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This article was co-authored by John A. Lundin, PsyD. John Lundin, Psy. D. is a clinical psychologist with 20 years experience treating mental health issues. Dr. Lundin specializes in treating anxiety and mood issues in people of all ages. He received his Doctorate in Clinical Psychology from the Wright Institute, and he practices in San Francisco and Oakland in California's Bay Area.
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Self-efficacy refers to how much you believe in your ability to achieve a desired outcome.[1] Improving self-efficacy requires building trust and confidence in yourself and what you’re capable of doing. You’ll be able to drop self-doubt and tackle goals with vigor, zest, and a feeling of accomplishment. As a result, your relationship with yourself, your work, and others will be stronger and more genuine. Effectively setting goals, actively increasing your confidence, and taking on a positive mindset will help you believe in yourself and thrive!
Steps
Method 1
Method 1 of 3:
Setting Goals
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1Write down specific, attainable goals. Keep your capabilities and limitations in mind when you’re setting goals for yourself. Make sure that your goals aren’t overly broad as well. If you’re new to goal-setting altogether, start with very simple, easy tasks to give yourself a sense of accomplishment.[2]
- For instance, if you don’t have the money to travel this year, don’t set a goal that you’re going to visit most of the countries in Europe. If you do have the money to travel, state exactly which countries you’ll be visiting and for how long.
- If goal-setting is new to you, start with something simple like, “I will save an extra $10 this week.”
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2Use the SMART criteria to check your goals for efficiency. Look at your list of goals and assess whether they meet all of the criteria for effective goal setting. They should be specific, measurable, achievable, relevant, and time-bound. Assess your goals according to the following questions:[3]
- Specific: What actions will you take? What exactly is going to be accomplished?
- Measurable: What kind of data will measure whether you’ve met your goal?
- Achievable: Do you have the skills and resources you need to achieve the goal?
- Relevant: Why is the goal important? How does it match up with other goals?
- Time-bound: What’s the deadline for accomplishing the goal?
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3Prioritize goals based on timing and significance. Write down your various personal or professional goals and order them from 1 to 10 by how important or necessary they are to you. It may help to break up larger goals into smaller objectives to avoid overwhelming yourself. Pressing or time-sensitive goals like ones relating to your finances or health should come before long-term or recreational goals like retiring in a foreign country or learning a new language just for fun.[4]
- For instance, “pay off student loans” or “finish graduate school” might come before “take a year-long vacation.”
- However, feel free to order your goals in any way that makes sense to you. For example, if you place heavy significance on your intellectual growth, something like learning a new language might come before other goals. It’s up to you!
- Don’t judge yourself for your goals or the significance that you put on them.
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4Determine how you will measure whether you’ve met your goals. Break down the goal into pieces that you can measure. That way, you can track your progress and feel tiny bits of achievement from meeting smaller objectives.[5]
- For example, you might say, “I’ve achieved the goal of managing social anxiety when I’m able to go out by myself and talk to at least 1 stranger.”
- As another example, you might say you’ve achieved your goal of saving up for a vacation when you’ve saved an extra $800 in discretionary funds.
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5Give yourself a timeline to achieve your goal(s). Adding a deadline will create a sense of urgency, motivating you to work toward your goal each day (even when you’d rather slack off). Make sure to choose a time frame that is realistic and manageable.[6]
- For example, don’t set the goal of paying off a car loan within 12 months if you’re currently failing to meet monthly payments. Even if you work double the amount of time and make double the amount of money, it’d be better to extend the time frame to 3 or 5 years so you’re not exhausting yourself!
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6Don’t be afraid to ask for help if you need it. Asking for help isn’t a sign of weakness, it’s a sign that you’re aware that there are limits to what you alone can do when it comes to meeting a goal. If you feel like asking for help is a sign of failure, reframe your thinking to a much more compassionate approach.[7]
- For instance, instead of thinking, “I can’t do this by myself, I’m worthless!” reframe the thought as, “I could do this by myself, but I know I’ll learn more and do it better if I talk to somebody with more experience.”
- When asking for help, make sure your request is SMART: specific, meaningful (i.e., why you need it), action-oriented (i.e., ask for something to be done), real (i.e., not made up or exaggerated), and time-bound (i.e., when you need it).
