The Ultimate Guide to Twin Flame Relationship Stages

Everything you need to know about the ups and downs of twin flame connections

Co-authored by Savannah Vold

Last Updated: March 20, 2023 References

Sparks fly when you’ve found your twin flame, but how long do the fireworks go off before the spark fizzles out? If you’ve met your twin flame and have been wondering what the stages of your relationship might look like, you’ve come to the right place. In this article, we’ll walk you through all 8 twin flame relationship stages and provide valuable information on what you can expect from your twin flame to assess your relationship confidently.

Things You Should Know

Twin flames are two halves of the same soul. They work to turn their twin into the best version of themselves they can be but often have complicated relationships.
Early stages of a twin flame relationship include feeling an instant, almost other-worldly connection to your twin flame as you get along so well.
In the middle stages of their relationship, twin flames can encounter challenges as their soul connection may be too intense and result in separation.
Regardless of how long you and your twin flame have been apart, twin flames are always believed to reunite, even in another lifetime.

1

The Yearning

You may have a deep yearning to meet your twin flame. You may develop the intense desire to find your other half at the beginning of a twin flame relationship. Twin flames are like magnets being pulled together, so it's likely that your twin flame will feel compelled to find you, too. You might even have consistent dreams of a stranger you feel oddly connected to—twin flames will always find a way to contact each other, even through the astral realm!^{[1]
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- Remember, your twin flame doesn’t have to be romantic! Unlike a soul mate, a twin flame can be romantic or platonic—the key is immediately feeling a deep connection to them.
- If you’ve been seeing numbers like 1010 or 111, these are angel numbers that suggest your twin flame may be on their way.
- Be open to meeting new people by getting out on the town. Have fun with your loved ones in social settings like parties or events—you never know what magnetic stranger you might encounter.

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The Awakening: Meeting Your Twin Flame

You may bump into your twin flame by chance or coincidence. You’re out and about, and suddenly, just like magic, they’ve appeared! You’ll likely feel instantly attracted to this person or like you’ve known them forever, even before having the chance to speak to them. Twin flames are believed to be two halves of the same soul, so it’s no wonder why you’d be able to recognize each other in indescribable, spiritual ways.^{[2]
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- Seeing your twin flame for the first time may cause intense déjà vu. Because twin flame connections are thought to be so deep, you may feel as though you remember them from a past life and have met them many times before—talk about fate!

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The Connection: Developing a Close Relationship

You might share a deep connection right away. Getting to know your twin flame is believed to be as easy as getting to know yourself! You’ll likely share many personality traits and interests, making your romantic or platonic relationship feel effortless and deeply comforting, just like coming home to your safe space.^{[3]
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- A good way to tell if the person you’ve met is your twin flame is to ask yourself how you feel when you’re around them. They may be your twin flame if you feel calm and safe, but they’re likely not if you feel anxious and uncomfortable together.

4

The Honeymoon Stage

Things may feel like they’re going perfectly. At this stage, your relationship with your twin flame might feel like the best you’ve ever been in! Twin flames actively work to help their other half develop into the best version of themselves, so you’ll likely be overjoyed with the progress you’re making in your relationship with yourself and them. Nothing feels quite as good as a relationship that lifts you up and supports you.^{[4]
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- Your twin flame likely won’t be afraid to address areas of you and your life needing improvement. Because you’re so in tune with each other, they should know how to deliver constructive criticism in a way that you can accept and learn from—here’s to the best version of you!

5

The Conflict, or The Test

You might start experiencing some challenges and conflict. Because you and your twin flame are so similar (two halves of the same soul), you may start to recognize your relationship becoming a bit too intense. Whether romantic or platonic, you or your twin flame could become scared or intimidated by the amount of self-reflection and personal growth required from a twin flame relationship and want to break things off.^{[5]
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- Don’t feel discouraged! The challenges you and your twin flame may face in this stage will only make your relationship stronger should you choose to push through—focus on your communication and make an effort to listen to one another.

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The Surrender or Dissaloution

You may be met with a problem that makes you drift apart. When twin flames meet, the fire burns hot—sometimes too hot. Because your twin flame is meant to elevate you spiritually and emotionally, your journey together may become difficult, often resulting in intense fallouts and break-ups. During this stage, it’s important to take time for yourself and respect your and your twin flame’s boundaries. Remember, good things take effort and patience—Rome wasn’t built in a day!^{[6]
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- Ever heard of right place, wrong time? You and your twin flame might fall out because of timing issues like them not being emotionally prepared to better themselves for a brighter future together, but not to worry—they’ll find their way back to you.

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The “Runner” and the “Chaser”

You might consider whether your relationship is worth going back to. Twin flame relationships often encounter a period of running and chasing before their inevitable reunion. The runner can be described as the twin flame who isn’t ready for such a powerful soul relationship and is running from themselves. In contrast, the chaser wants their twin flame back, yet allows them the space they need to become fully prepared for their twin flame relationship.^{[7]
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- Think about what you’ve learned from your relationship so far. If you feel complete without them and are ready to move on to the next chapter of your life, your twin flame relationship may be at its end, but if you feel you need them, you may want to try to reconnect.
- The length of your twin flame relationship is unique to you and your partner. That said, the idea is that you’ll eventually come back to each other no matter how long you’ve been apart, even if it’s in another lifetime!^{[8]
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The Soul Reunion: Coming Home

You and your twin flame may reunite. After a period of separation, you and your twin flame could find your way back to each other—hurray! Time spent apart can be critical in fortifying your twin flame relationship, as you and your partner may have needed the opportunity to recognize your deep connection to one another through some of the following signs of a twin flame reunion:^{[9]
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- Feeling their presence near you even though they aren’t.
- Dreaming of them often.
- Feeling lost without them.
- Recognizing the problems in your relationship and wanting to solve them.