How to Love an Aries Man: Understanding Aries in Relationships & Key Personality Traits

Your guide to understanding what Aries men want in relationships and how to win their love

Co-authored by Tara Divina and Glenn Carreau

Last Updated: March 17, 2023

Getting an Aries Man to Fall in Love

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Maintaining a Relationship

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Personality Traits

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Signs an Aries Man is in Love

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Best & Worst Matches

Wondering how you can speak an Aries man's love language and capture his heart? You've come to the right place. A relationship with an Aries man can be passionate, fun, and exciting, and understanding his personality is key to building a healthy relationship! Read on for a complete guide to loving an Aries man, from capturing his interest to spotting signs that he feels the same.

Things You Should Know

Get an Aries man to fall in love by giving him compliments, going on spontaneous adventures, and being your genuine self around him.
Encourage your Aries man's ambitions and independent spirit to maintain a healthy relationship. Be vulnerable around him, as well.
Understand your Aries man's most prominent personality traits: he's passionate, stubborn, driven, energetic, and impulsive.

Section 1 of 5:

Getting an Aries Man to Fall in Love

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Do plenty of spontaneous and exciting things together. Aries men are impulsive, and they love doing things on a whim. Go along with it when he suggests doing something crazy or unexpected, and come prepared with a few wild ideas of your own. When you're with an Aries man, casual plans to grab dinner may turn into a long night out with dancing and exploring.
- For example, an Aries guy would love it if you suggested a trip to a city you've never visited or a spur-of-the-moment outing to an amusement park.
- Aries guys love the great outdoors! Suggest sporty outdoor adventures like hiking, biking, or climbing a mountain.
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Be honest and open with your Aries man. Aries guys are direct, and they admire that same honesty in their partners. He doesn't want to guess how you feel; he'll appreciate your willingness to come right out and tell him what's on your mind. Your Aries can also tell when someone is being fake, so always be your genuine self around him. He wants to know the real you!
- For example, if he asks you what’s wrong, don’t say, “Nothing, don’t worry about it.” Instead, be honest. Say something like, “I’m actually a little upset about something my friend said. Could we talk it through?”
- Don’t hide your true interests because you’re afraid he won’t share them. Own them! He’ll be thrilled by your passion and knowledge.
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Give him plenty of compliments to feed his fiery ego. Aries guys love attention and need to feel appreciated by the people around them. They have big egos! It's easy to win an Aries man over by offering him praise, encouragement, and compliments that make him feel great about himself. Compliment everything from his looks to his smarts; the more affection you give him, the more he'll give you.
- Say something like, "You have such a great sense of humor!" or "You have the best smile. When I see it, I smile too!"
- Phrase your compliment as a request for help. Aries love showing off their know-how! Try something like, "Hey, do you know how to solve this puzzle? You're so good at them, I figured you'd have an idea."
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Show off your ambition and confidence. Aries is an ambitious sign, and they're attracted to people who can match their bold and driven nature. Don't be afraid to prioritize your career and tell Aries about your plans and dreams for the future. He'll admire your desire for success and be happy that he's found a kindred spirit who can understand his aspirations too.
- You could say something like, “I have a pretty ambitious 5-year plan to grow my business, but I’m on track to pull it off! Want to see my latest project?”
- Tell him when you’re about to apply for a promotion or a new job. Ask for his help, too! Try something like, “I’m interviewing for that manager position at my company. Want to help me practice?”
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Engage him with intelligent and friendly debates. Intelligence is extremely attractive to an Aries man, and he'll love the chance to learn more about you and your passions through spirited debate. The more he gets to know you, the more he'll want to talk to you about anything and everything—and Aries can talk for hours when he gets going!
- Strike up a debate about a topic you both like, such as sports, movies, or music. If he says the best movie ever made was Avatar, but you think it's Titanic, make your case and let him make his.
- Keep things friendly. Aries guys enjoy being challenged but don't want to be told they're wrong. You could say, “Wow, that was a compelling argument!” even if you agree to disagree in the end.

