Whether you met a girl online, on a dating app, or in person, sending her a text can take things to the next level. Starting out on the right foot can make or break your relationship, so it’s important to really think about what you want to say before you send it. We'll give you helpful tips and examples for your first text message to a girl you like and help you keep a fun, lively conversation going!

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Talk about your common interests.

  1. Maybe you two watch the same show or do the same hobby. Whatever it is, you can ask her about it to keep a fun conversation going. Plus, you’ll get to know a little bit about her in the process! If you aren’t sure what you guys have in common yet, try looking her up on social media to get an idea of what she likes to do. Say something like:[5]
    • “Have you been watching the new season of Riverdale? I’m almost caught up!”
    • “How long have you been surfing? I’ve been going since I was a little kid!”
    • “Whoa, you like to rollerblade too? I can never find anyone to go skating with me.”
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Set up a date to meet her IRL.

Expert Q&A

  • Question
    How do you save a dry conversation?
    Suzanna Mathews
    Suzanna Mathews
    Dating & Relationship Coach
    Suzanna Mathews is a Dating and Relationship Coach and the Founder of The Date Maven. With over a decade of experience, she specializes in creating mindset tools, social strategies, and digital strategies that help her clients elevate dating and deepen connections. Suzanna holds a BA in Communications from Bethel College, North Newton, and an MA in Theater and Dramatic Arts from Wichita State University.
    Suzanna Mathews
    Dating & Relationship Coach
    Expert Answer
    Throw something random out! All you have to do is say is "hey, quick question" or "hey, random thought." This gives you permission to bring up just about anything.
  • Question
    What kind of questions should I ask to get a conversation going?
    Mark Rosenfeld
    Mark Rosenfeld
    Dating & Relationship Coach
    Mark Rosenfeld is a Dating and Relationship Coach for women and founded Make Him Yours in 2015. Mark specializes in helping people find, attract, and keep extraordinary relationships. He has been featured in Style Magazine, Thought Catalog, Elite Daily, News.com.au, and The Good Men Project. Mark’s dating videos have received over 60 million views, and his book “Make Him Yours – Beating the Odds of Modern Dating” was a best-seller on Amazon on its release.
    Mark Rosenfeld
    Dating & Relationship Coach
    Expert Answer
    I'm not fond of the questions approach if it's the first time you two have talked. It's just a little cliché and boring. I actually prefer statements. Say something about yourself or say something about them to provoke a question on their end. You want to be the pond, not the fishing pole here! That's how you cultivate some mystery and generate conversation.
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This article was co-authored by Mark Rosenfeld and by wikiHow staff writer, Hannah Madden. Mark Rosenfeld is a Dating and Relationship Coach for women and founded Make Him Yours in 2015. Mark specializes in helping people find, attract, and keep extraordinary relationships. He has been featured in Style Magazine, Thought Catalog, Elite Daily, News.com.au, and The Good Men Project. Mark’s dating videos have received over 60 million views, and his book “Make Him Yours – Beating the Odds of Modern Dating” was a best-seller on Amazon on its release. This article has been viewed 431,129 times.
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