This article was co-authored by Laura Richer and by wikiHow staff writer, Kira Jan. Laura Richer is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor and the Founder of Anchor Light Therapy Collective, a multi-disciplinary mental health counseling clinic in Seattle, Washington. With more than ten years of experience in the mental health sector, she specializes in working with couples and individuals and supporting them in becoming empowered to direct their destiny. Laura holds a BA in English from Western Washington University and an MA in Clinical Mental Health Counseling. She also received her Hypnotherapy Practitioner Training from Bastyr University, Couples Counseling Certification from The Gottman Institute, and Master Life Coach Certification from Seattle Life Coach Training. Laura is the host of the podcast Holding Ground which explores anything and everything in the world of mental health and positive psychology.
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Feeling disrespected can bring you down and make it tough to remember all the amazing qualities you have to offer. While it’s important to keep a positive attitude and give people the benefit of the doubt, understanding the red flags of disrespect will enable you to stand up for yourself and boost your self-esteem. From the subtle cues to the classic warning signs of disrespectful behavior, we’ll show you what to look out for and how you can get the respectful treatment you deserve.
Things You Should Know
- Examine how they act around you. Do they not give you their full attention, dismiss your ideas, exclude you, or give you the silent treatment?
- Keep an eye out for attempts to insult, bring you down, or even get angry with you.
- Ask yourself if you feel underappreciated or like your efforts or work are not recognized.
Steps
Expert Q&A
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QuestionWhat is disrespectful behavior in a relationship?Laura RicherLaura Richer is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor and the Founder of Anchor Light Therapy Collective, a multi-disciplinary mental health counseling clinic in Seattle, Washington. With more than ten years of experience in the mental health sector, she specializes in working with couples and individuals and supporting them in becoming empowered to direct their destiny. Laura holds a BA in English from Western Washington University and an MA in Clinical Mental Health Counseling. She also received her Hypnotherapy Practitioner Training from Bastyr University, Couples Counseling Certification from The Gottman Institute, and Master Life Coach Certification from Seattle Life Coach Training. Laura is the host of the podcast Holding Ground which explores anything and everything in the world of mental health and positive psychology.
Licensed Mental Health CounselorA disrespectful partner won't respect your wishes when you say "no," and will keep pushing for whatever they want. Overall, they'll treat you in a way that makes you feel unseen or unvalued. -
QuestionI asked a woman from Leipzig "How is it going?" She replied that she was stressed. Maybe Germans respond differently, but it seems like a sign of respect. What do you think?Lea MusiolekCommunity AnswerThere is a big cultural difference: in Germany, we only ask that question when we really want to know how the other person is, and the other person will usually answer honestly. For us, it is a sign of closeness and genuine interest, not just a greeting, and waiters and cashiers in Germany would never ask you how you are. However, when somebody asks us how we are and we have told them, the normal thing here is to ask them how they are too. The lady from Leipzig was answering normally for a German, but being slightly rude by not asking how you were.
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QuestionHow can I get away from someone in my family who disrespects me every day?AnonymousfigureCommunity AnswerYou can distance yourself from disrespectful family members by: Not trying to start a conversation with them; only going near them when you have to; talk about the problem with them directly.
References
- ↑ Laura Richer. Licensed Mental Health Counselor. Expert Interview. 24 September 2021.
- ↑ https://hbr.org/2013/01/the-price-of-incivility
- ↑ https://hbr.org/2017/12/what-to-do-when-you-dont-feel-valued-at-work
- ↑ Laura Richer. Licensed Mental Health Counselor. Expert Interview. 24 September 2021.
- ↑ https://www.bizjournals.com/bizwomen/news/profiles-strategies/2016/05/how-to-make-sure-you-get-respect-at-work.html?page=all
- ↑ Laura Richer. Licensed Mental Health Counselor. Expert Interview. 24 September 2021.
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/evolution-the-self/201910/have-you-ever-had-fair-or-foul-weather-friend
- ↑ https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2021/03/psychology-of-silent-treatment-abuse/618411/
- ↑ https://hbr.org/2013/01/the-price-of-incivility
- ↑ https://www.fastcompany.com/40568212/how-ive-learned-to-get-someone-to-put-down-their-phone-and-listen
- ↑ https://hbr.org/2017/02/how-to-handle-interrupting-colleagues
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/ie/blog/conscious-communication/202006/when-women-feel-disrespected-work
- ↑ Laura Richer. Licensed Mental Health Counselor. Expert Interview. 24 September 2021.
- ↑ https://www.ny.gov/teen-dating-violence-awareness-and-prevention/what-does-healthy-relationship-look
- ↑ https://www.theguardian.com/careers/2017/feb/28/overwhelmed-at-work-six-tips-on-how-to-beat-stress
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/ie/blog/conscious-communication/202006/when-women-feel-disrespected-work
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/wander-woman/201908/how-get-over-it-when-people-call-you-names
- ↑ https://www.disrespectnobody.co.uk/relationship-abuse/signs-to-spot/
- ↑ https://www.entrepreneur.com/article/310616
- ↑ https://www.bizjournals.com/bizwomen/news/profiles-strategies/2016/05/how-to-make-sure-you-get-respect-at-work.html?page=all
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/ie/blog/conscious-communication/202006/when-women-feel-disrespected-work
- ↑ https://hbr.org/podcast/2019/05/sorry-not-sorry
- ↑ https://time.com/5274206/toxic-relationship-signs-help/