How to Pin on a Boutonniere

Co-authored by Rachel Cho

Last Updated: October 19, 2021 References Approved

Whether it's for the prom or a groom on his wedding day, pinning a boutonniere can be intimidating. The last thing you want to do is poke your date—or yourself. The process may feel as complicated as the name of the floral item, but it's actually quite simple. If you want to know how to pin on a boutonniere with ease and grace, just follow these steps.

Method 1

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Pinning a Boutonniere to a Lapel

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Hold the boutonniere correctly. The floral center should be facing you, and away from your date's chest. The greenery, such as the leaves, should be facing away from you, toward your date's chest.
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Lay the boutonniere flat against the left lapel of the suit. Think of it as going above your date's heart. It should be roughly equidistant between the left and right edges of the lapel.^{[1]
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Move the boutonniere so that the flower is on or just below the broadest part of the lapel, covering the top button hole.^{[2]
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Lift the lapel to expose the back, holding the flower in place with your non-dominant hand. Inserting the pin from the back will keep the pin hidden so the metal won't catch the light when you take pictures.^{[4]
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Push the pin through the back of the lapel and through the stem of the boutonniere. Position the pin so that it is facing down. The point of the pin should go through the stem where it is thick, just below where it attaches to the petals.^{[5]
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Guide the pin back through the stem and lapel, as though sewing a stitch.^{[6]
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- You can also think of the pin as going forward through the fabric and stem, then back through the fabric again. The head of the pin and the point of the pin will both end up on the back of the lapel, hidden from view.
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Wiggle the boutonniere to make sure it is securely fastened. Take a step back and examine the placement, making sure it is not askew or starting to pivot on the pin.^{[8]
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Use a second pin if you need extra support. If the boutonniere is heavy, you may want to secure it with an second pin. Simply stitch the pin through the lapel and boutonniere as you did before, with this second pin about half an inch below the first.^{[9]
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Method 2

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Pinning a Boutonniere to a Dress Shirt

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Figure out where to position the boutonniere. If there is a pocket on the left side of shirt, this will make things easy--you'll want to pin the flower through the top middle of the pocket, where it may be slightly reinforced and a little stronger. If there is no pocket, you will pin through the upper left side of the shirt. You can imagine pinning it above the person's heart or where a pocket would be located.^{[10]
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- Because the pin will be visible, you may want to choose a fancy gold pin or one with a decorative head.^{[11]
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Pinch the fabric of the shirt between your fingers of your non-dominant hand and slide the pin through with your dominant hand. It will appear as though you are pinning the fabric together. Push the pin completely through this fold of fabric.^{[12]
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- Unlike on a lapel, the pin should be held horizontally, or parallel to the floor. With this method you are pinning the stem tightly against the chest and not actually piercing the stem of the boutonniere with the pin.
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Slide the stem of the boutonniere between the shirt and the pin. The pin should be over the stem and holding it against the fabric. You want the pin to cross the stem near the top, where it meets the petals of the flower.^{[13]
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- Make sure the boutonniere is facing the right direction, with the flower facing toward you and away from the person wearing the boutonniere.
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Pinch the unpinned fabric on the other side of the boutonniere stem and push the pin all the way through. It should again be as though you are pinning together the fabric pinched between your fingers.^{[14]
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Stretch the shirt so that the fabric you pinned together lays flat against the chest. When you look at the pin, it should go into the shirt, then out, then over the boutonniere stem, then into the shirt and then out a final time.^{[15]
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Method 3

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Pinning a Corsage to a Dress

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Feel the weight of the fabric. The fabric of the dress may not be sturdy enough to support a corsage on its own, especially since they are often larger than boutonnieres. If the fabric is sheer, lace, or just feels very lightweight, you'll want to incorporate a slip or bra strap to make sure the corsage stays up.^{[16]
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Slide the fingers of your non-dominant hand under the collar of the dress, leaving your thumb on the outside. You'll want to lift the fabric up away from the skin so there's no danger of poking your date.^{[17]
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- If you are pinning through a bra strap to secure the flower, use your fingers to lift that away from the skin as well.
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Place the corsage on the dress, right below the shoulder and across from the armpit. Hold the arrangement in place with your thumb, making sure it is positioned straight.^{[18]
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Hold the pin horizontally and weave it into the fabric and then out again, as though sewing a single stitch. Start from the side closest to the arm, so the head of the pin is pointing to the arm and the point of the pin is pointing toward the breast bone.
- If you are using the bra strap, the pin should pass through the dress and the strap, then out again.
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Pass the point of the the pin over the stem of the flower. The stem should be held tight between the fabric of the dress and the length of the pin.^{[19]
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Weave the pin into the fabric and then out again, again like a simple stitch. Smooth the fabric of the dress so that the corsage lays flat against the chest. If you examine the pin, it should go into the dress (and possibly bra strap), then out, then over the stem of the flower, then into the dress and back out again.^{[20]
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Method 4

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Wearing a Boutonniere in a Buttonhole

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Locate the buttonhole on the left lapel of the suit and make sure it is open. Suits rarely come equipped with this buttonhole, which is specifically for a boutonniere, since wearing a flower in your lapel is not really in fashion. To be functional, the buttonhole should be open (not sewn shut), reinforced with stitching, and have a latch 1–2 inches (2.5–5.1 cm) below it on the back of the lapel.^{[21]
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- If your jacket is lacking any of these elements, visit a dry cleaner or anywhere they do alterations and ask them to cut a buttonhole for you.^{[22]
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- Don't do this with a rented or borrowed jacket. Just pin the boutonniere to your lapel instead.
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Slide the stem of the flower through the buttonhole, angling the stem down. The stem should pass through the latch as well, which will hold the flower in place.^{[23]
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- The latch is essentially a thin cord (often silk) sewn onto the back of the lapel to help secure the flower and hold it upright.^{[24]
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Push the flower into the buttonhole until the stem is not visible. Only the flower should be seen from the front of the lapel.^{[25]
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- If the stem is too long, give it a snip so it won't peek out from under your lapel.

Expert Q&A

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What is the best pin to use?

Rachel Cho
Floral Designer & Plant Specialist
Rachel Cho is a Floral Designer, Plant Specialist, and the Owner of Rachel Cho Floral Design, a floral shop based in New York City. With more than 16 years of experience, she specializes in original and impactful floral design and is known for her dexterity, innate artistry, and design sense. Rachel’s work has been featured in numerous national media outlets such as The New York Times, Harper’s Bazaar, and Huffington Post Weddings.

Rachel Cho

Floral Designer & Plant Specialist

Expert Answer

You should use a 1.5 in (3.81 cm) pin to attach the boutonniere onto the lapel of a jacket. Remember to pin from behind the lapel to the front, go over the boutonniere stem, then come around to the back of the lapel.
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Do I need to find my own pins for a boutonniere?

Community Answer

No, you probably do not need to find your own pins. Most boutonnieres are sold with one or two pins.
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Do I pin my own boutonniere, or should my date put it on me?

Community Answer

Either option is appropriate. Do what makes you feel most comfortable.