How to Practice Self Care

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Last Updated: February 3, 2023 References Approved

Self-care activities can help you cope with stress and improve overall well-being. Practicing self-care is especially important if you have many responsibilities, like going to school, working at a stressful job, or taking care of a loved one. A good deal of practicing self care is learning how to understand your own needs emotionally, physically, and professionally. If you can understand your needs and learn to put yourself first sometimes, you'll be able to better take care of yourself and your other responsibilities.

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Practicing Emotional Self-Care

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Manage stress. Make attempts to manage and reduce stress in your life. Sources of stress might include having a lot to do with work, school, or taking care of someone else. Identify what you have control over, which is usually just your reaction to the stress.^{[1]
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- Taking 5-30 minutes every morning for meditation or morning pages.
- Using imagery by finding a quiet spot, closing your eyes, and using all of your senses to imagine a deeply relaxing and peaceful scene. Imagine a space that's meaningful and calming for you.
- Trying progressive muscle relaxation, where you alternatively tense and relax the muscles throughout your body.
- Practicing deep breathing.^{[3]
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- Trying tai-chi or yoga.
- Keeping a journal.
- Taking a hot bath or shower.
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Surround yourself with supportive people. Spend time with friends, family, and others who make you feel good about yourself. Choose people who respect your needs and boundaries. Make sure the people you spend time with are considerate, reliable, and supportive of your goals. Avoid people who drain you, belittle you, or stress you out.^{[4]
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Make time for fun. It's important to make time for fun and leisure, especially when you're stressed. Remember to engage in a variety of things for fun and involve other people. Try one of these ideas:
- Have a date night once a week with your spouse or with your friends.^{[5]
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- Re-read a favorite book.
- Watch a favorite movie.
- Find a hobby to enjoy.
- Listen to peaceful music.
- Buy an adult coloring book.
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Consider counseling. Know when you're feeling overwhelmed and don't be afraid to seek professional help. Needing to talk to somebody doesn't make you broken, it makes you human. Put effort into finding somebody you can trust and connect with. If you're not able to form a relationship with your therapist, the arrangement won't be beneficial. Counseling is beneficial to self-care because it: ^{[6]
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- Gives you a safe place to talk and process.
- Helps you deal better with daily stressors and worries.
- Allows you to get an objective opinion.
- Encourages you to live a better life.
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Give yourself affirmations.^{[7]
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- “I can do this.”
- “I believe in myself.”
- “I love and accept myself.”
- “I am doing my best.”
- “This too shall pass.”

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Practicing Physical Self-Care

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Exercise regularly. Moving around does so many great things for you and can be done in the comfort of your own home! Exercise for at least 30 minutes a day, even if it's just in 10-minute intervals. It's okay if you can't exercise every single day, just aim for most days of the week. Choose activities that are fun and interesting for you. Try to do a variety of different activities to keep things interesting. You can:^{[9]
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- Take the dog for a walk.
- Dance in your house.
- Do yard work.
- Join an exercise class at a local gym.
- Stretch or do yoga.
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Eat healthy foods.^{[10]
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Expert Interview. 19 June 2020.} Eating healthy foods will help keep you energized and your body healthy. When you're busy working or taking care of others, it can be difficult to plan and cook a healthy meal for yourself. Eventually though, the easy foods you tend to grab are going to drain you and leave you feeling unhealthy. Some ways to modify your diet a little to better take care of yourself:
- Eat whole grains.
- Eat more dark green vegetables.
- Eat a variety of fresh or frozen fruit.
- Choose low-fat or fat-free dairy products.
- Try a variety of lean proteins.
- Eat regular meals and snacks.
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Get adequate sleep. Make sure you're getting enough sleep each night. Most people need about 7-9 hours to feel at their best the next day. It can be difficult to take care of your sleep schedule when your stressed, overworked, busy with work or school, or caring for a sick loved one. Try to:
- Set a goal of when you want your bedtime to be and try to stick to it.
- Make sure your bedroom is free of distractions, such as the television.
- Get a sleep and exercise tracker, such as a FitBit, that tracks the quality of your sleep.
- Make your bedroom a peaceful place, with clean linens, comfortable bedding, and soft lighting.
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Monitor your physical health. Another practice of good physical self-care is ensuring you monitor your physical health. When you're sick, take time off work or school. Schedule regular appointments with your doctor. Make sure you're taking any prescriptions consistently and accurately.^{[11]
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- Take time to appreciate every amazing thing your body does. Remember that your body is working to keep you alive, so take care of it well. Pay attention to body sensations and notice spots of attention.
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Take a vacation. Schedule time-off from your responsibilities. Vacations don't necessarily have to be yearly trips to the beach, as those can be stressful and expensive. Vacations can be mini-breaks that you take from stress throughout the week or month. For example, schedule time off just for quiet and relaxation for half an hour every day. Find places inside or outside your home that are comforting to you.^{[12]
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- If you are able to take a trip away from home, plan your vacation so that it's not more work and stress for you. Don't schedule too many activities and over-extend yourself.
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Make time for intimacy. Physical touch is comforting, reassuring, and stress reducing. Hug a friend. Cuddle or hold hands with your partner. Don't neglect your sex life.^{[13]
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Practicing Professional Self-Care