- For example: “Hey Mary, can I ask you to look at this chapter for me? I need to edit it down by 5 pages and I’ve been laboring over it for weeks. I know you have a keen eye for language, so if you could make a few notes and send them my way within a month or so, I’d be most appreciative!”
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Method 2
Method 2 of 3:
Increasing Your Confidence
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1Try new things prove to yourself how strong and adaptable you are. Facing challenges and any fears you may have will help you overcome any anxiety you might feel about taking on larger goals. Think of challenges as accessories and reward your efforts whether you meet them or not.[8]
- For example, a good, simple challenge might be to go an entire day without your smartphone or social media. There’s nothing at stake, per se, but proving to yourself that you can do it will make you feel a sense of accomplishment.
- To help you try new things and meet challenges, visualize yourself doing the action you’d like to complete (like skiing or singing in front of an audience).
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2Surround yourself with people who believe in you.[9] Friends and loved ones can offer supportive words and keep you accountable when it comes to certain goals. Telling other people your goals can also make you more excited to accomplish things. Only share your aspirations with people who want the best for you so you feel comfortable telling them what you need and how they can offer moral support.[10]
- For example, when sharing a goal you might say, “I think I’m ready to start my own business, but I doubt myself a lot. I really need someone to remind me that I can do it when I’m feeling defeated.”
- If a friend or acquaintance has a habit of tearing other people down or being judgmental, it’s best to share your goals with someone else.
- You can also read stories of other people's achievements to inspire you, just avoid comparing yourself to your heroes in a discouraging way.
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3Remind yourself of your achievements and feel proud. Look back at your accomplishments, no matter how big or small, and give yourself a pat on the back! It can even be something as simple as a passive accomplishment like, “Well, I survived getting a root canal so I know I can make it through another.”[11]
- Avoid undermining your accomplishments by thinking, “Well, that wasn’t that hard anyway.”
- This is an especially helpful thing to do when the going gets tough and you’re lacking motivation. Think to yourself: “I’ve done this before, I can do it again!” or “This is all new to me, but I’ve done much harder things so I know I can do it!”
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4Exercise daily or at least 3 times a week to boost your mood. Physical exercise releases endorphins, which make you feel good about yourself and the world around you. Studies have shown that daily exercise can help manage anxiety, depression, and stress levels—things that people with low self-efficacy often experience.[12]
- Aim to do at least 30 minutes of aerobic exercise every day—enough to get your heart pumping and break a sweat. Running, jogging, swimming, biking, dancing, and martial arts are all great choices, but even a brisk walk will make a difference!
- Strength training has also been shown to boost confidence—set a goal to lift weights at least 2 to 3 times a week in addition to your aerobic routine.[13]
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Method 3
Method 3 of 3:
Fostering Positivity
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1Practice daily affirmations to validate yourself and improve your mood. Positive affirmations can increase self-efficacy by reminding yourself of your core values and reworking a negative disposition into positive energy. Practice them every day aloud, in the mirror, or silently in your head first thing in the morning or whenever you’re feeling down. Feel free to create your own, but here are a few to get you started:[14]
- “I trust that I am becoming my true self every day.”
- “I am my own superhero!”
- “I am able to adapt to any situation.”
- “I allow myself to be who I am without judgment.”
- “I am inspired by the world around me.”
- “I give myself permission to do what’s right for me.”
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2Keep a self-awareness journal to help you reframe cognitive distortions. Writing in a journal is a great way to examine your thoughts and, if necessary, question them. Studies have shown that expressive writing can improve your self-esteem and help you cope with traumatic or negative situations.[15]
- Think of it as an opportunity to purge your negative thoughts onto paper instead of carrying them with you.
- Reading over your writing will help you spot and challenge cognitive distortions like catastrophizing, black-and-white thinking, or over-personalizing something that’s out of your control.
- Reflect on your writing—particularly “I” statements—and ask yourself: “Would my best friend say this about me? Would I say this to my best friend?” For instance: “I can’t do anything right—I’m a waste of space.” You probably wouldn’t say that to someone you care about (or to anyone for that matter), so why say it to yourself?
