This article was co-authored by Liana Georgoulis, PsyD and by wikiHow staff writer, Eric McClure. Dr. Liana Georgoulis is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist with over 10 years of experience, and is now the Clinical Director at Coast Psychological Services in Los Angeles, California. She received her Doctor of Psychology from Pepperdine University in 2009. Her practice provides cognitive behavioral therapy and other evidence-based therapies for adolescents, adults, and couples.
There are 16 references cited in this article, which can be found at the bottom of the page.
This article has been viewed 102,884 times.
If anyone has ever told you to “open up more” or “show some emotion,” you may be wondering what they really meant. It’s easy for us to get caught up in our own little worlds and hide what we’re feeling from other people. Sometimes, we don’t even realize we’re being guarded or hiding our feelings. But even if it isn’t intentional, bottling up can make it hard to connect with people, and it can lead to problems in the long run if we struggle to share or show how we’re feeling. If you can open up more to others, you’ll see how rewarding and invigorating it is to connect on a deeper level!
Steps
Expert Q&A
Did you know you can get expert answers for this article?
Unlock expert answers by supporting wikiHow
-
QuestionHow can I express my emotions better?Liana Georgoulis, PsyDDr. Liana Georgoulis is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist with over 10 years of experience, and is now the Clinical Director at Coast Psychological Services in Los Angeles, California. She received her Doctor of Psychology from Pepperdine University in 2009. Her practice provides cognitive behavioral therapy and other evidence-based therapies for adolescents, adults, and couples.
Licensed Psychologist -
QuestionCan a therapist help with emotions?Liana Georgoulis, PsyDDr. Liana Georgoulis is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist with over 10 years of experience, and is now the Clinical Director at Coast Psychological Services in Los Angeles, California. She received her Doctor of Psychology from Pepperdine University in 2009. Her practice provides cognitive behavioral therapy and other evidence-based therapies for adolescents, adults, and couples.
Licensed Psychologist -
QuestionIs non-verbal communication as important as verbal communication?Liana Georgoulis, PsyDDr. Liana Georgoulis is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist with over 10 years of experience, and is now the Clinical Director at Coast Psychological Services in Los Angeles, California. She received her Doctor of Psychology from Pepperdine University in 2009. Her practice provides cognitive behavioral therapy and other evidence-based therapies for adolescents, adults, and couples.
Licensed Psychologist
References
- ↑ https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2015/11/how-to-get-better-at-expressing-emotions/416493/
- ↑ https://worklife.msu.edu/news/lets-name-it-what-you-may-be-feeling-grief
- ↑ https://www.urmc.rochester.edu/encyclopedia/content.aspx?ContentID=4552&ContentTypeID=1
- ↑ https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/why-do-we-use-facial-expressions/
- ↑ Dan Klein. Storytelling Teacher. Expert Interview. 22 March 2019.
- ↑ https://www.forbes.com/sites/nickmorgan/2011/09/08/body-language-quick-takes-how-to-spot-openness/#65eabdb85b14
- ↑ https://www.bbc.co.uk/bitesize/guides/z3c2yrd/revision/2
- ↑ Liana Georgoulis, PsyD. Licensed Psychologist. Expert Interview. 6 September 2018.
- ↑ https://health4u.msu.edu/articles/2017-how-was-your-day
- ↑ https://health4u.msu.edu/articles/2017-how-was-your-day
- ↑ https://www.forbes.com/sites/forbescoachescouncil/2018/03/08/the-benefits-of-expressing-your-emotions/#95c99df4443d
- ↑ https://www.nbcnews.com/better/lifestyle/why-compliments-make-us-feel-so-good-how-get-better-ncna1062546
- ↑ https://delawaretoday.com/life-style/health/how-constructively-confronting-our-emotions-can-make-us-happier/
- ↑ https://www.takingcharge.csh.umn.edu/work-communication-healthy-relationships
- ↑ https://medium.com/swlh/emotional-availability-in-relationships-and-why-its-crucial-for-true-closeness-14d585076f1
- ↑ Liana Georgoulis, PsyD. Licensed Psychologist. Expert Interview. 6 September 2018.
- ↑ https://www.psychiatry.org/patients-families/psychotherapy
- ↑ https://www.apa.org/ptsd-guideline/patients-and-families/cognitive-behavioral
About This Article
If you have difficulties showing your emotions, try to practice your emotions around friends you trust so you can let down your guard and see how it feels. For instance, play with emotional actions like facial expressions and hand gestures, such as punching in the air with your fist when you’re successful or doing a pouty frown when something disappoints you. As you feel more comfortable with these gestures, go on to try crying when you feel sad, even if you have to fake it at first so you can learn what it feels like. And as contradictory as it might seem, stay aware that there are still going to be times when it’s best to not show emotions, like during a work meeting so you’ll also need to judge carefully when it’s okay to show emotion. Keep reading for more advice from our Social Worker co-author, including how to acknowledge your emotions.