How to Get a Pisces Woman to Chase You

Co-authored by Moshe Ratson, MFT, PCC and Madeleine Criglow

Last Updated: February 21, 2022 References

It's hard not to fall for a Pisces. They are highly intuitive and gentle souls, which makes them some of the most compassionate and loving partners of the Zodiac. To get a sensitive Pisces to chase you, you'll have to embrace your own kind and tender qualities. Read on for some tips on how to make yourself irresistible to a Pisces woman.

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Make the first move.

Give her an indication that you like her so she knows your intentions. Pisces are often sensitive and shy individuals, and they may not know you're interested unless you show them somehow. If you haven't already, ask the Pisces woman you like out on a date or let her know that you enjoy her company. If you're feeling shy yourself, you don't have to be super bold. A small, meaningful gesture to show that you appreciate her will be enough encouragement.^{[1]
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- If you haven't hung out together yet, ask the Pisces woman you like out to coffee or drinks. A Pisces is very intuitive, so she'll likely know it's a date.
- Tell her you like her in a friendly, subtle way. Text her something like, "I always have so much fun with you" or "You're such a great person to be around 😊" This will be more than enough encouragement to get her to start chasing you.

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Compliment her often.

Remind her how special she is. A Pisces can sometimes get lost in their head and forget their amazing qualities.^{[2]
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Expert Interview. 7 August 2019.} Compliment her often and she'll want to be by your side all of the time. Applaud her talents, her unique insight about life, and anything else you find awesome about the Pisces woman you fancy. She'll see you as an encouraging person in her life and will keep coming back for more praise.^{[3]
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- If you love talking to this Pisces woman about anything and everything, you might say, "You've got such an incredible mind. I always love what you have to say."
- Maybe you've been texting about music and are super into all of the new folk artists she's introduced you to. Text her something like, "You've got such great taste in music! I'm so lucky I get to listen to your playlists."

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Be romantic.

Pisces women are some of the most loving people of the Zodiac. Show this Pisces woman that you're capable of being sentimental just like her. Give her thoughtful gifts, write her affectionate notes, and take her out on romantic dates like candlelit dinners or riverside picnics. Your big heart will win her over and send her chasing after you.^{[4]
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Moshe Ratson, MFT, PCC
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Expert Interview. 7 August 2019.} Here are some romantic gestures you can try:
- Make her a playlist of your favorite love songs.
- Cook a lavish meal and eat it while watching a romantic movie, like Moonstruck, Say Anything, or The Big Sick.
- Take her on a moonlit drive to go stargazing.
- Rent a paddle boat or a bike for two^{[6]
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- Plan a beach day^{[7]
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Talk about offbeat subjects.

A Pisces has an interest in all things peculiar. She'll likely be interested in dreams, art, fantasy novels, and science fiction. Show her that you enjoy talking about things like this, too, and she'll always want to be by your side. If you don't know much about these topics, try asking her about her thoughts. She'll have plenty!^{[8]
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- Pick dates that inspire thoughtful discussions on mystical or otherworldly subjects. You might visit a modern art museum with an exhibit on surrealist paintings or a book store with a wide selection of fantasy novels.
- As you walk past the artwork, you might say, "Wow that's an interesting piece. What do you think about it?" Alternatively, grab a book off the shelf and ask, "Have you read this one?"

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Listen when she opens up to you.

A Pisces usually has a whole other world going on inside their head. They have a lot of emotions, and they need a partner who's up for talking about them anytime. Listen to her when she talks about her feelings, thoughts, and ideas. Ask her questions to show that you care to learn more. Even talk about your own feelings in return. Seeing you as someone she can open up to will help her start to chase you.^{[9]
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- Check in on how she's feeling often to show that you care. You might ask questions like, "How have you been feeling this week?" or "What's on your mind?"
- When she talks to you about her day, give her your full attention. Put your phone away, make eye contact as she talks, and nod along to help you follow what she's saying.

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Be honest with her.

A Pisces is very intuitive, so she'll know if you're not being truthful. Avoid playing games like pretending to not be interested in her or trying to make her jealous. Instead, be open and honest about your thoughts, feelings, and intentions. Unlike other signs, she won't be scared by your transparency. In fact, once she sees you as someone she can trust, she'll really start to go after you.^{[10]
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- Be open about your thoughts on any subject. If you watch a movie together, tell her how you felt about the plot or the character development instead of simply saying the movie was "fine."
- If you're feeling down, don't feel any pressure to hide it. You might say, "I've been having a kind of rough week, but hopefully next week will be better!" She'll appreciate that you feel comfortable opening up to her.

