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This article was co-authored by Chloe Carmichael, PhD. Chloe Carmichael, PhD is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist who runs a private practice in New York City. With over a decade of psychological consulting experience, Dr. Chloe specializes in relationship issues, stress management, self esteem, and career coaching. She has also instructed undergraduate courses at Long Island University and has served as adjunct faculty at the City University of New York. Dr. Chloe completed her PhD in Clinical Psychology at Long Island University in Brooklyn, New York and her clinical training at Lenox Hill Hospital and Kings County Hospital. She is accredited by the American Psychological Association and is the author of “Nervous Energy: Harness the Power of Your Anxiety” and “Dr. Chloe's 10 Commandments of Dating.”
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Individuality is a precious thing and when you feel that yours is being taken away you often feel threatened. People copy other people for a variety of reasons and understanding why someone is copying you can help you deal with any insecurity or resentment. Whether you think it’s flattering or annoying, imitation has its place in developing who you are as an individual.
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Method 1
Method 1 of 3:
Viewing Imitation as Flattery
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1Consider why she is copying you. Maybe she is copying you because she likes your style, personality, or another aspect of your person. Stay positive and look to lead by example rather than belittle or bemoan.[1]
- Take into consideration that she may not even realize that she is mimicking you but is doing so out of a subconscious admiration.
- Examine your idols and mentors and whether or not you have incorporated any aspects of her being into who you are: how would you want her reacting to you if she knew you were looking up to her? Part of what gives celebrities their value is that they aren’t directly exposed to those they influence whereas you most likely will see the person who is copying you quite frequently.[2]
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2Approach the topic subtly. Acknowledge that someone copying your style doesn’t make you less unique. By acknowledging what makes you unique, you accept that you are your own person and you can then impart the same sense of self-confidence to the person copying you.[3]
- Compliment whatever you feel she is copying of yours especially if it is a different take than your own. For example, if you feel that she has been copying the way you wear pumps with jeans, compliment her when she chooses flats. Realize that she may be extremely insecure and her self-esteem may be fragile or non-existent.[4]
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3Consider changing your style or mannerisms. Focus on what you can change rather than what you can’t control. Adopting a new style can provide you with an opportunity to evaluate what matters to you and what truly composes your sense of style.
- Keep your preferences to yourself. If she is copying your style or mannerisms, try to change things up for a period of time. This will force her to look for other inspirations.[5]
- Look to other style icons and deconstruct what elements you’d like to adopt as your own; better yet, have a discussion with her about what style you think suits the both of you individually.
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4Treat the person as you want to be treated. A person imitating someone else may be very insecure, so give her a boost of confidence by keeping positive.[6] With your help, she may eventually develop her own sense of style and self worth. Confidence can empower the both of you.
- Copying can be a developmental phase or a sign that a person is feeling empty.[7] Recognize the power of friendship and communication.
- Enlist the aid of others within your common circle. Just because she is copying you doesn’t mean that you are alone in the situation. Including others can help her find her own sense of self from gleaning from a larger sample size.
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5Offer help to someone copying you at school or in the office. If someone is copying your work, chances are that she doesn’t fully understand the instructions or her personal schedule has put her behind the deadline and she sees you as a reliable source. Politely state that she should be doing her own work because both of you could get into trouble and, more importantly, she is not learning from the given assignment. We all have different aptitudes so be patient with others who have trouble learning something you find easy. [8]
- As the old adage goes, “give a man a fish and you’ll feed him for a day; teach a man to fish and you’ll feed him for a lifetime.” Rather than give someone complete access to your work, address the problem at its root and find out why she is copying your work. Whether it’s a problem in comprehension or scheduling, identifying why someone is copying your work will avoid any repeat infractions.
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Method 2
Method 2 of 3:
Communicating Your Disapproval
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1Determine what bothers you about this person copying you. Be rational and analyze your own thoughts openly and honestly.[9] If it helps, try saying your thoughts aloud to a trusted friend or family member. Always sleep on your emotions for several days to ensure they are accurate and not irrational.
- When a friend copies your style it feels like she is violating your friendship by taking your self-expression.[10]
- If you're experiencing being copied at work or school, perhaps it makes you feel threatened and unappreciated if someone else is taking credit for your personal projects and work ethic. Recognizing how you feel will help you tailor a solution to the problem.
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2Organize your thoughts and plan to communicate rather than argue. Writing down what you want to say allows you to construct a coherent and rational argument. Plan what you want the outcome to be and build your strategy towards this outcome. It may also be helpful to keep a journal or write yourself an email each time you experience any negative emotions towards being copied
- Begin with a flow chart or brainstorm your thoughts and emotions.
- Anticipate what emotions this conversation might stir up and utilize your support network to help you work through these emotions.[11] For example, talk to family and friends if confronting other close people in your network or talk to other coworkers if your confrontation is taking place at the workplace.
- Practice and rehearse what you will say. Whether you talk in front of a mirror or go over your talking points with your family, get comfortable speaking about this issue and being in this scenario.
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3Confront the person who is copying you. Mention how their actions have negatively affected you and what actions need to take place in order to rectify the situation. Make sure to choose your words carefully and not to escalate the emotions with an angry or elevated tone. Someone who is bluntly mimicking someone else may be sensitive and insecure making them prone to defensiveness when confronted.
