This article was co-authored by Jan & Jillian Yuhas. Jan Yuhas and Jillian Yuhas are Relationship Coaches & Boundary Specialists and the Founders of Entwined Lifestyle. They specialize in helping individuals and couples work on effective communication, healthy boundaries, and lifestyle wellness. They have also been featured on media outlets such as Yahoo Lifestyle and Bustle. Jan and Jillian both hold a BA in Psychology from The University of Illinois at Chicago and an MA in Marriage and Family Therapy from The Adler School of Professional Psychology.
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Boys are not just attracted to one type of girl. They are attracted to beautiful girls of all shapes and sizes. While your looks may capture a boy's attention, your radiant smile, self-confidence, and generous spirit will be what holds their interest.
Steps
Showcasing Your Beauty
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1Wear clothes that make you feel comfortable and confident. An outfit can make you extremely self conscious or boost your self confidence.[1] Choose pieces that accentuate your best features, hide your flaws, and fit you well.
- For example, if you have a tiny waist, wear shirts, sweaters, and dresses that are cinched at the waist. If you want to mask your midsection, wear a peplum skirt, shirt, or dress.
- If you aren’t comfortable rocking a crop top or a backless dress, don’t wear it.[2]
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2Highlight your features with beauty products. Makeup is designed to subtly enhance your natural features, not mask them. Experiment with various products to discover the makeup application process that best suits your features. Remember, too much makeup isn't attractive. Try to highlight what is attractive with makeup instead of using too much. Sometimes, girls look better without makeup.[3]
- Create a flawless complexion by covering any blemishes you may have with foundation and then concealer.
- Enhance your eyes with natural shades of eyeshadow. For a dramatic look, line your eyes with eyeliner and coat your lashes with mascara.
- Give your cheeks a natural glow with blush, bronzer, and highlighter.
- Complete your look with the perfect shade of lipgloss or lipstick for your skintone.
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3Pamper yourself. Little details, such as manicured fingernails and a radiant complexion, can attract the attention of boys. Set aside time to care for your skin and nails.
- Cleanse, moisturize, and exfoliate your skin.
- Protect your skin with sunscreen.
- Trim, shape, and if desired, paint your nails.[4]
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4Wear a signature scent. When your wear perfume, scent, eau de toilette, body spray, scented lotion, etc, boys will remember your scent and associate it with you. Prior to going out, spray a small amount on your hair. When you encounter a boy you are attracted to, flip your hair to subtly waft the scent in his direction.[5]
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5Smile often. Boys and girls are more attracted to people that smile than to people that frown. Smiling also has the added benefits of making you and those around you feel happier.[6]
- Laughing is also very attractive. It illuminates your face.
Discovering Your Inner Beauty
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1Learn more about yourself. When we become aware of who we are, we can start to accept ourselves, feeling more comfortable and confident around others. Keeping a journal or blog is an excellent way to improve your self-awareness and track your personal growth. While you write, consider the following topics:
- Identify your likes and dislikes.
- Define your dreams.
- Determine if there are areas of your life that require additional work.[7]
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2Accept your flaws. With the media bombarding you with idealized images of beauty, it is easy to forget that perfection is not attainable and beauty is not perfection. Your flaws are what make you unique—embrace your imperfections and start making them work for you.[8]
- Instead of focusing on the negative aspects of your appearance, praise the features that you love.
- Surround yourself with positive people that make you feel loved and beautiful. [9]
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3Strive to be a positive, generous, and passionate person. Beauty is more than skin deep—your thoughts, actions, and passions are a reflection of who you are as a person. You can enhance your inner beauty and your outward appeal by putting the needs and feelings of others above your own.
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4Surround yourself with positive people. The people in your life can have a significant impact on your self esteem. When your friends and loved ones constantly criticize you or themselves, it is challenging to see yourself as beautiful. Choose to spend time with people that reaffirm your self-worth, complement you instead of criticizing you, and radiate confidence.[11]
Getting a Guy to Like You
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1Become an expert in body language. Non-verbal cues are a powerful form of communication. When you flirt, use your body language to let him know you are available and interested in him.
- To show that you are available, keep your chest, torso, and abdomen open. Avoid crossing your arms in front of your chest.
- Also, make time to be with guys and be one who is including. Following the popular girls or only listening to their opinions isn't attractive at all. Remember, just because your friend doesn't like someone, doesn't mean you should say no. Be inclusive with your friends and try to include everyone.
- To show that you are trustworthy, keep your hands visible. Avoid placing them in pockets or under a table.
