How to Get a Guy in 10 Days

Last Updated: February 5, 2022 References

It sounds like something straight out of a movie, but when it works, it's about as glorious as it is in the movies. Getting a guy in 10 days means you need to work extra fast, not be afraid to make the first move, and get yourself noticed in a significant way. It's not impossible, but it's hard, and you love the challenge, right? Read on for more information on how to get a guy in 10 days.

Part 1

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Making Contact, Starting to Flirt

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Get noticed. You need to make an impression, and you need to make it fast. Get your best outfit together, do your hair, makeup, and nails, and figure out a way to get introduced to him or make him notice you on your own.^{[1]
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Alessandra Conti
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Expert Interview. 23 April 2021.} Here are some suggestions:^{[2]
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- Accidentally bump into him or just bump shoulders. Perhaps you can pretend that you're rushing somewhere and accidentally bump up against him. When your eyes meet, introduce yourself.
- Ask a friend to introduce you. Have your friend talk to the guy. Have her play matchmaker, except don't let it be obvious.
- Go up to him yourself and engage him. Ask him a question about school, or pay him a compliment. Talk about an interest that you may share, or come up to him with a joke.
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Smile, laugh at his jokes, and send good body language. Show him your wonderful smile; it will light up the room and actually make you happier. If he makes a joke, remember to laugh, even if it isn't all that funny; guys like thinking they're funny. Do the little things to send him good body language:^{[3]
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- Look into his eyes when you're talking to him and when he's talking to you.
- Face toward him with your body and keep your posture open and inviting.
- Twirl your hair if you want him to notice it.
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Have a great conversation if you can.^{[4]
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Expert Interview. 23 April 2021.} Guys like girls who are pretty, but they also like girls who they can talk to. If they're attracted to you, but you have nothing to say to one another, your relationship isn't going to last very long.^{[5]
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- Some keys to having a great conversation:^{[6]
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  - Ask really good questions. Do this as a way to keep the conversation moving ("So where did you live before you moved here?") and as a way of letting him know that you're actively listening ("You said you didn't like action movies. What kind of movies are even left for a guy to like?").^{[7]
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  - Offer him information about yourself. He's probably interested in you, too, so don't spend the whole time asking him questions without volunteering information yourself.
  - Make light of a painfully awkward situation by calling attention to it humorously. If you find yourself in a really awkward situation, say so! "Sorry that was awkward, I'm the queen of that" is a funny way of defusing the situation.
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Start to break the touch barrier. After a few days, start hinting that you'd like to move beyond the simple friendship by using your hands to break the touch barrier. If you're trying to make a point, tap him on the hand. If you're trying to console him (perhaps as a joke), give him a reassuring back-pat. If he's very playful, you might even tickle him and get good results.^{[8]
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Start flirting with him in a variety of ways.^{[9]
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Alessandra Conti
Celebrity Matchmaker & Dating Coach
Expert Interview. 23 April 2021.}You can pretty much flirt in three different ways:
- Via text or the internet:^{[10]
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  - Send him a text saying something like: "Hey! I really enjoyed having that talk last week. Hope it can happen again soon...."
  - Or send him a text in a more joking style: "Since when do you look like a cave monster in the morning?? :-) You look like you didn't get any sleep!"
- Via body language:^{[11]
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  - Twirling your hair, batting your lashes subtly, and giggling sweetly.
  - Rubbing his chest or thighs, which is very suggestive; use sparingly.
- Via compliments:
  - Try something like: "So how often do girls attach themselves to you like magnets when you step outside?"
  - Or maybe something like: "You're really fun to talk to. Why is it that a special guy like you doesn't have a girlfriend?"

