Whether he’s a good friend or someone you just met, we know standing out in a crowd and getting a boy to notice you can be tough. Luckily, there are a ton of things you can do to catch his eye and keep him interested. We have a ton of tips to help you get his attention from a distance and eventually hold a conversation so you can get to know him better!

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Act confident.

  1. Guys are attracted to people who feel secure and self-assured. Be proud of who you are and put yourself out there to show that you’re comfortable with who you are. Rather than second-guessing yourself or comparing yourself to someone else, recognize what you’re good at so you can boost your self-esteem. If the boy sees that you’re already happy with yourself, he’ll be a lot more interested in getting to know you.[3]
    • Avoid trying too hard since it might seem unnatural and show-offy.[4]
    • You can build up your confidence by listing the things you’re good at, using positive self-talk, and writing down your achievements.[5]
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Wear your favorite perfume or cologne.

  1. Having a signature scent makes him notice and remember you when he smells it. Try out a few different fragrances to see which one you like the best. Just spritz a little bit on your body every day so the scent doesn’t get too overpowering. Whenever you see the guy, try to walk past him so he can smell it. If he likes it, then he might look your way or approach you. Even if he doesn’t do anything right away, he’ll still think of you each time he smells your fragrance.[7]
    • If the guy doesn’t react to the smell of your perfume or cologne, try out a different scent to see if it works better.
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Use open body language.

  1. Keeping your arms at your sides and turning toward him invites him to talk to you. If you want to look more approachable, keep your arms at your sides instead of crossing them in front of you. Turn your body towards the boy so you’re facing him and lean in closer if you’re already near him. Try to avoid crossing your legs, turning away from him, or tensing up, since that could make him think you’re closed off or uncomfortable.[8]
    • Try mirroring his body language. If he sees you doing the same thing as him, he might be more likely to come talk to you.
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Try making the first move.

  1. Directly approaching him lets him know your intentions right up front. While you can wait for him to approach you, he could be a little shy or not know what to say. If you’re feeling confident and want to take the pressure off of him, try approaching him first rather than waiting. If you haven’t met, just introduce yourself so you can get to know him. If he’s someone you’re already familiar with, start some casual small talk.[11]
    • For example, you could say, “Hey, I saw you across the room and I just wanted to say hi. I’m Gina.”
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Ask him some questions.

  1. Learn more about him so he gets engaged in the conversation. Show the guy that you’re curious about who he is and come up with a few fun things to ask. You could talk about his favorite movie, where he grew up, what he likes to do for fun, or any other non-controversial topic. While he’s talking, be attentive and listen to show him that you really care and want to get to know him.[13]
    • For example, you could ask things like, “What are your favorite things to do in your free time?” or “What’s been the most exciting part of your day so far?”
    • Try to avoid topics like religion or politics if you’re just meeting the guy since it could be a little taboo.
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Show off your sense of humor.

Expert Q&A

  • Question
    Why is making eye contact so important?
    Cristina Morara
    Cristina Morara
    Dating Coach
    Cristina Morara is a Professional Matchmaker, Dating Coach, Relationship Expert, and the Founder of Stellar Hitch Private Matchmaking, a luxury matchmaking service based in Los Angeles that serves clients nationwide and internationally. As a former casting director, Cristina specializes in finding the perfect partner through her exclusive global network and detailed, warm approach. Cristina holds a BA in Communications and Psychology from Villanova University. Stellar Hitch has been featured in the Huffington Post, Chelsea Handler’s Netflix documentary, ABC News, the Tonight Show, Voyage LA, and the Celebrity Perspective.
    Cristina Morara
    Dating Coach
    Expert Answer
    It communicates confidence, and it puts people at ease if you maintain positive body language and smile. It's honestly one of those little things that can make a world of difference when it comes to connecting with someone.
  • Question
    How can I get a guy to talk to me?
    Cristina Morara
    Cristina Morara
    Dating Coach
    Cristina Morara is a Professional Matchmaker, Dating Coach, Relationship Expert, and the Founder of Stellar Hitch Private Matchmaking, a luxury matchmaking service based in Los Angeles that serves clients nationwide and internationally. As a former casting director, Cristina specializes in finding the perfect partner through her exclusive global network and detailed, warm approach. Cristina holds a BA in Communications and Psychology from Villanova University. Stellar Hitch has been featured in the Huffington Post, Chelsea Handler’s Netflix documentary, ABC News, the Tonight Show, Voyage LA, and the Celebrity Perspective.
    Cristina Morara
    Dating Coach
    Expert Answer
    Ask a lot of open-ended questions. Be genuine and comfortable. If you seem open to talking and you prompt him to talk about himself, he should open up a bit. Just try to keep things light at first!
  • Question
    What's a bold way to ask a guy out?
    Cristina Morara
    Cristina Morara
    Dating Coach
    Cristina Morara is a Professional Matchmaker, Dating Coach, Relationship Expert, and the Founder of Stellar Hitch Private Matchmaking, a luxury matchmaking service based in Los Angeles that serves clients nationwide and internationally. As a former casting director, Cristina specializes in finding the perfect partner through her exclusive global network and detailed, warm approach. Cristina holds a BA in Communications and Psychology from Villanova University. Stellar Hitch has been featured in the Huffington Post, Chelsea Handler’s Netflix documentary, ABC News, the Tonight Show, Voyage LA, and the Celebrity Perspective.
    Cristina Morara
    Dating Coach
    Expert Answer
    Just be super direct if you want to go this route. Say something like, "I just want to let you know, if you were to ask me out on a date, I'd say yes."
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Warnings

  • Just because you get a boy’s attention doesn’t necessarily mean he’s attracted to you. It may take some time to develop feelings.
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