- To showcase your sexuality, expose your neck. Tilt your head back slightly as you laugh.[12]
- To get or keep his attention, graze his arm. The human touch releases hormones that make you feel connected to the other person.[13]
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2Engage him in meaningful conversation. In order to form a genuine connection with a guy, your conversations need to move beyond small talk to more meaningful topics. During your conversations, make an effort to be vulnerable—share your interests, show him your goofy side, and tell him your fears.
- When people discuss their passions, they light up, feel happier, and instantly become more attractive to those around them.[14] Furthermore, they subconsciously associate those positive vibes with the people around them.[15]
- Throughout the conversation, maintain eye contact. It not only lets him know you are listening, but it can actually make him more attracted to you.[16]
- Compliment him for something that is clearly important to him, such as his determination to succeed in school or in a sport.[17]
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3Never play hard to get. Clingy girls can bore or overwhelm guys. However, playing hard to get will not help you seem "mysterious". You don't have to be intentionally elusive and vague from time to time for someone to be interested in you. One thing is for sure, though: if he is interested in you, he will put in the effort to capture your attention.[18]
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4Maintain your independence. Boys are fascinated by independent girls. Demonstrate to him that you have goals and interests your own. Talk to him about your classes—what is your favorite subject and why? Share your dreams with him—what adventures do you plan to take?
- When he asks for your opinion, don’t respond with, “I don’t know.” Tell him what you want to do on your date and let him know where you want to eat.[19]
Warnings
- Even if you're sure that you like a boy, if you have nothing in common with him, then it might just be best to leave him and look for someone else who shares your interests. Not only will it cause a lot of awkward silences if there's just not anything to talk about, but there's also a good chance that you will get bored later.⧼thumbs_response⧽
- Make sure you take care of your teeth! A yellow smile is usually taken as a sign of being unhygienic, and that's the last thing you want to be known as if your going for boys.⧼thumbs_response⧽
- Remember, playing hard to get may work sometimes, but guys don't like closed off girls. Guys like friendly girls.⧼thumbs_response⧽
References
- ↑ http://slism.com/girlstalk/how-to-be-beautiful-6-ways-to-feel-more-confident-about-yourself.html
- ↑ http://www.oprah.com/spirit/How-to-Feel-Beautiful-and-Boost-Confidence/8
- ↑ http://slism.com/girlstalk/how-to-be-beautiful-6-ways-to-feel-more-confident-about-yourself.html
- ↑ http://www.self.com/beauty/2011/09/22-ways-to-be-beautiful-slideshow/1
- ↑ http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/confessions/advice/g2633/how-to-get-a-guy-to-like-you/?slide=3
- ↑ http://www.oprah.com/spirit/How-to-Feel-Beautiful-and-Boost-Confidence/8
- ↑ http://womanitely.com/tips-follow-be-more-beautiful-on-the-inside/
- ↑ http://slism.com/girlstalk/how-to-be-beautiful-6-ways-to-feel-more-confident-about-yourself.html
- ↑ http://www.oprah.com/spirit/How-to-Feel-Beautiful-and-Boost-Confidence/3
- ↑ http://slism.com/girlstalk/how-to-be-beautiful-6-ways-to-feel-more-confident-about-yourself.html
- ↑ http://www.oprah.com/spirit/How-to-Feel-Beautiful-and-Boost-Confidence/8
- ↑ http://www.scienceofpeople.com/the-psychology-of-attraction/
- ↑ http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/confessions/advice/g2633/how-to-get-a-guy-to-like-you/?slide=8
- ↑ http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/confessions/advice/g2633/how-to-get-a-guy-to-like-you/?slide=4
- ↑ http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/confessions/advice/g2633/how-to-get-a-guy-to-like-you/?slide=2
- ↑ http://time.com/59786/how-to-flirt-backed-by-scientific-research/
- ↑ http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/confessions/advice/g2633/how-to-get-a-guy-to-like-you/?slide=14
- ↑ http://datingtips.match.com/guy-want-fall-13443432.html
- ↑ http://datingtips.match.com/guy-want-fall-13443432.html
About This Article
To be a beautiful girl and make boys like you, choose a look that makes you feel confident and be positive and interesting when you’re around guys. Wear clothes that accentuate your best features and make you feel confident. For example, try a cinched shirt if you have a small waist. You can also enhance your best features with makeup, like natural eye shadow to make your eyes stand out. Choosing a signature scent you always wear is another good idea, because boys will start associating it with you. When you’re around a boy you like, smile often, since both boys and girls are more attracted to positive people. During your conversations with others, compliment other people rather than judging them, which will show you’re comfortable in yourself and don’t want to put other people down. For tips on how to engage a boy in meaningful conversation, keep reading!