How to Make a Girl Weak in the Knees

Co-authored by John Keegan

Last Updated: March 29, 2022 References

If you've met a girl, and you're hitting it off, but you want to make her fall head over heels for you, there are a few strategies you can try to make her feel weak in the knees. Learning to communicate with her, to be cultured around her, and to create a lasting memory with her will help you create that spark in your relationship.

Method 1

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Communicating With Her

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Compliment her. Girls love to hear compliments.^{[1]
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John Keegan
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Expert Interview. 5 November 2019.} It reassures them that you like them and that they are attractive.^{[2]
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Expert Interview. 24 January 2020.}
- Give her compliments that are specific to her rather than generic compliments like “you're pretty”.^{[3]
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- Compliment her abilities like how well she plays a sport or musical instrument. These kinds of compliments show her that you care about her interests.
- Be genuine with your compliments. Most girls have the insight to tell when someone isn't being genuine so make sure the compliments you say come from a true place.
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Learn about her interests. Ask the girl about the things she's interested in to get her talking to you. Find common interests you share to create a bond with her, or take the time to learn more about something she is interested in. Use questions that will encourage her to share with you.^{[4]
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- "What is your most treasured memory?"
- "What would be your perfect day?"
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Give her your complete attention. One thing most girls want from their partner is their undivided attention. This conveys that you will be there for her and that she will be your number one.^{[6]
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- Listen to her when she talks and validate her by acknowledging what she said.^{[7]
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  John Keegan
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  Expert Interview. 5 November 2019.} This needs to be more than just an “uh-huh” or “yes, sweetie”.
- Be an active listener by rephrasing what said and repeating it back with a follow up question.^{[8]
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Make eye contact with her.^{[9]
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David Kornel Z
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Expert Interview. 24 January 2020.} Eye contact is an important part of communicating and flirting with a girl.^{[10]
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John Keegan
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Expert Interview. 5 November 2019.} Good eye contact can make her feel a connected to you and not be able to get you off of her mind.^{[11]
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- Lock eyes with her while she talks to you and gaze lovingly into her eyes.
- Periodically catch her eye when you are across the room from her, and hold her eye contact for a few seconds before looking away.
- Smile when you look into her eyes.^{[12]
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Method 2

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Showing Good Manners

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Practice old fashioned gestures. Girls like to feel special, so taking the time to do a few simple old fashioned gestures will go a long way when trying to win a girl's heart. Observe her reactions to your gestures, and make sure she appreciates you going the extra mile. If she wants a more equal relationship, these may seem condescending.
- Open doors for her when you are with her. Take the time to open the car door for her when you arrive and leave from places. Hold doors open for her and any others around when you enter a building.
- Offer her your coat on a cold night. This act of chivalry shows her that you care about her by making her comfortable.
- Meet her friends and family. Ask her if you can introduce yourself to her friends or parents because you want to meet the people she loves.^{[13]
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Make her feel safe. Creating a feeling of safety and security will help a girl trust and open up to you.^{[14]
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John Keegan
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Expert Interview. 5 November 2019.} Simple actions of kindness can help make her feel safe in your arms.
- Hold her hand when you are walking with her. Having her hand in yours shows her that you are proud to be with her and makes her feel as though you will keep her safe.
- Stand close to her, or pull her close to you. Standing within a close proximity to her when you are out with friends will ensure her that she is your one and only.
- Put your arm around her. Try putting your arm around her shoulders when you are watching a movie or hanging out with friends. She will like the feeling of comfort in your arms, and it should make her feel like you're strong.
- Be there for her when she is feeling down. A girl needs to feel safe and secure emotionally. Listen to her when she talks about a problem, and reassure her that she will be alright. Let her know that you are there for her in any way she needs, and if she needs help solving the problem, you are happy to help.
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Use good table manners. Present yourself as being cultured and respectful by using proper manners when you eat.
- Chew with your mouth closed, and don't talk while you have food in your mouth.
- Use your knife to guide food on your fork, not your fingers.
- Wipe you face and hands with a napkin rather than your clothes.
- Keep your phone put away during dinner.
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Be respectful to others in front of her. When you treat people with respect in front of a girl, it shows her that you are going to treat her with the utmost of respect.^{[15]
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- Show love to your mom or sister in front of the girl to let her see that you understand what real love looks like.
- Be helpful to elderly ladies by opening doors for them or helping them with their groceries when you are out with a girl. She will see how compassionate you are and know that you'll be this compassionate with her.
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Return phone calls and texts in a timely manner. While a little suspense can make her excited to hear from you, make sure that you don't leave her waiting too long.