Part 2

Part 2 of 3:

Dress to Impress and Look the Part

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For 10 straight days, wear your absolute best clothes.^{[12]
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Expert Interview. 23 April 2021.} Keep a good balance between casual and formal, bombshell and girl-next-door, absolutely stunning and subtly sexy. Don't be afraid to take chances with your style, but above all, be sure that what you're wearing is the best possible outfit.^{[13]
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- If you feel like getting that extra top or those one pair of jeans will set you over the top, go for it. It's okay to reward yourself, especially if it makes you feel good.
- If you have a sense of what type of girl he likes, try to dress the part. Don't be anyone you're not, but try to incorporate elements of that style into your wardrobe.
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Always be clean. Make sure you smell good by taking a shower at a good time every day. If you can't take a shower for whatever reason, give the smelly parts of your body, especially your underarms, a mini bath by lathering up with soap and rinsing with a bit of water.^{[14]
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- Make sure your hair isn't greasy. Greasy hair, for the most part, is not attractive. If you have very oily skin, you may need to shampoo your hair every two days (or every day if it's really bad).^{[15]
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Pay attention to how your face looks. Your face is a big part of what will attract him to you, so make sure that it looks as pretty as possible. There aren't any big changes that you can make in 10 days, but definitely focus on:
- Eliminating pimples and acne. If you have breakouts, wash your face twice a day, moisturize after each wash, eat healthy, and use acne-busting products.^{[16]
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- Use minimal makeup to cover up blemishes or imperfections. Guys like girls with natural looks, so don't cake the makeup on. Use it sparingly but effectively.
- Get your facial hair under control, if necessary. If your eyebrows are shaggy, consider getting them sculpted. If you have visible hair on your lip, consider removing it.^{[17]
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- Make your lips look luscious and kissable. A small amount of lip balm and lip gloss could send your lips into unstoppable kissable territory.
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Find a style for your hair that works. Maybe you love the way that your hair looks. If you don't, it'll be important to find a hairstyle that fits your face.^{[18]
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Start exercising. 10 days won't be a lot of time for you to get back in shape, but it will be a good start. What's important is that you're treating your body with love and giving it what it needs. Try any combination of the following if you feel like you want to get back in shape.^{[19]
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- Join an intramural sports team/league. If you love playing soccer, try to join a league. If basketball is good fit, get together with another group of basketball lovers. Join any team that makes you want to exercise.
- Consider joining a gym or using gym equipment. Joining a gym will let you take advantage of lots of different equipment, all under one roof. Use the gym to do cardio exercises like running (treadmill, incline), swimming, and cycling (spinning).^{[20]
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- If nothing else, try to walk for 30 minutes every day. Walking for 30 minutes every day gives your body a small, but important, bit of exercise. If you can't join a sports team or gym, and don't want to do cardio, then walking will help you exercise.^{[21]
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Part 3

Part 3 of 3:

Getting Him Committed To You

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Gently suggest the idea of a date if he hasn't already.^{[22]
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Expert Interview. 23 April 2021.} You want to nudge him in the right direction if he hasn't already asked you on a date. You can do this in a variety of ways:^{[23]
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- Be really bold and up-front: "Why is it that you haven't asked me on a date yet?" If he likes you, he'll ask you right away.
- Be sly: "My friend and I were going to go to the movies tomorrow night, but she cancelled and now I don't know what to do." He could suggest that you two do something instead.
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If he's not budging, get your friend to "accidentally" spill that you like him (optional). You don't need to do this, but if you want to get a guy in 10 days, you need to be more forward than normal. This is popular for two reasons:
- Sometimes the guy likes you but doesn't really know how to show his feeling or ask you out on a date. If he knows that you like him back, it could give him the courage to actually ask out because he's not afraid of being rejected.
- If the guy doesn't like you, after this, you'll know. You can look 50 shades of beautiful and still not convince a guy to like you. That's just the way life is sometimes. If your friend tells him that you like him and he doesn't act, what's the use of going after him? There could be very little that you can do to get him to like you short of forcing him to be your boyfriend, and you don't want that.
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Go on that date. Whether you go to the movies, a bowling alley, an art museum, or a walk in the park, try to balance out two ideas: Show him that you like him, but still make him do some work. Guys like encouragement, so give him nice smiles, thank him for paying if he does, and get close to him. At the same time, guys like a little bit of a chase, so don't throw yourself onto him just quite yet. Be friendly without being totally head over heels just quite yet.^{[24]
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Wait for him to make the first move within nine days. Chances are that if he likes you and you've gone on a couple dates, he'll try to kiss you. (Always bring breath mints, they're a lifesaver!) If he hasn't tried to kiss you, you need to give him better signals that he should kiss you:^{[25]
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- Get closer to him than you usually do. Let your face get closer to his face so that he doesn't have to move as far to kiss you.
- Look at him longingly in his eyes. Fix his eyes with yours.
- Lick your lips seductively. This is really easy to overdo, so don't do it very often. Once is plenty!
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Be patient. Getting a guy in 10 days is certainly possible, but you can't rush love. Once you've got him to kiss you, you're on a good path. Love should come easy from now on, if you let it. Remember, though, that guys are a different breed from girls, and that what he wants might not be the same as what you want.
- He might not want to rush into a relationship. He might want to casually date before committing to you.
- He might not be as communicative as you are. He probably won't be as expressive with his feelings as you are with yours.
- He might act macho in front of his friends. He's just trying to impress you.
- He might not understand the idea of romance. He might need to be pushed and nudged and told how to be romantic.