EXPERT TIP

Tara Divina

Vedic Astrologer

Tara Divina is a California-based Vedic Astrologer. Vedic Astrology, also known as Jyotish, is an ancient, sacred art of self-understanding and divination. With nearly 10 years of experience, Tara gives personalized readings that answer her clients' biggest questions about relationships, money, purpose, career, and other big life decisions.

Tara Divina
Vedic Astrologer

" 'Don't fall behind in the conversation.'" Aries usually prefer talking with someone who can keep up with them mentally throughout a conversation. Pay attention when Aries is explaining something, so you don't have to ask multiple clarifying questions. You want to make him feel like you're moving forward together.

Section 2 of 5:

Maintaining a Relationship

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Encourage him to pursue his interests and explore new places. Aries men love their freedom and independence, and they can be turned off by people that try to control or restrain them. Make sure you give your Aries man the space to do his own thing and avoid being needy or clingy. He'll love you more for letting him be free.
- If he talks about how he's dying to take a trip somewhere, be supportive and tell him he should go—and don't take it personally if he doesn't invite you along.
- Try to balance your needs with his. It's okay to ask him to skip going out with his friends every once in a while so you can have a night together, but don't do it all the time.
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Open up and be vulnerable with him when you're alone. Despite their flashy exterior and self-centered personality, Aries men are actually sensitive and caring deep down. Once he trusts you, he'll be eager to confide in you and offer emotional support—but it will help if you take the lead and open up to him first. It'll put your Aries man at ease and make him more comfortable with vulnerability.^{[1]
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- For example, tell him about your feelings and insecurities before asking questions about his own. After he sees you open up, he'll be willing to do it too.
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Let him take the lead and be chivalrous sometimes. Aries is a cardinal sign, which means he's an initiator. He loves to be a leader and call the shots! That doesn't mean you need to let Aries always have his way, but he'll appreciate being allowed to look out for you and take you out on exciting dates. Besides, it's nice to be pampered a little—and Aries will eagerly prove his love with small, thoughtful gestures.
- For example, your Aries guy might insist on paying the check when you go out for dinner or plan an adventurous hiking date for the two of you. Go with the flow, and let him!
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Stand up for yourself without trying to prove him wrong. Aries are natural leaders, and sometimes they can be bossy. There may be times when your Aries man tries to tell you what to do, but that doesn't mean you should let him! Aries men actually like strong, independent people that stand up for themselves. Don't try to lecture or control him; you could scare him off.
- For example, if you have plans to do one thing, but he wants you to do something else, don't be afraid to say no. You could say, "If you don't want to join me, that's fine, but this is what I'm doing."
- Aries guys don't like the insinuation that they're in the wrong; it wounds their ego. Avoid saying things like, "You shouldn't do that" or "I don't like that." Just calmly assert yourself and move on!
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Be bold and adventurous in the bedroom. Aries men are confident in their sexuality and like people who share that attitude. When you're intimate together, don't be afraid to let your hair down and try new things. Aries men are naturally playful and love to have fun in bed. Experimenting with different positions or outfits in the bedroom are great ways to attract Aries sexually!^{[2]
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- Try some dirty talk to drive your Aries wild! Let him take the lead in bed, too; he'll enjoy any position that lets him be in control.
- Don’t worry about setting up the perfect atmosphere. Aries is all about spontaneity and impulse, so mood-lighting and candle-lit dinners aren’t really his thing.
- Gain confidence in yourself by learning to love yourself as you are. Stop comparing yourself with others, and tell yourself you're beautiful daily. Your Aries man will certainly tell you so!

