How to Make a Scorpio Female Fall in Love with You

Last Updated: March 17, 2023 References Approved

People who believe in astrology think Scorpio women are passionate, independent, and complex, often surrounding themselves with an air of mystery. Being in a relationship with a Scorpio woman can be an intense and thrilling experience, but it also has the potential to grow into a long-lasting relationship. Focus on being honest and trustworthy, giving her space to be herself, and planning thoughtful surprises. It may take some time to get her to open up, but it’ll be worth it!

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Getting Her to Fall for You

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Be assertive, confident, and sincere to get her attention. Women who identify as Scorpios are generally driven and confident and don’t want to waste time on someone shy, deceitful, or unsure of themselves. She’ll be able to tell if you’re putting on a front, so start things off right by being yourself!^{[1]
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- Being assertive doesn’t mean the same thing as being aggressive. You can be assertive by speaking confidently and by standing behind what you believe.
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Take your time pursuing her to create an air of mystery.^{[2]
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Angel Eyedealism
Astrologer & Performance Artist
Expert Interview. 13 January 2022.} If you come on strong with your romantic feelings, you risk pushing her away. It can be hard to gain a Scorpio woman’s trust, so take the time to get to know her likes, dislikes, hobbies, and friends.^{[3]
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Jessica Lanyadoo
Astrologer & Psychic Medium
Expert Interview. 12 November 2019.} Try some of these fun ways to get to know her better:^{[4]
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- Pay attention to her social media to see what kinds of things she likes.
- Ask her open-ended questions to get her to talk about herself more.
- Try saying “tell me more,” to get her to share more personal information with you.
- Invite her to go out for a drink or meal so you can spend one-on-one time together.
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Avoid being clingy or controlling. A Scorpio woman typically loves her independence and astrologists say that a major turn off is when someone tries to cramp her lifestyle. If you call or text her, try to not contact her again until she responds to you. If she turns down a date or says she’s busy, wait a week before trying again. Avoid telling her how she should act, dress, or deal with a situation unless she asks for your advice.^{[5]
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- If she does ask for your help or opinion about something, that is a great sign and means she’s beginning to trust you.
Tip: Remember that she is a dynamic and complex individual. It may be tempting to say she has certain characteristics because she’s a Scorpio, but she is an individual and can’t fit into a box.
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Shower her with thoughtful gifts and compliments to show you know her.^{[6]
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Jessica Lanyadoo
Astrologer & Psychic Medium
Expert Interview. 12 November 2019.} Pay attention to what she likes and talks about to get gift ideas. When you pay her a compliment, make it specific—and, while you can compliment her looks, don’t neglect her intelligence, humor, and attitude, too.^{[7]
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- For example, if she mentions that she loves a specific coffee shop, stop by there and get her a gift card. Or, if she is always running late because she was just hitting the gym, you could get her a gift certificate for a massage or a new yoga mat.
- To compliment her sincerely, keep things specific. For example, instead of saying, “You look nice today,” say something like, “That color of green brings out your beautiful eye color.” Or, tell her you admire something she accomplished recently, like running a marathon or acing a presentation at work.
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Plan romantic surprises to sweep her off her feet. A romantic weekend away, a dinner at a high-end restaurant, tickets to her favorite musical—grand gestures can go a long way in getting her to fall for you. Plus, taking a risk and planning something big shows her that you’re confident and willing to take charge sometimes.^{[8]
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- Romantic surprises don’t have to be expensive. For example, if she is a book lover, surprise her by taking her to a reading by an author she loves. Or, plan a special picnic lunch, complete with champagne.

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Nurturing Your Relationship

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Be 100% honest, otherwise you risk losing her trust. While she may like a little bit of mystery, lying and dishonesty will ruin your relationship. Commit to telling the truth and acting in a trustworthy way—this means not having other relationships on the side or hiding anything from her.^{[9]
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- If you did lie about something, come clean about it before she catches you. For example, if you told her you quit smoking but haven’t, it’d be better to talk to her about the situation rather than have her find a pack of cigarettes in your pocket.
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Keep her in the loop so she feels secure in your relationship. Astrologists say that Scorpio women, while fiercely independent, also like to feel secure in a relationship—in fact, that’s often why it takes them so long to settle down. If you like her, don’t play games by ignoring her texts or calls or being unavailable for long periods. Let her know she is a priority and that you won’t leave her hanging.^{[10]
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- Scorpio women, like many women, don’t like games. She doesn’t want to question how important she is to you, so don’t make her.
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Respect her boundaries and encourage her interests and friendships.^{[11]
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Jessica Lanyadoo
Astrologer & Psychic Medium
Expert Interview. 12 November 2019.} A great way to keep your relationship vibrant is to make sure she is taking the time she needs for herself. If she feels stifled or bored, she’s going to grow to resent you.^{[12]
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- For example, if there is a class she wants to take, encourage her to register. If she loves going out with her friends on the weekend, don’t try to monopolize all of her time.
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Allow her to take the lead to nurture her independence. Unless she gives you a signal that she wants you to take charge, it’ll help the balance in your relationship if you let her give advice and make decisions. This will show her that you respect her intelligence and value her leadership.^{[13]
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- As she trusts you more and more, chances are she’ll ask for your help with things. But if you try to take control of the relationship, she might withdraw from you.
Tip: Make it a point to ask for her advice about your work, friendships, and life decisions. She’ll feel valued and will probably have some really good opinions to share.
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Experience and learn new things together to keep things fresh. In addition to making sure that she feels independent and challenged in her personal life, make sure you’re experiencing things together to help create a stronger bond. Take a cooking class together, travel somewhere new, join a book club, train for a triathlon, or do a home project.^{[14]
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- Boredom and unvaried routine are bound to make her antsy. Every couple of weeks, come up with something new to do if you feel like things are getting a little too “normal.”

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Do Scorpios fall in love easily?

Jessica Lanyadoo
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Jessica Lanyadoo is an astrologer with over 20 years of consulting experience. She is the author of Astrology for Real Relationships: Understanding You, Me, and How We All Get Along and is the host of the popular astrology and advice show, Ghost of a Podcast. Lanyadoo co-hosted TLC’s digital astrology show Stargazing and writes weekly and monthly horoscopes that help you heal.

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Scorpios can get very attached quite easily, as they are a water sign that is also fixed. When their emotions are strong, they can get as attached to those emotions as a fixed sign might.
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How do you win the heart of a Scorpio?

Jessica Lanyadoo
Astrologer & Psychic Medium
Jessica Lanyadoo is an astrologer with over 20 years of consulting experience. She is the author of Astrology for Real Relationships: Understanding You, Me, and How We All Get Along and is the host of the popular astrology and advice show, Ghost of a Podcast. Lanyadoo co-hosted TLC’s digital astrology show Stargazing and writes weekly and monthly horoscopes that help you heal.

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When you're dating or flirting with a Scorpio sun person, you want to be attentive to what they are saying as well as their body language. You should also respect their privacy. If you respect their privacy and limitations, you can win their trust.
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How do I win my Scorpio woman back to my love again?

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That depends on what happened to end the relationship in the first place. If you broke her trust, you need to give her time and space. A sincere apology can do wonders for repairing a relationship, but you may just need to step back and see if she'll return on her own.