How to Make an Average Guy Attractive

Co-authored by Eddy Baller

Last Updated: September 19, 2022 References

Being attractive is about a lot more than the way you look. If you want to help an average-looking guy become more attractive, you can help him improve his looks. Since being attractive is about a lot more than how he looks, you can also help him by encouraging him to take better care of himself and emphasizing the attractive parts of his personality.

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Improving His Looks

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Help him create a skin care plan. One of the easiest ways to help an average guy look more attractive is by encouraging him to take better care of his skin. Help him create a daily skin care routine that’s easy to follow.^{[1]
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- He should use a cleanser and moisturizer every day. He can use a simple soap and water combination before applying a moisturizer, or he can use an actual facial cleanser.
- He should also use a facial scrub one to two times per week for a deeper clean. If he has frequent acne breakouts, he can bump that up to three or so times a week.^{[2]
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Encourage him to groom his facial hair. It’s amazing how much more attractive trimmed and groomed facial hair can make a man look. Help him pick a new look for his facial hair by looking at examples online or taking him to a salon to speak with a stylist.^{[3]
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Ask him to use cologne, but sparingly. Smelling good can go a long way toward making someone attractive. Help him pick out a new cologne, but make sure he knows not to overdue the amount he uses. One or two sprays is plenty.^{[4]
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- When you're talking about this with him, you can say something like "I was thinking you could maybe try a new cologne. You've been wearing the same one for a long time and something new could be good!"
- To tactfully suggest he not wear as much cologne you could say something like "Have you ever noticed how some people wear so much cologne or perfume? Why don't people know that one or two sprays is enough?" This way he gets the information without becoming embarrassed.
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Get him a manicure. Most guys think that manicures are for women, but that’s not true. Manicuring your nails is just about keeping them trimmed and neat. Having nice looking hands is an easy way to look more attractive.
- You can take him to a salon for a manicure or, if he’s leery about getting his nails done in public, you offer to do them for him at home (or ask one of your friends to do them for him).
- You should also encourage him to get a pedicure, particularly if he likes to wear sandals during warm weather.
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Change his haircut. A new haircut can do wonders for making a guy looking more attractive, especially if the haircut he’s got is the same one he's had for a long time.^{[5]
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- Most guys will just go to their local quick cut store and ask for their hair to be trimmed. Try taking him to an actual salon to talk with a stylist, who can recommend the best cut for his face shape.
- Encourage him to bring pictures of haircuts that he likes to his salon appointment.
- He should also be open to the idea of using hair products if necessary for his hairstyle.^{[6]
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Help him pick out clothes that fit. Well-tailored clothing that is not too baggy or too big can make a huge difference in how attractive someone looks. Wearing well-tailored clothes also makes it clear that he pays attention to his appearance.^{[7]
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- The shoulder seam of his shirts should sit at his shoulder joint – the part of his shoulder where it begins to roll down to his upper arm.
- Dress shirts fit well if you can slip two fingers inside the collar comfortably and if the cuffs of the shirt don’t pass his wrists.
- Pants should sit as his natural waist, about three finger-widths below his belly button. The legs of his pants should sit at the top of his shoes, not cover them.

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Improving His Health

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Encourage him to drink more water. Another easy way to look more attractive is by having healthy looking skin. Encouraging him to drink more water can help make his skin look fresher and more vibrant.^{[8]
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- There’s some disagreement about how much water a person should drink in a day, but 6 to 8 glasses is a good rule to follow.
- Getting him a filter water bottle is a good way to encourage healthy water-drinking habits.
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Encourage him to incorporate more fruits and veggies in his diet. A lot of guys tend to favor a meat-and-potatoes approach to cooking and eating. This kind of heavy food can not only make your guy gain weight, but it can actually make him feel bad, too. Getting more fruits and veggies into his diet can improve his overall health.^{[9]
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- An easy way to get him to eat more fruit and veggies is by encouraging him to eat fruit for breakfast - an apple or banana is easy to grab and gets more fruit into his diet.^{[10]
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- He can also double the amount of veggies he already eats. If a recipe calls for a certain amount or number of vegetables, encourage him to double the amount the recipe calls for. This way he's not really changing his eating habits, but he's still getting more fruits and veggies.^{[11]
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Get him to try more lean protein. Chicken, fish, and turkey are all examples of lean proteins that give the body the energy it needs without weighing it down. Encouraging your guy to add some lean protein into his diet can make him look and feel better.^{[12]
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- A really easy way to incorporate lean proteins into his diet is just by substituting leaner options for the protein he already eats. If he eats a lot of steak, suggest he use chicken breast instead in some of his recipes. Ground turkey is a great substitution for ground chuck in burgers and tacos, and ground chicken makes great meatballs.

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Making His Personality Attractive

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Encourage kindness. It’s not just how a person looks or feels that makes them attractive, it’s also how they treat other people. Encouraging him to be kind to others is a good way to increase his attractiveness.^{[13]
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- If the guy in question is already pretty kind, you can encourage more of this behavior by commenting on it. You can try saying something like “I noticed that you helped that lady take her groceries to her car – you’re always so kind to people!"
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Encourage generosity. People who are generous – with their time, with their talent, with their resources – are generally perceived as more attractive. Maybe he’s good at a sport and could help coach your younger sibling’s team. Or maybe he’s great at math and can help your cousins with their taxes.
- Generosity is a great and attractive trait, but there’s a difference between being generous and letting people take advantage. Make sure he's giving of his time and talent when he can but not to the exclusion of his own obligations.^{[14]
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Build his confidence. Confidence is one of the most attractive traits someone can have.^{[15]
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Eddy Baller
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Expert Interview. 7 February 2020.} Help him build your his confidence by complimenting him, especially on the changes you’re helping him make.^{[16]
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- Simply telling him that you appreciate him and the things that make him unique can boost his confidence. So, for example, you can say something like, "You play guitar so well! It's something not many people can do."
- You can also pass along positive comments or compliments that people make about him to you. So if one of your mutual friends notices that he's really stepped up his wardrobe game, pass the comment on by saying something like "Hey, I was talking to Jim and he was telling me he was really impressed by your new wardrobe!"
- You can also ask for his help or advice. Helping him to feel like there's something he - and only he - can contribute is a great way to boost his confidence. Ask him to help you hang new photos in your house, or for advice on something he's had a lot of experience with, like buying a car or choosing a gym.^{[17]
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Expert Q&A

Question

What do girls find attractive in guys?

Eddy Baller
Dating Coach
Eddy Baller is a Dating Coach and the Owner of a dating consulting and coaching service, Conquer and Win, based in Vancouver, Canada. Coaching since 2011, Eddy specializes in confidence building, advanced social skills, and relationships. Conquer and Win helps men worldwide have the love lives they deserve. His work has been featured in The Art of Manliness, LifeHack, and POF among others.

Eddy Baller

Dating Coach

Expert Answer

Confidence can be really attractive, so work on building that along with your social skills.
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His teeth are rotted. How can I encourage him to fix them without hurting his feelings?

Community Answer

If you feel close enough to him to do so, say something like "Having good/healthy teeth is so important for your overall health because bacteria and things that live in your teeth and mouth can get into your bloodstream. Have you thought about getting your teeth checked out?" If you don't, bring up the connection between teeth health and overall health in a general conversation and use yourself as an example: "I've heard your teeth can really affect your overall health, so I made a dentist appointment to get everything checked out."

Warnings

It is really better to like a guy for who he is, not for what he looks like.

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If your man does not really want to change, he won't. Don't force him to change!

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