How to Comfort a Girl on Her Period over Text

Co-authored by Donna Novak, Psy.D and Madeleine Criglow

Last Updated: March 18, 2023 References

If you're texting a person who is on their period, you likely really want to make them feel better. It can be hard to know what to say sometimes, though, especially over text. Thankfully, there are many things you can say to brighten their day and make them feel cared for. This article has a list of suggestions so that you can give your partner the comfort they need during their time of the month.

1

"I've been thinking of you all day.”

This is a simple way to show them that you care. If they're dealing with cramps or mood swings, they might be feeling pretty low. Tell them that they've been on your mind to perk up their spirits and make them feel cared for.
- You might also say, "I hope you're feeling alright. Thinking of you 💕" or "You've been on my mind, sweetheart."

2

"You’re so pretty.”

Sometimes it's hard to feel confident on your period. Dealing with bloating, cramps, and unpredictable moods can really affect a person's self-image. Remind them how beautiful they are to boost their confidence and make them feel appreciated.^{[1]
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- Alternatively, try, "I hope you remember how beautiful you are!" or "Can't wait to see your gorgeous face tonight."

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"I’m sorry you’re having to deal with this right now 😢”

Validating what they're going through can make them feel better. If they're dealing with painful cramps, a headache, or fatigue, they might just want someone to acknowledge what they're going through. Show compassion for their experience and they'll likely feel cared for and supported by you.^{[2]
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- You might also text, "That sounds so tough" or "You're handling this like a champ! That really sounds so hard."
- Society doesn't always do a great job acknowledging what it's like to have a period every month. You'll distinguish yourself as a standup person if you show them that you understand and empathize with their pain.

4

"I hope you know how much I love you.”

If you're in a serious relationship, remind them how much they mean to you. Even if you've been dating for years, your partner might need a little more reassurance on their period. Take the time to text them that you love them so that they know how much you care.
- If you haven't gotten to the "I love you" stage but still want to show your support, you might text, "I'm always here for you."

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"Is there anything I can do to help?”

Even if they don't need anything, your offer will mean the world to them. Asking how you can help gives them the chance to articulate their needs. This shows them that you're interested in giving them what they want and genuinely being there for them.^{[3]
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- You might offer to bring over a hot water bottle to ease their cramps or some pain medication like Ibuprofen, Midol, or Pamprin.

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"I’m here to listen if you want to talk about anything.”

Give them a chance to open up to you. They might just want to vent about their cramps or talk about what's on their mind (especially if they're feeling sad). Your listening ear will make them feel truly supported.^{[4]
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- Alternatively, try, "I'm always here if you want to vent" or "You can tell me anything. I'm just here to listen :)"^{[5]
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"Can I bring over some chocolate to make you feel better?”

Offering some sweet treats will be a huge comfort. People on their period usually experience some pretty intense food cravings or might just be a little hungrier than usual. Be attentive to your partner's needs by texting them that you got them some chocolate (or any other tasty treat). It's a simple but effective way to show her that you're there for them.^{[6]
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- As an alternative, bring over other treats like cookies or ice cream. If they don't have much of a sweet tooth, you might try their favorite chips or some yummy comfort food (mashed potatoes, chicken noodle soup, macaroni and cheese, etc.).

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"I’m on my way with a movie and some snacks!”

They'll love knowing that you want to spend time with them right now. If they're feeling really down or just not up to leaving the house, offer to come over and hang out with them. You might try bringing along their favorite movie or some fun snacks to make things a little more festive. It'll be a great comfort for them to know that you want to spend time with them even when they're not feeling their best.^{[7]
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"Look how cute this puppy is!"

Send them a heartwarming animal picture. Being on your period can make you a little more emotional than usual. Your friends or partner might really need some cheering up, and a cute photo of a dog, cat, or another sweet animal may really do the trick. You might try sending a few to really make them smile.
- If you have a pet, text them a funny picture of your pet doing something cute. You might also try looking up cute kitten or puppy pictures online if you don't have any pets yourself.

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"Here's something funny to make you smile.”

Text them funny GIFS and jokes to get their mind off the pain. Sharing some laughs is a super effective way to comfort someone and make them feel better. Text them something funny to show them that you want to see them smile again. She'll likely be touched by your effort to lift her spirits.^{[8]
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- Try a GIF from a TV show that they love. When in doubt, pick something lighthearted and upbeat, like The Office or Broad City.
- To make them giggle, send them a goofy pun. You might try, "What do you say when an aquatic animal escapes the zoo? It's otter chaos here!"

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"Have you seen this meme?”

Memes are an excellent distraction that can help cheer them up. Pick something lighthearted and positive to brighten their mood and make them remember they still have reasons to smile. They'll love seeing a funny text from you and will appreciate your effort to help them feel better.
- Pick a meme that relates to their interests. If they're into astrology, for example, send a funny astrology meme about their sign with the caption, "I thought this might make you laugh 😊"
- If you don't know what to send, try a wholesome meme with a cute message. That might look like a cat giving someone a hug with the caption, "Me giving you love and support."

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"Here’s a song to brighten your day.”

Music can provide a ton of comfort. Send them a video of her favorite song with a sweet caption. They'll be touched that you remember what they like to listen to and the music will likely bring a smile to their face.
- If you don't know what their favorite song is, try sending a song you think they might like. Add the caption, "I love listening to this song when I'm feeling down. I thought you might like it, too!"

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"Wanna go shopping? I’m free if you’re feeling up to it.”

Being out and about might really help them feel better. They'll appreciate your company, and buying a little something might really lift their spirits. Even window shopping with no intention of buying anything can be a fun way to pass the time, and being by your side will likely make them feel comforted and supported.^{[9]
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- If they're not feeling up to leaving the house, try your best to be understanding. Text them something like, "Well I'm always down to relax at home with you instead" or "I totally get it! Let me know if there's anything I can do to help."
- Maybe they're not super into shopping. As an alternative, ask if they'd like to go on a relaxing stroll through the park.

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"Can I come over to cuddle?”

Some physical affection might really help. Sometimes being on your period can make you feel insecure or unwanted even if there's no reason to feel this way. If they're comfortable, offer to come over to give them some cuddles and affection.^{[10]
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- If physical touch would be comforting to them, you might also offer to give them a back rub.

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"Do you need me to pick up more pads or tampons at the store?”

They might have plenty, but your offer will mean a lot regardless. Unfortunately, people can still be a little squeamish when it comes to buying tampons and pads for their partners. Show them that you're happy to help (and aren't weirded out by it at all) by offering to buy some extra pads or tampons.
- If you're not comfortable asking directly, you could also try, "I'm at the store right now! Is there anything I can pick up for you?" If they need some extra menstrual products, this gives them a chance to let you know.