Trust is an invaluable part of any relationship. When you offer the gift of trust, you’re actually building the foundation for a healthy, long-lasting relationship. While you can’t wrap up this present or tie it in a bow, there are plenty of ways to show your girlfriend that you trust her completely. Not to worry—we’ve put together plenty of easy tips and suggestions to help you get started.

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Respect her privacy.

  1. Don’t look through your GF’s things without her permission. If you have a question, ask her directly—don’t expect to find the answers stashed away in her bag or text messages.[1] Setting healthy boundaries is a great way to show your girlfriend that you trust her.[2]
    • Setting up clear boundaries and ground rules is also a great way to foster respect, support, and clear communication in the future. Besides asking permission, you could set boundaries about spending money and giving each other enough breathing room.[3]
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Give her space when she wants it.

  1. A healthy, trusting relationship shouldn’t require constant check-ins. Give her plenty of breathing room, whether she’s spending the night at home or going out with her besties.[4] If you truly trust your girlfriend, you don’t need to know what she’s up to 24/7. In fact, giving each other alone time is a sure sign that you’re in a healthy, trusting relationship.[5]
    • Supportive texts like “Have a great time!” or “Tell Kim and Lisa that I said hi!” are totally fine to send.
    • If she’s spending a night in, you could leave her alone for the night and then text her the next morning.
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Offer some breathing room when you go out.

  1. You don’t have to be attached at the hip when you go out together. It’s great to enjoy some drinks and grab a dance with your GF, but you shouldn’t act like her second shadow. Let her mix and mingle to her heart’s content without complaining about who she’s spending time with. If you really trust her, it won’t matter who she talks to or hangs out with throughout the night.[7]
    • If you’re at a party, you could mingle with some friends while she heads to the dance floor.
    • If you’re at a group date, you might sit across from a friend instead of sitting across from her.
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Refrain from jumping to conclusions.

  1. Trust your girlfriend by not assuming the worst. Maybe you found a strange receipt laying around, or your GF got home from work later than usual. Instead of assuming the worst, trust that your girlfriend isn’t up to any funny business. Besides, launching into a full-scale interrogation will definitely prove that you don’t trust her.[8]
    • Try to put yourself in her shoes, too. If you had to stay late at work, you wouldn’t want to be bombarded with distrustful texts.
    • If you do decide to talk to her, strike up the conversation while you’re calm and relaxed. An angry conversation won’t get you very far.[9]
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Say what’s on your mind.

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Be honest about what you’re up to.

  1. Lies and half-truths do nothing to foster trust. If your girlfriend asks you something, do your best to answer her honestly. You don’t have to rattle off some 2-paragraph response—just answer her questions, so there isn’t any room for doubt.[13] If you feel like you need to hide something that's perfectly innocent from your girlfriend, it shows that you don't really trust her to believe you.
    • If she asks who you’re texting, you might say, “Andrea from work” or “my sister.”
    • If she’s curious about why you got home so late, you could say, “I ran into traffic” or “I bumped into Jess in the parking lot and we talked for 45 minutes straight.”
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Tell her your passwords.

  1. Giving her the keys to your digital life requires a lot of trust. The idea isn't to give her your passwords so she can check up on you, though! It's more about you being willing to share them with her in the first place. You're trusting her with this sensitive information with the expectation that she won't read through your emails, texts, and DMs.[14]
    • Start by sharing something small, like the password to your Facebook or Twitter account. Then, work your way up to sharing something a little more personal, like your email or online bank account.
    • Wait until your relationship feels long-term before sharing anything super personal like your passwords.
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About This Article

Kelli Miller, LCSW, MSW
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This article was co-authored by Kelli Miller, LCSW, MSW and by wikiHow staff writer, Janice Tieperman. Kelli Miller is a Psychotherapist based in Los Angeles, California. Kelli specializes in individual and couples therapy focusing on relationships, depression, anxiety, sexuality, communication, parenting, and more. Kelli also facilitates groups for those struggling with alcohol and drug addiction as well as anger management groups. She is the author of “Professor Kelli’s Guide to Finding a Husband” and the award-winning and best-selling book “Thriving with ADHD”. Kelli co-hosted an advice show on LA Talk Radio and is a relationship expert for The Examiner. She received her MSW (Masters of Social Work) from the University of Pennsylvania and a BA in Sociology/Health from the University of Florida. This article has been viewed 25,057 times.
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