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Follow through on your promises.

A Pisces needs to know she can rely on you. Show her she can do just that by staying true to your word. Anytime you offer to help this Pisces woman or make a promise to her, follow through with your actions. She'll see you as a trustworthy and generous soul and will keep running to your side.^{[11]
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- Keep your dates with Pisces and make sure you're on time. If you forget or cancel at the last minute, this could really hurt a Pisces's feelings.
- Only make promises you can keep. If you tell her you can pick up some dinner on the way to her house, don't show up empty-handed.

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Flaunt how stable you are.

Show her you can take care of yourself on your own. A Pisces is attracted to someone who can provide stability for them when they get lost in their fantasies and dreams. To do that, show her that you've got your life together. Keep up with your responsibilities in life and work, maintain healthy friendships, and remain independent to show that you're self-reliant. If she sees you as a stable force in her life, she'll be chasing after you in no time.^{[12]
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- Keep making plans with your friends, even if you find yourself lost in your romance with this Pisces woman. She'll like the fact that you're a reliable and caring friend.
- Keep working towards your professional goals. Show up to work on time, go for the projects that you enjoy, and follow your dreams. A Pisces woman will be attracted to your stable ambition.
- Make solo plans sometimes, like going on a solo hike or spending the afternoon reading at a coffee shop. A Pisces woman enjoys her alone time, too. She'll like that you're comfortable spending time with just yourself.

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Give her reassurance.

Build her up anytime she's down. A Pisces may sometimes struggle to have faith in themselves due to their sensitive natures. Anytime she's struggling, provide encouragement.^{[13]
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Expert Interview. 7 August 2019.} If she ever gets lost in her thoughts, bring her back down to earth. She's looking for a partner that can be a source of kindness and compassion when she's feeling down. If you can be that for her, she'll pursue you in a heartbeat.^{[14]
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- Maybe she told you that she's been feeling pretty stressed by the demands of her job. You might text her, "You're so talented. Work can be hard, but I know that you're incredible at what you do."
- If she's got a lot on her mind, let her know she can always vent to you. Say something like, "I'm always here if you want to talk."

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Stay true to yourself.

A Pisces needs to be with someone who has a strong sense of self. As highly intuitive people, a Pisces will be able to tell if you're changing yourself to appear like someone you're not. Stay true to who you are by showing off your true personality, interests, and sense of humor. She'll admire you for your authenticity and will want to get to know you more.^{[15]
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- Talk about your interests openly, even if you think they're weird (remember, Pisces appreciate all things strange and offbeat). If you love horror movies, flaunt that and tell her about your favorite film.
- Don't be afraid to crack jokes or send funny GIFs or astrology memes to the Pisces you like. This sign loves to laugh and appreciates someone with a good sense of humor.

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Avoid pressuring her.

Instead, be gentle and take things slow. Those with their Sun in Pisces are often sensitive people who may struggle to set boundaries. If you push them too far, they may disappear without a word. When you're flirting and trying to woo a Pisces woman, be kind and sincere instead of bold and brash. Your attention to her needs will make her feel comfortable and excited to pursue you.^{[16]
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- To respect her gentle nature, always phrase your invitations as questions instead of demands. Instead of saying "I miss you! You've gotta come over tonight," try, "Been thinking of you. Would you want to come over tomorrow?"
- If she says no to hanging out or doesn't seem interested in your advances, respect that and give her space. Don't wait for her to ask that you stop messaging her or reaching out.

Expert Q&A

Question

What is the most romantic date?

Moshe Ratson, MFT, PCC
Marriage & Family Therapist
Moshe Ratson is the Executive Director of spiral2grow Marriage & Family Therapy, a coaching and therapy clinic in New York City. Moshe is an International Coach Federation accredited Professional Certified Coach (PCC). He received his MS in Marriage and Family Therapy from Iona College. Moshe is a clinical member of the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT), and a member of the International Coach Federation (ICF).

Moshe Ratson, MFT, PCC

Marriage & Family Therapist

Expert Answer

Anything where you can spend quality time together! You might go to a museum, take a stroll in the park, have brunch, or enjoy a spa day.