This article is based on an expert interview with Kelli Miller, LCSW, MSW, conducted by wikiHow Staff Editors. Kelli Miller is a Psychotherapist based in Los Angeles, California. Kelli specializes in individual and couples therapy focusing on relationships, depression, anxiety, sexuality, communication, parenting, and more. Kelli also facilitates groups for those struggling with alcohol and drug addiction as well as anger management groups. She is the author of “Professor Kelli’s Guide to Finding a Husband” and the award-winning and best-selling book “Thriving with ADHD”. Kelli co-hosted an advice show on LA Talk Radio and is a relationship expert for The Examiner. She received her MSW (Masters of Social Work) from the University of Pennsylvania and a BA in Sociology/Health from the University of Florida.
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If you feel like a friendship is one-sided, it’s likely the other person doesn’t know that you’re upset. Keeping your feelings inside can only cause you more pain. In this video, Licensed Clinical Social Worker Kelli Miller gives advice for how to be open and honest about your feelings, so that you can have those necessary discussions with a friend in a non-defensive way.
Key Takeaways
- If you feel like your friendship with someone is one-sided, it’s best to be open and honest about how you’re feeling.
- There’s a good chance your friend isn’t even aware that what they’re doing is upsetting you.
- Try to explain how you feel to your friend without getting defensive or lashing out.
Video Transcript
We should always be open and honest. A lot of times people hurt without realizing it. I think we have tendencies to go off on our own narratives, while the other person has no idea what's happening. So I'd always assume that your friend doesn't know that you're upset. And that way you can go in really explaining what you're feeling and not being defensive.
