How to Attract an Aquarius Man As a Scorpio Woman

Written by Angel Eyedealism | Edited by Caroline Heiderscheit

Last Updated: March 17, 2023 References

Scorpio, if you're crushing on a quirky and intelligent Aquarius guy, then you've chosen well! You may be wondering how exactly you can snag this air sign's heart. With your witty and mysterious nature, it's sure to be a snap. For all the very best tips on how you can attract your Aquarius crush, read on.

This article is based on an interview with our astrologer and performance artist, Angel Eyedealism. Check out the full interview here.

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Engage him in intellectual conversation.

Scorpio, if any sign can keep up with the clever Aquarius, it’s you. Ask him engaging questions, show interest in the rigorous topics he’s passionate about, and let all of your off-the-wall opinions fly.^{[1]
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Angel Eyedealism
Astrologer & Performance Artist
Expert Interview. 8 December 2021.} Astrologer Angel Eyedealism suggests that you "talk about ideas or concepts." So, for example, instead of launching into a deep conversation about love, "talk about the intellectual construct of love or the ivory tower of love to get [him] to relax a little bit." He's an air sign, so Aquarius feels that stimulating chats are the ultimate pastime, but he's not necessarily interest in full depth right off the bat.
- Ask him open-ended questions to kick off a discussion: “Do you think there’s any chance that we’re living in a simulation?”
- Aquarians are passionate about humanitarian issues, so show him you’re interested in them, too: “Did you read that new report about the climate crisis?”
- Men of this sign love a totally unique opinion, so share your wild theories: “I genuinely believe that K-12 school should be held outside. Here's why…”^{[2]
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Draw him into fun debates.

Aquarians love mental stimulation, and you’re up to the challenge.^{[3]
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Angel Eyedealism
Astrologer & Performance Artist
Expert Interview. 8 December 2021.} When Aquarius realizes that you aren’t afraid to challenge his opinions, he’ll be absolutely obsessed, Scorpio. During your next conversation, listen closely for a chance to kick off a friendly (but rigorous!) debate. If he says something you disagree with, let him know.
- Challenge his opinion: “Do you really think that The Neon Skyline is Andy Shauf’s best album? I feel like The Party is hard to beat.
- Ask him to expand on his logic: “What specifically do you think makes The Neon Skyline better? I might have to challenge you on this one…”
- Scorpio, you’re quick and observant. Use this to your advantage! Stay civil, listen close, and poke holes in his argument when you can. He’ll love it.

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Build a friendship first.

For Aquarius men, the best romances come from friendship. Scorpio, when you like someone, you’d probably rather jump right into an intense, emotional deep-dive. But to snag an Aquarius, move at his pace instead. Be a great friend to him first. Hang out platonically—whether that’s in groups or alone. Bond with him, integrate him into your circle, and wait for him to initiate romance.^{[4]
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Stina Garbis
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Expert Interview. 10 December 2021.} However, astrologer Angel Eyedealism cautions against going too far down this path: "remember with Aquarians it's so easy to fall into the friend zone." Instead of forgoing the romantic connection all together, she suggests that you go slow and "breach physical or intimate emotionality with an Aquarius carefully."
- When your Aquarius crush is hanging out with his pals, tag along. Get to know him better through the people he cares most about.
- Then, return the favor. Invite him to hang out with your circle of friends. If you’ve got a group camping trip coming up, for instance, save him a spot in the tent.
- When you're alone, focus on getting to know who he is as a person—not as a boyfriend. Ask him questions while you bowl, hike, or go sightseeing.

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Be mysterious.

Aquarians find aloof crushes fascinating. Scorpio, Pluto is one of your ruling planets. That makes you the definition of mysterious. Keep him on the line by playing hard to get. Avoid sharing too many personal details, but when you do, make sure you surprise him. If you can make an Aquarius man think, “Wow, this girl is so unique and interesting,” that’ll work in your favor.^{[5]
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- Evade personal questions when you’re getting to know each other: “I’m going to keep you in suspense for now. Maybe I’ll share that later on.”
- Turn the questioning back onto him: “This totally isn’t fair. Before I answer any more questions, you’re going to have to answer a few of mine.”
- Share personal details that’ll take him by surprise: “Because of my nose ring and tattoos, people are usually surprised to learn that I did the pageant circuit.”

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Plan surprises for him.

Aquarius men love a spontaneous, unpredictable crush.^{[6]
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Stina Garbis
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Expert Interview. 10 December 2021.} That's because he's ruled by Uranus, the planet of innovation. Improv may not always come naturally to you, Scorpio—because as a fixed sign, you like structure and plans. Don’t worry, to impress an Aquarius, you don’t need to be naturally wild and free. Instead, use your organizational skills to plan surprises for him. Surprise him with thoughtful, quirky presents, a road trip, or a zany activity.
- Pick out a gift you know he’ll love and give it to him when he least expects it. On a random Tuesday, show up to hang with an action figure he's wanted.
- Tell him to block out his upcoming Saturday. Plan a silly trip. Buy snacks, make a playlist, and find directions to the world’s largest strawberry, for example.

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Keep things lighthearted.