- Say something similar to, “I noticed that you have been wearing very similar outfits to what I have been wearing. You have even bought the exact same shoes and accessories. I can appreciate if you like my fashion sense but shopping lets us express ourselves. Are you aware of what you’re doing?”[12]
- Remember people who copy others often have low self-esteem and may be in denial or become defensive.[13]
- If her imitation is taking place at work, be professional and courteous so as to ensure your professional status. Make sure not to burn bridges with coworkers by consulting the human resources department to ensure the most professional approach possible based on the company’s standards and policies.
- Take a deep breath before and during the confrontation. Keep calm when delivering news that the person may see as accusatory. Open body language and a friendly demeanor can help defuse their defensiveness.
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4If she continues to copy you even after you have confronted her, avoid her. Don’t use up valuable emotional and mental resources by dwelling on what you can’t control. Removing yourself from the situation takes a proactive approach in dealing with someone copying you: out of sight, out of mind.
- If it is impossible to completely avoid this person, treat the entire situation as a joke and don’t spend any more time trying to change it. Finding the humor in the situation can help you deal with any stress or aggravation.
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Method 3
Method 3 of 3:
Preventing Someone From Copying Intellectual Property
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1Seek out trademarks, copyrights, or patents. Trademarks relate to businesses and branding. Protect your invention or discovery with a patent. Get copyrights to written works, creative projects and computer programs. Depending on where you live, there are specific procedures you must take in order to achieve each so it’s best to consult a professional.
- Getting a trademark does not fully protect you as trademarks may only be good within a certain jurisdiction.
- Creativity is a mysterious thing and often a difficult area to prove ownership. In America, a copyright is grounded in the US constitution; therefore, do your due diligence if working internationally.
- Depending on your contribution, you may be awarded different levels of a copyright if working collaboratively.
- The US Patent and Trademark Office manages trademarks and patents domestically but can also be the basis where international trademarks are registered.
- Registering with the US Customs may help stop the import of goods that infringe your patent or trademark.
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2Create a strong brand. When done right, branding can create strong customer loyalty and add to the value of your business. Quality, uniqueness, and strong values are always at the forefront of creating a strong brand.
- Even if you’re a small start-up, you can use the example of large corporations like Nike and Apple who have become synonymous with branding and decode what has worked.
- Establishing a connection with your customers through strong customer service builds brand loyalty.
- Constant innovation keeps you ahead of competitors and revered by your peers and consumer base alike.
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3Feed your ego and take pride in the fact that someone wants to copy you. The fact that someone wants to duplicate something of yours means that you have affected them in a profound way. Cultural luminaries change society one person at a time. Picture yourself in the fledgling stages of positive change.
- Be more prolific so that you don’t have to worry about single pieces of work being copied but rather maintaining the quality of the body of your work as a whole.
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Warnings
- Applying for trademarks, copyrights, and patents may take a long time and require a significant amount of money.⧼thumbs_response⧽
- Emotions are complex so understanding why we react the way we do and what actions to take in order to feel whole may take the help of a professional without a set timetable.[14]⧼thumbs_response⧽
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References
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- ↑ http://www.productiveflourishing.com/how-to-deal-with-copycats-and-idea-thieves/
- ↑ Chloe Carmichael, PhD. Licensed Clinical Psychologist. Expert Interview. 29 May 2019.
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- ↑ Chloe Carmichael, PhD. Licensed Clinical Psychologist. Expert Interview. 29 May 2019.
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- ↑ Chloe Carmichael, PhD. Licensed Clinical Psychologist. Expert Interview. 29 May 2019.
About This Article
Chloe Carmichael, PhD
Licensed Clinical Psychologist
This article was co-authored by Chloe Carmichael, PhD. Chloe Carmichael, PhD is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist who runs a private practice in New York City. With over a decade of psychological consulting experience, Dr. Chloe specializes in relationship issues, stress management, self esteem, and career coaching. She has also instructed undergraduate courses at Long Island University and has served as adjunct faculty at the City University of New York. Dr. Chloe completed her PhD in Clinical Psychology at Long Island University in Brooklyn, New York and her clinical training at Lenox Hill Hospital and Kings County Hospital. She is accredited by the American Psychological Association and is the author of “Nervous Energy: Harness the Power of Your Anxiety” and “Dr. Chloe's 10 Commandments of Dating.” This article has been viewed 177,940 times.
Co-authors: 12
Updated: November 26, 2020
Views: 177,940
Categories: Social Nuisances
Article SummaryX
To cope with someone who is copying you, consider letting it go if the copying isn't serious. Someone must like your style if they feel the need to copy you, so try to just take it as a compliment and move on. If the copying is causing you problems though, try responding by offering to help the person with whatever it is they're copying. For example, if somebody is copying your math problems, explain to them how to do the calculations so they can do them on their own. You could also try warning them about the dangers of copying, especially if it's happening at school or work. For example, you could tell them that your teacher or boss will punish people who copy, which might get them to stop doing it. When you're talking to the other person about their behavior, try to remain calm, and avoid getting aggressive. People who feel the need to copy often have low self-esteem or feel insecure. For tips on how to prevent somebody from copying your intellectual property, read on!
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