How to Get a Aries Female to Fall in Love with You

Last Updated: March 17, 2023 Approved

Aries refers to the zodiac sign for those whose birthdays fall between the 21st of March and the 22nd of April. Aries is the first sign in the zodiac, which is somewhat fitting for this dominating sign. But if you get used to her competitiveness, directness, and love for all things novel, you should have a great chance of winning her over. You too can get an Aries female to fall in love with you.

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Making the Right First Impression

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Don't be put off by her masculinity. Aries are usually thought of as a masculine sign, regardless of gender. So your woman in waiting is likely to have some masculine tendencies — directness, energy, a temper perhaps — even if her more feminine traits shine brighter in your eyes. The first step in getting an Aries to fall in love with you is to understand, accept, and finally cherish, these tendencies.
- Accept her way of doing things, especially in the beginning. Aries are known as very domineering, which can be tough if you're that way too. If she doesn't get to decide what she wants to do because your ideas are different from hers, the chemistry between you too is likely to suffer. Go with the flow.^{[1]
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- Let her be rowdy. Remember the tactful little lady that Audrey Hepburn always played in old movies? That is, most definitely, not your average Aries female. She may talk loud, swear, or act boisterously, but you have to be there, at her side, trying not to wilt under the pressure. A tough act, but a rewarding one.
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Engage her competitiveness. Like Aries the Greek god, Aries females are fiercely competitive. This competition plays itself out in the workplace (where she's usually angling to get a promotion, or at least win the support and admiration of her peers) as well as in her day-to-day life. So how do you begin to attract an Aries female? Stoke her competitiveness! Try the following:
- Play board-, card-, dice-, and sports games with her. Bring a set of cards when you go to a bar and challenge her to a game of Rummy; or bring eight dice along and challenge her to a game of Liar's Dice. Whatever you do, don't just let her win; she wants the satisfaction of knowing that she beat you when you were giving it your all.
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Get active. It's a must. Aries are extremely active signs, preferring the rough and tumble of physical adventure over the easy predictability of domesticity. In order to click with an Aries, you need to enjoy that side of yourself. Gone are the days of sitting in front of the TV on Fridays and Sundays; get ready to meet mother nature and sweat like a sow.
- Women usually like a great walk on the beach, but Aries might rather go kite-surfing instead. Or how about an impromptu swimming challenge past the breakers and back?
- Go on jogs and runs with her. Yoga and Pilates are rather tame, so try to pick something with a little more verve — something that really gets her heart pumping. Many Aries love rock-climbing.
- Play and watch sports with her. Women are thought to be disinterested in sports, but usually not Aries. She might not like the passivity of watching sports, but she's sure to embrace the opportunity to play them. Invite her along when you play pickup basketball with your buddies, or take her on a date to a football game.
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Indulge her impulsive side. Aries will often act before they think. That can sometimes lead to a little trouble, but Aries love the adventure of wriggling out of trouble, too. Don't be afraid to act on your impulsive side, or accept hers, when you're around her. Many Aries can't stand a partner who doesn't know how to fly by the seat of his pants from time to time.
- Take her on an unplanned date. Try showing up unannounced and whisk her off to a sculpting class, followed by a bar. If she, on the slim chance, has other plans or isn't ready to jump down the rabbit hole, shrug it off and try again another time. Don't moan or take it as a slight against your character. This will make her upset.
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Don't let too much of your shy side show, even if it's a big part of who you are. Aries find it hard to understand why other people are shy. They're extroverted, communicating their feelings easily and readily. If you're a shy one, don't put your shy side front and center during the first couple of dates. It's not that she can't love it; it's that she simply doesn't understand it. If you can show her in the beginning that your shyness doesn't define you, there's a chance that she can eventually learn to live with it, and love it.