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3Write down things that you’re grateful for. Studies show that taking a few minutes out of each day to write down things that you’re grateful for makes you happier and more confident. Thinking and writing about your many blessings will make you and more likely to see the world as a safe, trusting place, making it easier for you to set and tackle goals without fear or anxiety.[16]
- Keep the journal next to your bed so you can jot down a few things in the morning and at night.
- Use a notepad app on your phone when you’re on the go.
- Write a couple of things you’re grateful for on a post-it and stick it somewhere you’ll see it throughout the day (like on your desk or mirror).
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4Reframe obstacles as learning opportunities. Instead of seeing obstacles as irritating or bad, see them as an opportunity to learn and test your adaptability. If you have low self-efficacy, you might be prone to magnify any obstacles that arise (that is, make a mountain out of a mole-hill), but that’s your brain playing tricks![17]
- If you feel anxious about a certain obstacle in your way, remind yourself of how competent and adaptable you are.
- Think of unexpected setbacks as an adventure or take it on like you’re solving a puzzle.
- For example, if your fear of failure is an obstacle that prevents you from pursuing a new career, explore the source of your fear and reframe it as a cautious (but not necessary) voice in your head. Remind yourself that failure is subjective and extremely common—how you handle it makes all the difference.
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5Expose yourself to media that makes you feel good.[18] Certain movies, shows, books, and music can prime you to feel more negative about yourself and the world around you, so be mindful of the media that you consume. High exposure to social media platforms, in particular, has been linked to feelings of inadequacy, jealousy, and depression.[19]
- If you’re inclined to enjoy dark books, try something new by picking up something light and fun instead.
- You don’t have to give up dark or depressing books, movies, and shows altogether, just limit your exposure and sandwich your exposure between lighter activities (i.e., read funny or inspiring books before and after one that’s notably pessimistic).
- Delete your social media accounts or set a timer to only allow yourself 5 to 10 minutes a day.
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Warnings
- If you suspect you suffer from severe depression, anxiety, or other serious mental conditions that affect your self-esteem, consider talking to a mental health professional.⧼thumbs_response⧽
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References
- ↑ https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5513915/
- ↑ https://www.ucop.edu/local-human-resources/_files/performance-appraisal/How%20to%20write%20SMART%20Goals%20v2.pdf
- ↑ https://hbr.org/2014/12/5-ways-to-get-better-at-asking-for-help
- ↑ https://www.ucop.edu/local-human-resources/_files/performance-appraisal/How%20to%20write%20SMART%20Goals%20v2.pdf
- ↑ https://www.ucop.edu/local-human-resources/_files/performance-appraisal/How%20to%20write%20SMART%20Goals%20v2.pdf
- ↑ https://www.ucop.edu/local-human-resources/_files/performance-appraisal/How%20to%20write%20SMART%20Goals%20v2.pdf
- ↑ https://hbr.org/2014/12/5-ways-to-get-better-at-asking-for-help
- ↑ https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5513915/
- ↑ John A. Lundin, PsyD. Clinical Psychologist. Expert Interview. 1 August 2019.
- ↑ https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5513915/
- ↑ https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5513915/
- ↑ https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5068479/
- ↑ https://www.health.harvard.edu/staying-healthy/strength-training-builds-more-than-muscles
- ↑ https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4814782/
- ↑ https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3830620/
- ↑ https://www.health.harvard.edu/mind-and-mood/in-praise-of-gratitude
- ↑ https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5513915/
- ↑ John A. Lundin, PsyD. Clinical Psychologist. Expert Interview. 1 August 2019.
- ↑ https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4183915/
About This Article
John A. Lundin, PsyD
Clinical Psychologist
This article was co-authored by John A. Lundin, PsyD. John Lundin, Psy. D. is a clinical psychologist with 20 years experience treating mental health issues. Dr. Lundin specializes in treating anxiety and mood issues in people of all ages. He received his Doctorate in Clinical Psychology from the Wright Institute, and he practices in San Francisco and Oakland in California's Bay Area. This article has been viewed 9,894 times.
Co-authors: 9
Updated: September 3, 2021
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