transformation in New York City. Connell has over five years of experience as an international coach who helps men connect with women by unlocking their best, true, most confident selves. He is the author of the Amazon bestseller “Dating Sucks but You Don’t,” and has appeared on Good Morning America, the "Today" show, Access Hollywood, and in Best Life, Cosmopolitan, and The Oprah Magazine. In 2019 he was named Datezie.com's “New York City’s Best Male Dating Coach."
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You found the guy you really like, and now you two are dating. Is it time to kiss? If you answered yes to that question, keep reading.
Steps
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1Be willing and ready. First off, make sure you are kissing for yourself, not because your friends dared you to, or you have been dating so long that you are far past the make-out point. Do this for yourself, so make sure you are ready to kiss him, both physically and emotionally.
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2Get the obvious stuff out of the way. Have a fresh breath, and soft lips, look nice and make sure that the "touch barrier" has been broken with hugs and flirtatious gestures.
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3Get into the right place. This task is harder than people think, if it's hard to get into a place that is private, then the school might be the best place there is, for now, just make sure that you aren't being watched by a teacher or any other unwanted viewer.
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4Talk for a moment. If it's the end of the day, and you both are about to go your separate ways, then now is your chance, give him a hug and hold it for about 5 seconds, then pull back a bit, but don't move your arms.
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5Look into his eyes. Forget about being nervous. Think about this going great, because if you do this step properly, kissing will be the easiest thing in the world. Look into his eyes, tilt your head just a bit to avoid colliding, lean in and gently close your eyes, and kiss him.
- Try to look for a good window of opportunity! If he's in the mood to kiss, he'll be making eye contact and mirroring your body language.
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6Don't forget to breathe (breath gently in and out of your nose) and kiss his bottom lip. Hold the kiss for about 10 seconds, keeping your eyes closed, after about 10 seconds, pull away, smile at him, and be happy for the rest of the day.
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Staff AnswerwikiHow Staff EditorStaff AnswerAlways respect the person who you want to kiss, and don't force anything on them. If your boyfriend is uncomfortable with kissing, you should wait until he's ready.
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QuestionSo my friends dared me to kiss my bf. Does that count as our first kiss?wikiHow Staff EditorThis answer was written by one of our trained team of researchers who validated it for accuracy and comprehensiveness.
Staff AnswerwikiHow Staff EditorStaff AnswerIf you and your boyfriend have kissed and you want to count it as your first one, then yes, it counts! But if you did it because of a dare and you want a re-do, you 2 can always kiss again at a more appropriate time and count that one as your first kiss instead. It's up to you and your boyfriend to decide what your first kiss is.Support wikiHow by unlocking this staff-researched answer.
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QuestionWhat if he doesn't want to be kissed and freaks out? I'd be so embarrassed.wikiHow Staff EditorThis answer was written by one of our trained team of researchers who validated it for accuracy and comprehensiveness.
Staff AnswerwikiHow Staff EditorStaff AnswerIf your boyfriend doesn't want to kiss you, that's okay! Not everyone is ready to kiss in middle school. You should respect his wishes and try not to take it personally. If you're worried he might not be ready, try asking him directly.Support wikiHow by unlocking this staff-researched answer.
Warnings
- If you are kissing in school, don't do it in front of a teacher.⧼thumbs_response⧽
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