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The LGBT community is openly growing faster than ever, but it can still be difficult to find gay and bisexual men. Location plays a large role in making that search easier. Unfortunately, relocating isn’t always an option. If you’re looking to meet gay and bisexual men, you can join groups, attend events, and download apps on your phone to put yourself out there.
Steps
Surrounding Yourself with LGBT People
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1Know the LGBT community in your state. In the last few decades, studies have been dedicated to create maps of demographics of sexual orientation. The studies show that the west coast and the states of New England have the highest percentage of LGBT people. States in the Midwest have a very low percentage. If you are looking to surround yourself with gay and bisexual men, it will be easier to do if you live in a state with a more expansive LGBT community. [1]
- Highest LGBT community: California, Oregon, Maine, Massachusetts, Nevada, South Dakota, Vermont and Washington
- Lowest LGBT community: Idaho, Mississippi, Montana, North Dakota, Pennsylvania, Tennessee, and Utah
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2Go into the city. Cities have higher percentages of LGBT people than rural areas. Taking a trip into a major city will heighten your chances of finding gay and bisexual men. Atlanta, Boston, San Francisco, and Seattle are the cities with the highest percentage of LGBT people.[2]
- If you're unable to go to a big city you can still meet gay guys in a small town.
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3Find gay villages. Gay villages are areas, typically in a large city, that are recognized with a selection of bars, restaurants, festivals, and attractions that cater to gay and bisexuals. The best way to find these is simply by word of mouth. You can also use gay neighborhood websites, or you can ask a realtor who knows the area.
Downloading Apps
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1Download Grindr. Grindr is a free app that you can download straight to your phone. It’s the world’s leading social network app exclusively for gay, bi and curious men. Simply go into your app store and search Grindr. Upload your photos and enter the zip code that you’re looking to find gay and bisexual men in.[3]
- Not only will Grindr help you find gay and bisexual men, but it narrows down guys by asking ways to filter your search.
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2Download Grindr Xtra. Grindr Xtra costs $.99 but offers some updates compared to Grindr. Especially if you’re using an iPad, Grindr Xtra is encouraged over Grindr. There was fixes made to prevent crashes and bugs that occurred with Grindr. Also, Grindr Xtra is ad free, so you won’t waste time being distracted by banner ads.
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3Download Lavendr. Lavendr is a free gay dating app that allows you to browse gay men in your local community. It gives you the ability to chat, share location, flirt, and meet with gay and bisexual men. You create a profile and it is open for other users to search even when you’re not using the app. Simply setting up the profile can help gay and bisexual men find you.
Attending Events
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1Find LGBT events. Getting in contact with the LGBT center in your community (if you have one) is going to be the fastest way to find LGBT events. They have a calendar of events, and give you the option to host events.
- If you live in New York City, the LGBT Community Center has a calendar of events. Even if you don’t live in the city, they can suggest venues and reasons to host your own event. They can provide a Meeting & Conference Services team that will further help you in your event planning.[4]
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2Check out a Grindr event. If you don’t live in New York, you can still find pre-planned events. Grinder regularly hosts prides, parties, and events. You can find the events along the bottom of your app screen.
- Also look at the ad banners when you log in. They ads are specifically designed for Grindr and focus on the demographic that you’re looking for. Clubs and bars that advertise on Grindr are a great way to meet gay and bisexual men.
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3Attend a national event. Prides have been growing every year. The most popular one is in Provincetown, MA. This is their Carnival week and typically happens in late August. Anytime you visit PTown, there is likely to be an event. Even if there isn’t, the town is nationally recognized as one of the most popular resorts among gay travelers and you will have no trouble meeting gay and bisexual men.
Community Q&A
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QuestionI have ED, but I still want the attention of a bi man. Can I still find someone who will be interested in me?
Community AnswerYes, you can find someone who will be interested in you despite your ED. -
QuestionHow do I find a bisexual guy if I'm a woman?
Community AnswerYou can follow most of the steps in this article the same, but I would recommend signing up for some dating websites and filtering your matches by sexuality in order to only see your bisexual matches. -
QuestionIs it possible for a straight man to be in love with a gay man?Community AnswerIf a straight man was in love with a gay man, then it wouldn't really be accurate to call him straight.
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References
- ↑ http://williamsinstitute.law.ucla.edu/research/census-lgbt-demographics-studies/demographics-of-married-and-unmarried-same-sex-couples-analyses-of-the-2013-american-community-survey/
- ↑ http://williamsinstitute.law.ucla.edu/research/census-lgbt-demographics-studies/demographics-of-married-and-unmarried-same-sex-couples-analyses-of-the-2013-american-community-survey/
- ↑ http://www.grindr.com/
- ↑ https://gaycenter.org/
About This Article
It can be tough connecting with gay and bisexual men in your area, especially if you live in a small town without a big LGBTQ scene. However, you may be able to find bi and gay men near you by using social apps and attending LGBTQ-friendly events where you live. Try downloading a dating app like Grindr, which is specifically for gay and bisexual men. You can also try Lavendr, a dating app for gay users, which offers additional messaging and chat features. Going to events or venues where bi and gay men are likely to hang out is also a good way to meet people. For example, you could try going to a pride parade, a local Grindr event, or an LGBTQ mixer at a local venue. For tips on how to find areas with larger gay and bi communities, such as major metropolitan areas or gay villages, read on!
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