Aquarius men typically have a hard time talking about their emotions. Scorpio, you’re into big feelings, 24/7.^{[7]
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Angel Eyedealism
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Expert Interview. 8 December 2021.} With your Aquarius crush, connect through shared laughter and fun instead. You two can absolutely still share tender, intimate moments, but let him initiate them. Then, find ways to meaningfully bond without actually discussing your emotions.^{[8]
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- Connect with him by making jokes, having dance parties, and enjoying activities together. Sharing fun, light moments together will make him feel close to you.
- Instead of asking him about his deep feelings, ask him about something he’s passionate about: “Why do you think volunteering is so important to you?”

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Show him you're empathetic.

Aquarius men are humanitarians at heart—so he admires compassion. Scorpio, as a water sign, you’re extremely empathetic and insightful. Use this to your advantage! Find ways to use your natural emotional intelligence to help other people. Then, make sure your Aquarius crush is aware of your good deeds.^{[9]
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Angel Eyedealism
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Expert Interview. 23 December 2021.}
- When a friend is down, use empathy to find the perfect mood-booster: “Sarah loves words of affirmation. I’m bringing a letter by to cheer her up.”
- Or, use your insight to help your Aquarius crush: “Hey, I noticed you seemed stressed. Want to go for a long walk? I know those help you feel centered.”

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Be loyal.

In their heart of hearts, Aquarians want someone they can trust. That’s you to a T, Scorpio! You value loyalty just as much as he does, so this is a huge area for connection between you two.^{[10]
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Angel Eyedealism
Astrologer & Performance Artist
Expert Interview. 8 December 2021.} When he needs help, be there. When he gets into a heated debate, make sure you take his side. Prove to him that you’ve got his back, and that will go a long way.
- Be the person who shows up when he needs it. Say he runs out of gas on the way home. Make sure you’re the person who comes to his rescue.
- For Aquarius men, riveting debates are hard to resist. Next time, take his side in public: “I’m with Mario. That first point he made makes a ton of sense.”
- Aquarius men tend to keep feelings to themselves, so if he opens up, that’s big. Make sure he knows he can trust you with his emotions: “I won’t judge you. You can talk to me.”

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Prove that you're honest.

Aquarius and Scorpio might be the most candid signs in the zodiac. Both of you value telling it like it is—so, use that to your advantage. Make sure your Aquarius crush knows that you’d never lie just to spare his feelings. Even when it’s tough, tell him what you really think. Luckily, Scorpio, honesty comes easily to you.
- If he needs advice, be real with him: “I’m not going to lie, Danny. I think you need to talk to your roommate. I know that’s not what you want to hear, but…”
- If he wants your opinion on something, be honest—even when it’s hard: “You know I think you’re an amazing songwriter. I liked your last piece a bit better.
- Like you, Aquarius is a natural sleuth. If you keep a secret, he’s likely to uncover them eventually. So to gain his trust, be upfront and open.

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Do your own thing.

Aquarians are afraid of losing freedom in codependent relationships. So he’s definitely looking for a crush who knows how to focus on himself. Scorpio, this will be a piece of cake for you. Show him that you have your own passions, goals, and projects. When the two of you spend time apart, make sure he knows that you’re not just waiting by the phone.
- Send texts that highlight the fun you have with your other close relationships: “Wow, I had SUCH a fun day! Rachel and I went caving. 🤠”
- When you can’t hang out, explain that you’re busy working towards a goal: “Aw, man! Can’t Friday. I’m spending the night cranking out a scene in my screenplay.”
- Fill him in on all of your amazing hobbies: “I love working with my hands. I’ve been really into pottery. I spend at least a couple hours a week at the wheel.”

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Keep jealousy on the DL.

A jealous crush could make an Aquarius man feel trapped. This might cause him to bolt. Scorpio, you may feel you struggle a bit with jealousy, but don’t stress. Feelings of jealousy are normal, and to keep him on the hook, simply redirect your feelings into something else. When you’re feeling the effects of the green monster, vent to your friends, pick up a creative hobby, or walk away from the conversation.^{[11]
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- Reach out to that friend who’s an amazing listener. Offer to buy them a cup of joe in exchange for a little vent sesh.
- Channel your energy into something creative or active. Anything from a run to a little guitar practice can help shake off negative feelings.
- Come up with an excuse to walk away if you start to feel jealous: “Hey you know what, I’m getting a little headache. I’m going to lie down for a bit.”

Expert Q&A

Question

How do you make an Aquarius feel special?

Angel Eyedealism
Astrologer & Performance Artist
Angel Eyedealism is an Astrologer and Performance Artist based in the Lower East Side of Manhattan. With nearly three decades of astrology experience, Angel specializes in relocation astrology and astrocartography. Eyedealism has been featured in numerous media outlets such as Vogue, Cosmopolitan, The Atlantic, The Washington Post, Refinery29, NBC, MTV, Showtime, and Bravo. Angel aims to help others through a straightforward, kind, and humorous astrological lens, utilizing her entertainment and singing skills for performance art astrology readings.

Angel Eyedealism

Astrologer & Performance Artist

Expert Answer

Engage with them on a thoughtful and intellectual level first! Aquarians really love their space, and appreciate intellectual discussions more than personal questions (especially if you're just getting to know each other).