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Schedule regular breaks. Make sure you take breaks to get up, walk around, and clear your thoughts at work when you're stressed. Don't work through your lunch break. Consider getting up to stretch or talk to coworkers to re-energize yourself. Also take regular breaks to get water.^{[14]
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Make your workplace comfortable. Try to create a workspace that makes you feel calm, capable, and motivated. This will reduce your stress load and help you feel more productive at work. You can:^{[15]
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- Buy plants for your office or cubicle.
- Declutter your desk.
- Make sure your chair is comfortable and adjusted well.
- Wear noise-canceling headphones to give yourself some quiet while working.
- Sit near a window for natural light, which is better than fluorescent lighting.
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Know when to negotiate. To better enjoy your job and reduce your stress load, know when to negotiate and when to ask for help. This will allow you to feel more empowered and less alone at work. Don't be afraid to advocate for yourself for a raise or promotion. Don't be afraid to ask for help from colleagues, superiors, or clients. Seek out opportunities for supervision, consultation, or training.^{[17]
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Don't take work home with you. In order to keep better work-life balance and reduce stress, try to avoid taking any work home with you. This means avoiding taking physical work home, as well as avoiding thinking about work while you're at home.
- If you work from home, schedule specified times for work-related tasks and don't let them interfere with home tasks. For example, after 5 p.m. make sure you stop checking emails or answering calls for work, even though you may technically be available. Keep a work space at home that's separate from your other spaces.^{[18]
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Method 4

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Improving Your Approach to Self-Care

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Put your own needs first. It's not selfish to put your own needs first. In fact, you'll be better able to help others when you've been focusing on your own health, both mentally and physically.
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Ask for help when you need it. It can be difficult to ask for or accept help when you need it. Putting up a “tough” front when you're stressed and feeling like you have to take care of everything will only drag you down. Let your friends and family help you.^{[19]
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- Make a list of things you need help with.
- Avoid weakening your requests, instead be specific.
- Consider the other person's abilities and interests when asking for help.
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Say “no” and set limits with others. Make sure you're not always the one helping everyone else out. You're only human and you can't do it all. Practice saying “no” to more responsibilities and saying “yes” to more opportunities for fun and connection with others.^{[21]
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- Keep in mind not to apologize when you have to say “no.” Often times we place far too much stress on ourselves. You don't have to apologize for refusing to take on anything too overwhelming that will compromise your own well being.
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Practice time management. Time management skills are essential to keep you less stressed and more productive. It's important to balance the demands in various areas of your life in order to better care for yourself.^{[22]
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- Make to-do lists.
- Schedule professional and personal activities using a calendar.
- Set precise, realistic, and small goals.
- Stop procrastinating.
- Create a morning ritual and stick to it.

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How do I get in the habit of practicing self-care?

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Create a morning ritual so you can be intentional on how you start your day, and also create an evening ritual to help you wind down. Each morning set time for yourself so that you can get grounded and start your day feeling inspired. Ideally, you would have an hour to do this, but if you can only afford 15 minutes to 30 minutes, that’s a good start. Meditate and write down an intention for the day in your journal. For your evening ritual, write down 3 things you're grateful for and why. Practicing gratitude can actually rewire your brain to be more positive.
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How can I improve my self care skills?

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Leah Morris is a Life and Relationship Transition coach and the owner of Life Remade, a holistic personal coaching service. With over three years as a professional coach, she specializes in guiding people as they move through both short-term and long-term life transitions. Leah holds a BA in Organizational Communication from California State University, Chico and is a certified Transformational Life Coach through the Southwest Institute for Healing Arts.

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Try to accept whatever you're going through so you can focus on what you need to feel better. For example, you might need to cry, find something fun to do, or simply eat a good meal. Good self-care is simply realizing what you need in the moment to recharge.