After a fun first date, you might replay everything in your head. Was he really interested in you, or was he just being nice? Luckily, there are plenty of signs and signals you can look for to help you figure this out. In this article, we’ll explain exactly what clues to look for during and after the date to help you get a read on your guy's feelings. If you're ready to solve this mystery, scroll on down!

This article is based on an interview with our dating coach and matchmaker, Louie Felix, founder and CEO of Matchmaking VIP. Check out the full interview here.

1

It was easy to talk to each other.

2

He asked lots of questions.

  1. If he seemed genuinely curious, he wanted to get to know you better.[2] It's definitely a good sign if he asked about your past, your hobbies, and your passions and was interested in everything you had to say. Shining the spotlight on you, means he wanted to get a real sense of who you are—that way, he’d be able to win you over.[3]
    • He may have asked silly or fun questions to get a better read on your personality, too. For example, maybe he said something like, “Would you rather be famous online or retire right now?”[4]
3

He tried to impress you.

  1. If he showed off his manners or strengths, he hoped you’d admire him. If he opened the door for you, brought flowers, or covered the bill, he wanted to make a great first impression. On top of that, if he was careful not to interrupt you and waited to talk about himself later, then he wanted to show you that he's a thoughtful guy. When he finally did discuss himself, he probably talked about his skills or successes to impress you.[5]
    • He could’ve also talked about the gym or how active he was to attract you.
    • If he chatted about his career a lot, he probably wanted to prove he’s driven.
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4

He flirted with you.

  1. Playful comments, touching, and compliments mean he's crushing on you. There are two main ways he’ll try to flirt with you—he’ll compliment your looks and alluring personality, or he’ll find excuses to touch you, such as holding your shoulder or brushing against you.[6]
    • He might’ve also given you a mischievous smirk to tease you.
    • He could’ve also made little jokes just to create some tension. For example, maybe he said something like, “You are so much trouble!”
    • He may also ask a question like, “Are you feeling all this chemistry, too?! Wow!”
5

The date went longer than expected.

  1. If he asked you for more time, he craved your company. Let’s get real here—if he wanted to cut it short, he had a lot of ways to do that. If he didn’t make up an excuse or make a quick exit, then you know he was enjoying himself. If he asked to extend the date, you’ll know that he was having fun. He may have said something like:[7]
    • “I know we said we’d end at 3, but my whole day is free. What about you?”
    • “Okay, now that we’ve had coffee…what about lunch?”
    • “I’m not ready for this night to end! Let’s grab some drinks?”
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6

He ended the date with a hug or kiss.

7

He texted or called you right away.

  1. This move is his way of being extremely clear about his interest. He won’t care about the “three day rule” that tells men to make their date simmer and wonder what’s on his mind. You’ll know that he won’t want to risk losing you or your attention if he reaches out ASAP. If he gets back to you right after the date or within the next two days, you can be really sure that he’s chasing after you.[9]
    • If he sent a message as soon as you got home, he’s probably made up his mind and will stick to dating you exclusively to see where things go.
    • If he waits just a little longer, it’s likely that he wants to follow up with you but doesn’t want to come across as over-eager.
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8

He told you he had a great time.

  1. If he gives the date a rave review, he’s definitely into you. Listen to the tone of his voice or his texts. If he goes beyond a polite one-liner and is incredibly enthusiastic, he can’t get you out of his head.[10] Plus, if he can relive all the highlights of your time together and describe them all over again, then he obviously thought about you a ton.[11]
    • He might tell you his favorite experience and tell you something like, “I was so drawn to the way you talk about sci-fi! I’m dying to hear more.”
    • He may also just focus on your personality. For example, he might say, “You are the most fun person I’ve ever met! Seriously!”
    • He could also get a little vulnerable and make a confession like, “I really enjoyed myself, and I’d like to continue to explore our connection.”
9

He connected with you on social media.

  1. If he followed all of your accounts, he was eager to stay in touch. It’s a lot easier to follow up with you if he can find you online. Did he try to casually ask about what platforms you’re on or suggest that you two should add each other? If so, he probably didn’t want just another friend or follower—it’s more likely that he wanted to open more lines of communication so he wouldn’t slip your mind.[12]
    • He might’ve also shared his own pics or videos to get you interested in his life.
    • He could’ve also shown you fun times with his friends to get you curious about his inner circle.
    • You can probably expect him to slide into your DMs pretty soon.
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10

He asked for a second date.

  1. This is the clearest sign that he wants to keep pursuing you. If he’s the first one to ask if you two can see each other again, then he wants to take initiative and make his interest obvious.[13] He’ll be okay with any response because he’s so excited that you may say yes. Once he takes the leap, thank him and then congratulate yourself—you definitely left your mark![14]
    • Even if he brings up somewhere new to go because you’ve dropped hints, it’s still a sign he likes you—if he didn’t want to follow up, he could’ve just said that he was busy.
    • Be sure to give him lots of encouragement for being so bold. You can say something like, “Nice! I was hoping for a second date!”

Expert Q&A

  • Question
    Why has he not asked me for a second date?
    Louie Felix
    Louie Felix
    Dating Coach & Matchmaker
    Louie Felix is a Dating Coach and Matchmaker, and the founder and CEO of Matchmaking VIP, a company which provides concierge-level matchmaking services to clients around the world. He is also the COO of Agape Matchmaking based in New York City. With almost 16 years of professional matchmaking and dating coaching experience, Louie has served as CEO for the United States' two largest matchmaking companies serving over 50,000 clients. He has been featured as an expert matchmaker for shows on E! Entertainment Television, WeTV and the CW. He was also recently acknowledged as a top 5 worldwide matchmaker by both the International Dating Conference and the Matchmakers Alliance. Louie was also selected as one of America's top 10 Relationship Experts for the Great Love Debate National Tour.
    Louie Felix
    Dating Coach & Matchmaker
    Expert Answer
    He may be nervous about asking for a second date. At the same time, it's possible he doesn't want to go out again. If you're interested in a second date, tell him directly that you had a good time and want to see him again.
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This article was written by Louie Felix and by wikiHow staff writer, Madeleine Flamiano. Louie Felix is a Dating Coach and Matchmaker, and the founder and CEO of Matchmaking VIP, a company which provides concierge-level matchmaking services to clients around the world. He is also the COO of Agape Matchmaking based in New York City. With almost 16 years of professional matchmaking and dating coaching experience, Louie has served as CEO for the United States' two largest matchmaking companies serving over 50,000 clients. He has been featured as an expert matchmaker for shows on E! Entertainment Television, WeTV and the CW. He was also recently acknowledged as a top 5 worldwide matchmaker by both the International Dating Conference and the Matchmakers Alliance. Louie was also selected as one of America's top 10 Relationship Experts for the Great Love Debate National Tour. This article has been viewed 64,226 times.
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