Section 3 of 5:

Personality Traits

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Impulsive Aries thrives on leadership, but they rarely consider the consequences of their actions. That driven energy isn't always bad; Aries will quickly let the whole world know when he realizes he has feelings for you! However, it can also cause Aries to say or do things without thinking.^{[3]
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Passionate An Aries does things with their whole heart; when they're in love, they commit to you with no reservations. It also means that your Aries man will lavish you with unconditional love, sweet gestures, compliments, and gifts. For all that he's an independent person, your Aries is also surprisingly stable and devoted when in love.^{[4]
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- Expect your passionate Aries to be proactive throughout the relationship. Once he knows there's a connection, he'll be eager to keep the relationship moving—whether that's moving in together, getting engaged, and so on.
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Energetic Life is never dull with a fiery Aries man; he's fun-loving and always ready for the next adventure. This is also where Aries's love of spontaneous excitement and outdoor exploration comes from, but it's not the only way Aries' energetic personality manifests. This sign is also a great conversationalist; their boundless energy makes them easy to talk to.
- Aries is ruled by Mars, the planet of war and aggression. It's the source of Aries's intense energy and passion; this sign is well-known for being both action-oriented and hot-headed.
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Honest They don't mince words and are not afraid to tell you how they feel, even if it's not nice. Be prepared for this so you're not caught off guard when it happens. Don't take his bluntness personally—it's just his personality. And if something he says hurts your feelings or offends you, don't be afraid to be honest in return.^{[5]
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Stubborn Aries men aren't the best at compromising and don't always react gracefully when things don't go their way. This is the downside to their affinity for leadership; they often think their way is the best. Don't be afraid to talk to him about your wants and needs if his stubbornness makes you feel overshadowed. He'll support you once he understands what you need from him!

Section 4 of 5:

Signs an Aries Man is in Love

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He's protective of you. Aries guys have strong protective instincts and love to play the knight in shining armor! He'll defend you when others are being unkind to you and check up on you often. Aries also has a chivalrous side, and you'll often find him walking you home or opening the door for you. He'll go out of his way to make sure you're safe and happy at all times.
- For instance, if he thinks someone is harassing you at a bar, he’ll immediately put a stop to it. Even if you’re not there and he hears someone badmouthing you, he’ll step in and speak up on your behalf.
- Expect frequent sweet check-in texts to ask if you got home okay, find out how your day is going, or ask if there’s anything he can do when you’re feeling down.
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He prioritizes you above all else. When an Aries guy is in love, nothing will stop him from being by your side when you need him. This behavior change is fairly easy to notice; typically, Aries men are very independent and carefree. While that won't necessarily change, he'll willingly drop everything if it means he can help you or make you feel better.
- For example, your Aries man would take the day off from work in a heartbeat if you were sick and needed a little care.
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He holds back on physical affection until you initiate it. Aries guys are typically bold and love to take the initiative, which is why it can be so obvious when they're in love. He'll suddenly become more reserved and almost shy when it comes to physical touch and wait until he knows you're ready. It's his way of being conscientious while ensuring you like him as much as he likes you.
- After you give Aries the all-clear, his true warmth and passion will come flooding out. Aries guys are extremely affectionate once they know you want them to be!
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He asks for your opinion and agrees with you. Aries men are generally stubborn, so it says a lot when he suddenly takes your opinion very seriously. He'll actively seek out your advice on pretty much anything and listen thoughtfully to the feedback you give him. He might also start agreeing with you on most topics—and even if he doesn't, he'll never press you on a sensitive subject.
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He'll introduce you to his friends and family. Aries men tend to have close ties with their families and are especially fond of their mothers. So, when your Aries is suddenly eager to introduce you to everyone important in his life, it's a surefire sign that he cares for you and wants you to stick around for the long haul.

Section 5 of 5:

Best & Worst Matches

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Aries's best matches are fellow fire signs Leo and Sagittarius. Leo and Aries have similar temperaments; they're both bold, confident, and extremely loyal. Leo is less impulsive but still appreciates adventure, which can help ground Aries while still keeping him satisfied. Meanwhile, Sagittarius and Aries share the same wanderlust, playfulness, and sense of optimism. They'll understand one another perfectly!
- Aries is also compatible with air signs like Gemini, Libra, and Aquarius. Their intelligence and charm are very appealing to Aries guys.
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An Aries man's worst matches are Capricorn and Cancer. Capricorn is an earth sign—quiet, grounded, and methodical, whereas Aries is loud and energetic. They tend to want different things out of life and might feel weighed down by one another. Cancer, a water sign, is highly emotional and sensitive, so they can easily get offended by Aries's blunt way of speaking.