Ah, love. You’re head-over-heels for someone, and you’re ready to tell them exactly how you feel. Whether your love is a crush, a long-term partner, or someone in between, a love letter is the perfect way to sweep them off their feet.

Here are 12 tips to help you get started writing a love letter that really captures how you feel.

Examples to Start a Love Letter

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Tailor your letter to fit the recipient’s personality.[5]

  1. Consider what your recipient likes and enjoys when you’re crafting your letter. For instance, decide if they like things that are more sentimental or more humorous. Write your letter with them in mind so it feels more personal to them.
    • Let’s say your love is very sentimental. You might focus on memories with them and take a serious tone. You could write things like, “As I watched you on the beach yesterday, all I could think about is how lucky I am. You’ve changed my life for the better, and I’ll be forever grateful.”
    • If your love is more lighthearted and funny, you might try a fun, upbeat tone and recount funny moments together or inside jokes. You could write, “I still remember that time we ate pizza off the floor because we were too lazy to make another one. You compl-eat me.”
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Explain why you’re writing the letter for an easy opening.[6]

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Recount a memory if you’ve been with the person for a while.[7]

  1. Instead of telling a long-term partner why you’re writing them, you might just describe a special memory you had with them. It might be the first time you met, the moment you knew you were in love, or a time you felt really close to them. Or, it might be a very simple moment that really touched your heart, but you never told them about. Summarize your memory in 2-3 sentences to start off your letter.
    • You could write something like, “On the night of our first anniversary, you surprised me with a candlelit dinner you made yourself. Enjoying your handmade meal made me feel more loved than any fancy restaurant ever could. In that moment, I knew no one ever loved me like you do.”
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Start with a quote if you’re struggling with what to write.[8]

  1. Expressing how you feel is super hard, so don’t worry if you can’t think of anything to say. Once you start writing, it’ll likely be easier to share your feelings. To get your letter going, try using a quote about love that makes you think of your partner. Here are some great options you might consider using:
    • “I fell in love the way you fall asleep: slowly, and then all at once.” - John Green
    • “One word frees us of all the weight and pain of life: That word is love.” - Sophocles
    • “When you love someone, you love the whole person, just as he or she is, and not as you would like them to be.” - Leo Tolstoy
    • “You can’t blame gravity for falling in love.” - Albert Einstein
    • “Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies.” - Aristotle
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Give specific details so your love letter is more meaningful.[9]

  1. Don’t just list vague adjectives to describe your loved one or general things that could apply to anyone. Describe their qualities that make them special to you and touch your heart; it can be tender, cute, or even quirky things about them. Provide details and specific moments so your letter is more personal. This will make your recipient feel extra special.
    • For instance, you might be tempted to write things like, “You’re amazing, smart, beautiful, and fun to be around.” These things are nice, but they’re pretty generic. Instead, you could write, “I’ve never met someone who can bake as well as you do,” “You tell the wittiest jokes,” or “I could stare into your eyes all day.”
    • Similarly, don’t just say, “I like spending time with you.” Instead, say, “Whether we’re hiking trails, listening to new music, or crashing in front of the TV, every moment with you is exciting.”
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Stay positive so the person feels loved and appreciated.[10]

  1. Make your love feel extra special by telling them all the wonderful things you love about them. This isn’t the time to point out your problems or discuss how you want your relationship to improve in the future. Stick to happy, positive memories and anecdotes so your recipient feels loved.
    • Write things like, “Every day with you is a gift,” “On the day I met you, I knew I’d fall hard for you,” or “I’m amazed by your smile, your laugh, and your pure heart.” Let the person know how their love has changed your life for the better, and how they make you feel when you are with them<
    • Leave out stuff like, “I know we have our problems,” “One day we’ll be the couple we want to be,” or “I might get annoyed with you sometimes, but I know deep down you’re the right person for me.”
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Try expressing your feelings in a love poem.[11]

Community Q&A

  • Question
    How can I write a love letter to a celebrity that you are really obsessed with?
    Community Answer
    Community Answer
    Tell them how you feel and why. Don't expect much, as they probably get lots of these and they may not have time to read yours, if they even see it, but that can still be better than holding it in.
  • Question
    How do I write to her if I don't know if she likes me or not?
    Community Answer
    Community Answer
    Try to be open. Make sure everything you say is true, while also making sure that she has a choice. If she feels pressured or harassed, it won't end well.
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Warnings

  • Don't be creepy. If the person you are sending the letter to has told you they are not interested, don't pester any further!
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  • It may not work! Even though you may have given your letter all your heart, sometimes people just don't feel the same way. There will be someone else out there for you who will appreciate you for who you are! Try not to dwell on what you could have said better because it could very well be that even though you wrote something wonderfully, it just wasn't meant to be for that person.
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About This Article

Crista Beck
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This article was co-authored by Crista Beck and by wikiHow staff writer, Danielle Blinka, MA, MPA. Crista Beck is a Dating and Relationship Coach and Matchmaker. With over a decade of experience, she specializes in helping people become open to love and find a partner. Crista has been featured in numerous media sources such as ABC, NBC, Fox, and TEDx. She is also the author of the book, Break The Glass Slipper: Free Yourself from Fairy Tale Fantasies and Find True Love in Real Life. Crista holds a BS in Communication Studies with a focus on Interpersonal Communication from The University of Texas at Austin. This article has been viewed 661,090 times.
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If you’re writing a love letter, getting started can be the hardest part, even if you’re already in a relationship with the person. Open the letter with a heartfelt salutation, like “Dear John,” or “To the woman I love.” As you start writing, tell the person why your time together has been so meaningful. Use a tone that’s intimate and familiar, and include special references or inside jokes so the letter has an intimate tone. Keep reading for tips on writing a love letter to someone you’re not dating!

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