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Getting Her to Fall

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Give her freedom and independence.^{[2]
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Expert Interview. 12 November 2019.} Aries need to feel that they are free to do anything they want, even if that's not strictly the case. Don't cling to her like a squid to its prey. Keep her in your sights and engaged, but never smothered. As soon as you complain that she hasn't made enough time with you or is hanging out with another guy too much, you've stifled her sense of freedom. Lover beware.
- Don't rush her into the relationship. If you two are doing things together but haven't begun calling yourselves a couple, don't sweat it. It'll take her time to come around, most likely. Even if she isn't calling you a boyfriend, you're benefiting from the arrangement. Don't forget that.
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Be prepared for a burning, but straightforward, sexuality. Aries women tend to know what they want. They don't debate the intricacies of sex like other signs do, even if they enjoy it very much. Aries women will be straightforward with you. They'll tell you want they want and expect to get it, unless you can give them a really good reason why it's a bad call.
- Aries can have an emotional selfishness which can sometimes detract from the spiritual nature of sex. If you're expecting sex to be a tantric fusing of two persons' souls, expect again. Aries probably has a different idea of what it is.
- On the other hand, many Aries have a romantic side to their personality, one that juts out from their other tendencies. If you learn to nurture this romantic side, which you will as time goes on, you can generally expect sex to look a lot different from how it was in the beginning.
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Never make things more complicated than they need to be. Aries is nothing if not uncomplicated. An Aries won't try to play mind games with you. An Aries won't expect you to know something without first telling you. An Aries won't belabor the meaning of love if it doesn't mean something practical to her at the end of the day. Learn to understand this part of her personality, and be the same way with her. Keep things simple without boring the heck out of her. Be direct and straightforward.^{[3]
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Take risks with her, but make her feel like she's there with you for each step of the way. Tap into that adventurous, inner-child spirit that she gets along with so well and don't be afraid to take risks. Consider:
- Traveling with her. Nothing says romance more to an Aries than the adventure of travel. Being in a novel place, with different sights, sounds, and customs, will help fuel the fire of her passion. Just make sure she's ready to take the jump with you.
- Start a whole new career path or direction in life. Although this is more for you than for her, it can feel like it affects her more than usual because she likes to experience adventure vicariously when she's not experiencing it firsthand. Just be sure the new change in direction is good for you, too.
- Be selectively liberal with the money that you spend. The key word here is "selectively." Aries are notoriously spendthrift, so you also want to balance out her freewheeling wildness with a little bit of tact. But you don't want to scare her away with any penny-pinching either, so learn to let loose on occasion. It'll help make her feel validated.
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Bounce back from crises and setbacks. Since Aries are often bold, bossy, and boisterous, you're inevitably going to get into arguments with her, or see things a different way.^{[4]
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Expert Interview. 8 December 2021.} Try to be calm and forgiving throughout the entire argument. If you reach an impasse, give her an out: Say something like "Let's talk about this when our tempers have cooled." Don't take any wrenching personal attacks to heart; she's impulsive and wants to win at any cost, even if it means winning the argument.
- What you'll have to deal with is teaching her how to compromise. She'll see compromise as "losing" and stay away from it at all costs. Your goal will be to explain to her that compromise isn't the same thing as losing — in fact, that it's essential to a relationship.
- Learn to communicate your needs in order to keep the relationship humming. Aries can be blissfully unaware of what your needs are if you don't explicitly let her know. She's extroverted and communicative, so she expects you to be the same.

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Determining Best Compatibilities

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Know that Aries women work exceptionally well with Leo men. Aries females work well with all fire signs, generally, but Leo (July 23 to August 24) excites her most. Both are domineering and alpha-types, but Leo's encouraging and generous nature really makes Aries hum. At times, though, Leo's dramatic nature can butt heads with Aries' more straightforward tendency.
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Know that Aries women work great with Sagittarius men. (Sometimes, too great.) It's not a match made in heaven, but it works better than most. Sagittarius (November 22 – December 21) and Aries share a fierce independent streak, feeding off of one another. But he's so independent that he might just out-independent her and walk out before the relationship starts. Still, they're compatible in bed and love each other's sense of humor.
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Understand that Aries women work well with Gemini men. A great relationship if neither tries to dominate the other, Gemini (May 20 – June 21) and Aries both share a restlessness and sense of adventure. He can be fickle, however, and Aries can cause him to retreat if she's just a little too straightforward.
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Know that Aries women work very well with Libra men. Because Libra (September 22 – October 23) actually wants to be dominated, Aries' bossiness actually works to her advantage here. He gives her the romance she wants, and she gives him the guidance he craves. Still, she can become frustrated by his indecision.
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Know that Aries women work well with Aquarius men. Aquarius (January 20 – February 18) enjoys Aries's impulsive nature. They aren't the same when it comes to sex, but are surprisingly compatible sexually. He might be too distant and introspected for her rambunctious and extroverted tendencies.

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Aries want to feel like they are being actively pursued, but it's important to avoid pursuing them too hard. A fire sign ruled by Mars, Aries likes to be boss. What you want to do is follow their lead while always stepping towards them. That's the magic key with an Aries.

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Give positive advices when needed, but don't expect her to always follow your advices.

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If you happen to make her angry (so help you) don't try to shout her down. The Aries sign is legendary for the passion and anger of those born under it. The temper will cool, spend some time apart.

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Female Aries want everything to sparkle from the beginning. If you don't pay full attention and treat them with respect they may get so angry that they never give you a second chance.^{[5]
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