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Creating a Memory

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Buy her flowers. The gift of flowers is a great gesture to show a girl you care. Flowers are beautiful and can have an enticing aroma that will make a girl feel special.^{[16]
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- Buy her a few of her favorite flowers or a few exotic flowers instead of a generic bouquet. This is more personal and will make a girl feel like you took the time to pick them out for her.
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Take her somewhere memorable. Creating a memory with a girl by taking her somewhere special will help her make a connection with you. Take her somewhere unique that she isn't used to going, or plan a fun filled day with interesting activities for her.
- Take her to a field or up a mountain to go stargazing one night. Bring a couple of blankets to sit on and stay warm with. You can also bring a small picnic to share.
- Plan a day volunteering at an animal shelter. Shelters are always looking for volunteers to play with the dogs, so show her your compassionate side by volunteering. There's nothing sweeter than playing with a puppy.
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Use your talents to surprise her. Using your individual talents to surprise a girl will show her why you are a catch. She should appreciate the time you took to create something special for her.^{[17]
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- Write a song for her and perform it, or handwrite the lyrics on nice paper for her.
- Choreograph a dance to perform for her, or take dancing lessons and take her out to show off your skills.
- If comedy is your thing, invite her to an open mic night. Get on stage and perform a stand up set. Just make sure you don't make her part of any of the jokes.
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Pay attention to her love language. Everyone wants to be loved differently and enjoys receiving love in different ways. Learn how she wants to be loved and speak her language to make her fall for you completely. The five love languages provide various ways to show your love:^{[18]
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- Acts of service - Doing favors and helping out with her needs
- Gifts - Small gifts, flowers, or tokens of your appreciation
- Words of affirmation - Tell her you appreciate her and compliment her strengths
- Physical touch - Give gentle caresses, hugs, or massages
- Quality Time - Set aside time that is devoted only to her

Method 4

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Generating Chemistry

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Flirt with her. Spark her interest by gently flirting. Make eye contact and smile from across the room, tease her playfully, or touch her gently when you talk. Flirting is the universal language of attraction.^{[19]
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Be sensual. Seduce her senses by creating a romantic atmosphere. Appeal to each of her senses to create the ultimate experience.
- Use candles or massage oils to create a sensual smell.
- Play romantic music to set the mood.
- Create a beautiful environment with flowers and a special outfit.
- Cook her favorite dinner.
- Rub her back or feet to help her relax.
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Let her know you're into her. Tell her how you feel and open your heart. Being honest and open is the best way to make a girl feel comfortable and willing to open up to you.^{[21]
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Expert Q&A

Question

How do you flirt with a girl without being awkward?

David Kornel Z
Dating Coach
David Kornel Z is a Dating Coach for NYC Wingwoman LLC, a relationship coaching service based in New York City. 'NYC Wingwoman' offers matchmaking, wingwoman services, 1-on-1 Coaching, and intensive weekend bootcamps. Coming from a bilingual family, David has always been fascinated by communication and relationships. He speaks five languages and runs a language and communication coaching and tutoring business in Europe.

David Kornel Z

Dating Coach

Expert Answer

The number one thing that comes to my mind is smile, just be friendly. I think being friendly can be flirting on its own. A good way to flirt would be just to give a compliment about something, maybe she has really great looking shoes. “Oh, by the way, I love your shoes, they look really stylish and they totally match your outfits”. In a way that is flirting.
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How do you start a conversation with a popular girl?

David Kornel Z
Dating Coach
David Kornel Z is a Dating Coach for NYC Wingwoman LLC, a relationship coaching service based in New York City. 'NYC Wingwoman' offers matchmaking, wingwoman services, 1-on-1 Coaching, and intensive weekend bootcamps. Coming from a bilingual family, David has always been fascinated by communication and relationships. He speaks five languages and runs a language and communication coaching and tutoring business in Europe.

David Kornel Z

Dating Coach

Expert Answer

Smile be friendly and don't hesitate to express your interest in the person. I encourage them to do is to be direct and just give the lady a compliment. For example, there's a beautiful young lady that they like that's walking down the street, don't hesitate to walk towards her, stop her, be very polite, try to be very charming and just be direct saying something like, “Hello, I don't mean to bother you but I think you look absolutely stunning, your outfit looks great” or “I really like your style, I think your handbag looks amazing, the way it matches your belt”, whatever, just give a compliment, something that you really like about the person.