Do you miss your girlfriend so much that you can hardly think straight? Being apart is hard and we totally get that! Luckily, there are lots of things you can do to start feeling better now. In this article, we'll share a few sweet ideas that can help you feel closer to your girlfriend and talk about ways you can use healthy distractions to get your mind off things. If you're ready to start feeling better, read on!

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Send her a sweet “I miss you” text.

  1. Simply sharing how you feel can help you feel better. If you’re missing your girl and it’s really weighing on you, reach out and tell her! She’ll love getting a random text about how much you miss her; after all, she misses you, too![1] You can comfort each other. Sometimes, that’s all you need to feel better.[2] You might text her something like:
    • I can’t stop thinking about you! 💋 So excited to see you again.
    • I wish you were here. I miss everything about you so much! 😘
    • Nothing feels the same when you’re away ❤️
    • I miss you like crazy! How do we fix that? 🤔
    • Just heard our song 🎶💕 it made me think of you.
    • I miss your beautiful face. 😍 When will I see you again?
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Give her a call and talk about it.

  1. When you can hear her voice, she won’t seem so far away. At the end of the day, bottling up your emotions up isn't good for you. Chances are, your girlfriend misses you just as much as you miss her, so a quick call will probably boost her mood, too. It's normal to feel a little lonely without her, but making that connection reminds you that you aren’t truly alone.[4] You might say something like:
    • ”Hey Jill! I know we usually chat on Tuesday nights, but I couldn’t wait. I really just needed to hear your voice. I miss you so much."
    • ”Hey you! It’s a bit late for a phone call, I know, but I miss you so much.”
    • ”I miss you, Becca! Like, on a “missing you” scale of 1 to 10, I’m registering a solid 234 tonight.”
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Write her a good old-fashioned letter.

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Throw yourself into your hobbies and interests.

  1. Healthy distractions are a great way to get your mind off things. Think about hobbies you truly enjoy but haven’t done in a while. For example, if you love playing guitar but haven’t picked up the instrument in years, why not get back into it? It will be fulfilling to reignite that passion and you’ll be able to share your experiences with your girlfriend (who knows, maybe you can even write her a special song!)[7] For example, you can try:
    • Joining a local sports group or club
    • Hiking or rock climbing
    • Painting, drawing, or photography
    • Starting a blog to review sci-fi films
    • Interactive video games (Fortnite, Final Fantasy, etc.)
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Hang out with your friends and family.

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Do something nice for yourself.

  1. Taking time for self-care makes you a happier, healthier partner. Try to eat a healthy diet and get enough sleep so you can face each day with a positive outlook. If you feel overwhelmed, go for a long walk or take a scenic bike ride until you feel grounded again. Treat yourself to something nice like a new pair of shoes, your favorite dessert, a new haircut, concert tickets—anything that'll boost your mood and make you feel good about yourself. You deserve it!
    • Try to have compassion for yourself and remember: you and your girlfriend won’t always be apart! This is temporary.[10]
    • If you can, reframe your situation in a positive light and try to hold fast to that positivity.
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Start planning your next date or visit.

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Exchange a few physical belongings.

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Find cool new ways to do things "together."

Expert Q&A

  • Question
    Is it bad to miss your girlfriend?
    Christina Jay, NLP
    Christina Jay, NLP
    Matchmaker & Certified Life Coach
    Christina Jay is a Matchmaker and Certified Life Coach based in Toronto, Ontario, Canada. Christina is the founder of Preferred Match (preferredmatch.ca), her matchmaking service that finds love for successful and elite individuals. She has over 10 years of coaching experience, earned her NLP (Neuro-linguistic Programming) certification through NLP Canada Training, and has a BA in Business Administration from Brock University.
    Christina Jay, NLP
    Matchmaker & Certified Life Coach
    Expert Answer
    No, it's totally normal to miss someone when you're dating and they aren't around. Tell them how you feel! I'm sure she feels the same way.
  • Question
    How can I stop missing her?
    Christina Jay, NLP
    Christina Jay, NLP
    Matchmaker & Certified Life Coach
    Christina Jay is a Matchmaker and Certified Life Coach based in Toronto, Ontario, Canada. Christina is the founder of Preferred Match (preferredmatch.ca), her matchmaking service that finds love for successful and elite individuals. She has over 10 years of coaching experience, earned her NLP (Neuro-linguistic Programming) certification through NLP Canada Training, and has a BA in Business Administration from Brock University.
    Christina Jay, NLP
    Matchmaker & Certified Life Coach
    Expert Answer
    You could work out, spend time with your friends and family, or cook a super fancy meal. You can also go on a little trip just to clear your head. Sometimes, a simple change of scenery can really be helpful.
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References

  1. Christina Jay, NLP. Matchmaker & Certified Life Coach. Expert Interview. 3 March 2021.
  2. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/compassion-matters/202009/how-cope-missing-people
  3. https://www.joinonelove.org/learn/6-things-to-consider-before-sending-nudes/
  4. Christina Jay, NLP. Matchmaker & Certified Life Coach. Expert Interview. 3 March 2021.
  5. https://www.bbc.com/future/article/20200414-how-to-maintain-relationships-in-self-isolation
  6. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/compassion-matters/202009/how-cope-missing-people
  7. Christina Jay, NLP. Matchmaker & Certified Life Coach. Expert Interview. 3 March 2021.
  8. Christina Jay, NLP. Matchmaker & Certified Life Coach. Expert Interview. 3 March 2021.
  9. https://themilitarywifeandmom.com/boyfriend-in-basic-training/

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This article was co-authored by Christina Jay, NLP and by wikiHow staff writer, Amber Crain. Christina Jay is a Matchmaker and Certified Life Coach based in Toronto, Ontario, Canada. Christina is the founder of Preferred Match (preferredmatch.ca), her matchmaking service that finds love for successful and elite individuals. She has over 10 years of coaching experience, earned her NLP (Neuro-linguistic Programming) certification through NLP Canada Training, and has a BA in Business Administration from Brock University. This article has been viewed 61,438 times.
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