This article was co-authored by Leslie Bosch, PhD and by wikiHow staff writer, Caroline Heiderscheit. Dr. Leslie Bosch is a Developmental Psychologist, National Board Certified Health and Wellness Coach, and Owner of Bosch Integrative Wellness. With over 15 years of experience, she specializes in providing stress relief coaching services to individuals and groups using a variety of scientifically proven methods for change including motivational interviewing, positive psychology, self-compassion, non-violent communication, social learning theory, and self-determination theory. Dr. Bosch received training from the Andrew Weil Center for Integrative Medicine at the University of Arizona and earned a PhD in Human Development and Family Studies from The University of Arizona. She is also a member of the National Board of Health and Wellness Coaching Association. Dr. Bosch has published many papers and been featured in the media numerous times.
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You may wonder how a grieving man can appear so stoic and stable—when internally, you know he must be struggling with his loss. To offer a man empathy and support, understanding his experience will be key. We've included an exhaustive guide covering the psychology behind the male grieving process. That way, you can stop feeling so confused by his grieving process and instead, start supporting and connecting with him again.
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QuestionHow do you help a man who is grieving?Leslie Bosch, PhDDr. Leslie Bosch is a Developmental Psychologist, National Board Certified Health and Wellness Coach, and Owner of Bosch Integrative Wellness. With over 15 years of experience, she specializes in providing stress relief coaching services to individuals and groups using a variety of scientifically proven methods for change including motivational interviewing, positive psychology, self-compassion, non-violent communication, social learning theory, and self-determination theory. Dr. Bosch received training from the Andrew Weil Center for Integrative Medicine at the University of Arizona and earned a PhD in Human Development and Family Studies from The University of Arizona. She is also a member of the National Board of Health and Wellness Coaching Association. Dr. Bosch has published many papers and been featured in the media numerous times.
Developmental PsychologistIn our culture, there's the expectation, especially for guys, that they look courageous, strong and powerful. Due to that, they might not even know how to engage when feeling powerless or when asked about their feelings. One way you can help is by showing that you're sad, angry or even confused. Share your feelings and let the guy know that it's okay to feel and to share. -
QuestionShould you leave a grieving person alone?Leslie Bosch, PhDDr. Leslie Bosch is a Developmental Psychologist, National Board Certified Health and Wellness Coach, and Owner of Bosch Integrative Wellness. With over 15 years of experience, she specializes in providing stress relief coaching services to individuals and groups using a variety of scientifically proven methods for change including motivational interviewing, positive psychology, self-compassion, non-violent communication, social learning theory, and self-determination theory. Dr. Bosch received training from the Andrew Weil Center for Integrative Medicine at the University of Arizona and earned a PhD in Human Development and Family Studies from The University of Arizona. She is also a member of the National Board of Health and Wellness Coaching Association. Dr. Bosch has published many papers and been featured in the media numerous times.
Developmental PsychologistThat depends, honestly. Being with close friends and family can usually help, but if the way this person grieves is very different from the others, this can end up being a source of conflict and it's probably better to leave them alone. If you're both approaching the grief in the same way, though, having people around you can be more comforting than being alone.
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- ↑ https://together.stjude.org/en-us/for-families/bereavement/gender-differences-in-grieving.html
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- ↑ https://www.urmc.rochester.edu/encyclopedia/content.aspx?contenttypeid=1&contentid=1746
- ↑ https://www.pewtrusts.org/en/research-and-analysis/articles/2019/06/03/men-more-likely-than-women-to-face-substance-use-disorders-and-mental-illness
- ↑ https://griefwords.com/index.cgi?action=page&page=articles%2Fhelping11.html&site_id=2
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- ↑ https://together.stjude.org/en-us/for-families/bereavement/gender-differences-in-grieving.html
- ↑ https://grieflink.org.au/factsheets/grief-reactions-in-men/
- ↑ https://together.stjude.org/en-us/for-families/bereavement/gender-differences-in-grieving.html
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- ↑ https://online.maryville.edu/blog/grief-counseling/
- ↑ https://www.health.harvard.edu/blog/can-grief-morph-into-depression-201203214511