Expert Q&A

Question

How do you turn a friend into a boyfriend?

Alessandra Conti
Dating Coach
Alessandra Conti is a Celebrity Matchmaker, Dating Coach, and Co-Founder of Matchmakers In The City, a personal Matchmaking firm headquartered in Los Angeles, California. Alessandra is a Matchmaker behind MTV's, “Are You The One”, and is the go-to Celebrity Matchmaker for shows like NBC's Access Hollywood, and CBS's Face The Truth. Her dating and relationship advice has been featured on Forbes, Elite Daily, The New Yorker, The LA Times, and Fox News. For nearly 10 years, Alessandra has worked with clients ranging from celebrities to young professionals and leads a team of matchmakers responsible for hundreds of marriages through their knowledge of interpersonal relationships, body language, and lie detection. She holds a BA in Communications from American University and is a Matchmaking Institute Certified Matchmaker (CMM).

Alessandra Conti

Dating Coach

Expert Answer

I think that flirting is such a lost art. I'm a big believer that injecting flirting into your interactions with the guy that you're excited about. So it's important for women to indicate interest through verbally complimenting the guy and saying, Oh my gosh, I had such an amazing time. You're such a great guy, I'd love to see you again, let me know.
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How do I make myself more attractive to guys?

Alessandra Conti
Dating Coach
Alessandra Conti is a Celebrity Matchmaker, Dating Coach, and Co-Founder of Matchmakers In The City, a personal Matchmaking firm headquartered in Los Angeles, California. Alessandra is a Matchmaker behind MTV's, “Are You The One”, and is the go-to Celebrity Matchmaker for shows like NBC's Access Hollywood, and CBS's Face The Truth. Her dating and relationship advice has been featured on Forbes, Elite Daily, The New Yorker, The LA Times, and Fox News. For nearly 10 years, Alessandra has worked with clients ranging from celebrities to young professionals and leads a team of matchmakers responsible for hundreds of marriages through their knowledge of interpersonal relationships, body language, and lie detection. She holds a BA in Communications from American University and is a Matchmaking Institute Certified Matchmaker (CMM).

Alessandra Conti

Dating Coach

Expert Answer

Being happy in your life is the most basic, it sounds so basic, but it's so vital to attracting a partner. Because if you're not happy in your life, you are not going to attract anybody, let alone a romantic partner. So really working on your own actual mental well being, mental happiness is so important. Physical appearance plays a major role in attracting guys. So getting your body in shape, getting fit, or like the best version of yourself through physical activity and that kind of physical self care.

Warnings

Don't ever change yourself for a guy. You are beautiful and attractive on the inside, and that's what truly matters. The perfect guy will understand this.

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